I do prefer this as it gives me peace of mind knowing that the person on the other end matches their profile pic.

Video call before a date? 🤔
Do you prefer to video call before meeting in person? If so, what are you hoping to find out? For those who prefer not to video call, what are your reasons?
Yes video call is the second thing for me after a long chat of trying to understand you a little bit
Video call first.
yes video calls first too many fakes and ai and robots serious people will video chat
I pefer to meet in person. I find video calls don't energise me like in-person does. I think I feel that more post-COVID
Video calls are better, first.
Video call is perfect
I prefer video call first
For those who prefer not to video call, common reasons include valuing privacy, feeling camera-shy, wanting to keep initial interactions low-pressure, or simply preferring to experience the connection firsthand without preconceived impressions .Overall a video call can be a useful step if both people agree, but it’s not mandatory. The key is open communication about preferences to ensure both parties feel comfortable and respected.
Prefiero hablar primero y luego una videollamada
I prefer to video call first
@Luisa hey Luísa, yeah that true. Do you live in UK 🇬🇧, if I can ask?
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Yes, especially if living more than one hour of travel away from each other.
I agree with everyone who thinks this way.
Ideally I prefer meeting in person, but because of where I am and my schedule it can be challenging to meet up. So for me I’d suggest a call if schedules aren’t aligning, if he or I would have to travel over an hour, or if I’m a bit unsure and want to gauge more of him first.
Yes Amanda! Thinking about schedules in life is just so part of managing time energy ...and I think feelings and emotion and thoughts as well. Thank you for your comment love it.
Chat first then will decide the vc.
In my experience a video or just a phone call eases the 'first time meeting' nerves.
I agree :)
@j CCF 🥰
It’s a must imo. It’s easy, it’s quick and it can save money and time, due to cat fishing, and sadly people who don’t really know they’re cat fishing
@Ryan Totally agree
Video calls are a must have. People use filters and catfish with their photos. Also there are scammers. Video calls mitigate those things
In my opinion, it’s not really necessary if you live in the same city. If you’ve already exchanged voice messages and ensured that you meet at a public place, there’s no significant risk involved. However, for long-distance relationships, it’s definitely a must.
@Georg I agree. A couple conversations leading up 2 a face 2 face encounter is good...but if I know I cant see u for a weeks or even months a video every now and again is nice.
@Della indeed you are right. I had the same experience.
It helps reducing the nerves before the first date
And a big YES. It does help.
I mean video calls could be to sus out if they are true about there beliefs and also show if your going to click banter wise also
Hi how are you
@Grace hi
I don't mind. I think it depends on mutual comfort. It can also be a great ice breaker just before meeting in person, or if scheduling doesn't align then there's a great opportunity to still share time and space...
@Carter 120% on point 😍
Hello how are you I'm new here just find a true friend
To prove the person is real
Exactly
Video calls are good
strange, never done a videocall before meets, i did just a phone call
I do prefer a video call before meeting!
@Laura hello
I prefer video calls to get to know the person before meeting with the person
For security purpose, because meeting someone you haven’t met yet in person is not that easy. So I prefer video call first, get to know each other, showing that you’re genuine.
@Jovie Anne hi
I love to video call as this make it easier for me know what more about the person, start a good conversation and it alot easier when you both meet dinally
I definitely feel it am a better conversationalist in person so probably in real life but I have no real preference im not turned away by this
Call me old fashioned but after exchanging a few messages, I prefer to meet in person. A video call just isn't the same. There's a lot more you pick up on in person.
I agree! It's a different energy in person
I expect to find out what they are doing for a living, if they are happy with their life and what is the thing that gets them up in the morning and excites them .
I’m thinking of video chatting before dates as a new practice, haven’t experienced catfishing before but sometimes the vibe in-person doesn’t match and it could save both parties time and energy
Who's gonna be my Wife
Hello please add me
So I know I come from a pretty great place in this world and probably have it pretty easy when it comes to meeting people, but I have to ask what is this “cat fishing “ everyone’s talking about? I’m old school and married my first GF 24 years ago (we started dating) so this dating plus online dating is so foreign to me 🫣
@Daryl its basically when someone pretends to be someone else (even different age etc) and hides behind staying online
@Amanda thanks. Yeah that would be annoying
I do find that ladies seem to lie about their age, do guys as well? I know guys lie about their height 🧐
Always! Im too busy to have a catfishes experience
Prefer the video call too,I learned ,was scammed in the past,I may not be agreeable to meet someone until I am really sure they are genuine.
