This blog post pulls quotes from the Christians on SALT Social in 2025 about the unique challenges faced by singles.

The Stats

It doesn’t take a fancy chart to know that people are staying single longer.  Marriage rates are declining and singleness is increasing, with people delaying marriage more and more each year.  Whether it’s because we don’t want to repeat the rampant divorce of previous generations, or because we are focusing on our career, or if it’s just a cultural thing – people are staying single longer.

This reality can be solace for some – a lot of other people are single, too, so maybe there’s nothing wrong with me – but it can also be frustrating for people who want to find a partner but can’t seem to find many who feel the same.  And for Christians – who believe that you should wait for marriage to have sex and shouldn’t date until you’re ready to marry – this long wait (well into peoples’ 30s these days!) can bring its own challenges.

We asked our SOCIAL community what they thought was the most difficult thing about being single.  Although not everyone shared the frustration of singleness, many people seemed to have similar gripes with their single life.  Our hope and prayer at SALT is that we can rectify this agony and help people find the person they want to marry and start a life together.  But we also understand – it’s not always that easy.

Here’s what our SOCIAL users are telling us are the biggest challenges about being single:

Traveling:

“I travel by myself, can enjoy a day out, etc. but there’s something about having two people that really makes it more fulfilling…”

-Kristina

“Traveling is definitely hard. As much as I love solo holidays, being alone can limit what you can do. I’m heading to London next week and there are some places I’d feel awkward going on my own.”

-Dave

Eating out:

“Traveling and eating out. I still travel by myself because I like traveling too much 😜 but I still can’t eat in restaurants by myself, I find it too depressing.”

-Cayene

“I feel so uncomfortable doing stuff like going out for coffee or food by myself!”

-Luna

Church:

“I’m in my forties and go to a large church.  Do I sit with people my age who are talking about kids and school, or do I sit with the 20-30 year olds I can’t relate to?”

-Andy

“Going to church.. I long to be able to pray and receive the Eucharist alongside the person God has for me!”

-Josh

Weddings:

“Going to a wedding and having to sit on a table with couples is super depressing.”

-Louis

“Going to weddings! I recently went to one and when they invited people to dance, I was the only one left on my table!”

-Sophie

Companionship:

“I want to share highs and lows with someone who prioritizes me (and vice versa). Someone to brainstorm a problem’s solution with, share an emotional load, care for me when I’m unwell, etc. It’s also the deep desire for someone to truly and deeply witness my life and know me.”

-Abigail

“Loneliness. Having to go to church alone, have dinner alone, go to the supermarket alone and other routines.”

-Leon

Practical things:

“I know it’s shallow but having to pay for everything myself is tough. I’m a single mom and sometimes it would be nice to have a second income so it isn’t a struggle every month. Just to be able to afford to live and every once in a while take a nice vacation, is that so much to ask?”

-Jana

“Groceries and cooking are up there for sure! I can’t buy large packs of anything, fruits and veggies go bad if I’m not on top of them, if I do batch cooking I get tired of eating the same foods… And all the cleaning that comes after 😂.”

-Cesar

“I hate having a buy-one-get-one voucher for coffee and other kinds of food that are on BOGO. 😅 I can only enjoy and finish one!”

-Jen

“Someone to scratch the very middle of my back. Although I find tools for the job, it’s just not the same as having a personal back scratcher.”

-Bianca

Loving Singleness

But not everyone feels this way.  Some of our users are happy single!  I wonder if this is a good thing or bad thing for a dating app…

“My problem is – I’m totally happy in my own skin and living the single life!  It’s only really when I’m doing things like not being able to discuss tough personal decisions with someone, doing things like playing tennis, DIY stuff… Otherwise life is bliss with Jesus.”

-Anita

“There’s nothing wrong with being single at all! I’ve traveled abroad by myself, been to restaurants by myself…. all sorts.”

-Caroline

“I love being single. One of the reasons why I still am!”

-Judah

SALT Social

Conversations like these can really help us feel connected in an increasingly solitary world.  Come connect with a vibrant community of single Christians on SOCIAL – a community feed built right into the SALT app!  

SOCIAL is the go-to space for users to connect on a fun, engaging platform that’s about sharing life together.  Ask for relationship advice, share a worship song, or post a photo of your favourite coffee spot.  And who knows, you might meet someone amazing along the way!

Join in the conversation today on SOCIAL! You’ll need to download the SALT app to not miss out.