Video call 100% necessary to avoid catfishes. Our moderation team can only catch so many!
I don't like to live in fear or paranoia, so I prefer to save the excitement of chatting in person...to being in person!
@Colette I just call it wisdom but to each their own!
Video call for sure if you feel you have a connection with someone once chatting. Some people are not as serious or truthful about who they are or when it comes to meeting in real life so I believe a video call is part of a smart screening process for sure before committing to in person meet.
I definitely prefer a video call before meeting in person, then you’re able to get a sense if you get on and feel safe with them. Especially living with health conditions, it’s a lower stakes date and less energy than in person. Plus it builds your confidence getting to talk to new people.
I love the answer which is Very Good. I suggest text with the person to get to know the person before video call over time to get to know the person then coordinate to meet in person.
Something else I've thought of in addition to what I wrote earlier, that if a person you're speaking to is reluctant to do a video call, or tries to dodge the topic, that's a red flag for me. What are they hiding? I actually had this happen once: we parted ways not long after I tried to get to the bottom of why he wouldn't do a video call with me. He also mentioned meeting in person, but I wasn't comfortable with that before a call - he refused still. Know and protect your own boundaries ❤️
I had a bad experience in the past. I got scammed. So a video call is important for me.
I prefer a video call first. You get to see their facial expressions and a little bit of body language with the conversation. You both tend to be a bit more relaxed too, since you’re sitting at home in familiar surroundings. It’s a safer way to connect the first couple of times too. Also, most 1st video calls are short, around 15 to 30 mins. So if you find that person that you end up talking 3-4 hours with first time, that can be really special. May the Lord bless your journey on SALT.
I totally agree. I don’t meet anyone without doing a video call
I get the reasoning for it and truth be told just as nervous as the girl that I’m meeting, we’re all humans and the devil put doubts in our minds. I grew up before all of that plus I do warn people I’m on the ADHD spectrum, but more to the higher functioning. You don’t see it unless you’re around me a lot or on a phone call with me as I get very distracted. That’s a long way of saying I want to meet in person, there’s so many things you see, hear and learn about a person that a phone call can’t
I also don’t want the girl to get “dolled up” either. 90% of the time if we date, I’m going to see the real you so that’s what I want to see and i do the same. As Christians we pray for discernment so let’s get to know the real each other before we jump in and can’t undo the hurts we may cause because of that. Every lady I talk to i tell them I pray that they fine a man not a boy, that treats them like how God wants from us too.
@Daryl Not to brag, but I’d look really good next to you. I’d love to hear your voice when you have a moment, please. PS ADHD brain & the way you love isn't broken-it's just built in a language most people were never taught to understand but I honestly do (I taught kids with ADHD, worked with a few adults & my ex has ADHD)
@Daryl You’re looking at this ADHD thing all wrong. Those of us God blessed with ADHD brains, are not getting distracted. We’re just multitasking at high speed. It’s like having super powers. We just can never remember where we left our super capes. 🤣 May the Lord bless you in your journey here on SALT my ADHD brother in Christ. Life with ADHD is always an adventure. Take it from a homeschool, ADHD single mom/artist trying to run her own business. It is always an adventure.
@Jen oh I do get that, but to others we look distracted or not engaged in the conversation. when dating, people can take that the wrong way until they get to know you.
@Daryl Simple truths: “Christ accepts you & given you a super charged beautiful brain & a huge beautiful heart. Although ADHD sometimes keeps you from staying on track according to time line, you're right on time on God's time line. Believers who have ADHD are in no way lesser. All who are in Christ, regardless of background or cultural distinction, are children of God just He blessed us with the chance of having someone like U in our lives with so much more to offer
Yes Jen! In Jesus we are healthy. No ADHD. Just super multitasking 😂😂😂
Yes - preferred. A video confirms what she looks like and how she sounds
I find phone or video calls ease the nerves from the first in person meeting. So yeah I prefer to do so even it's brief
I'd prefer to video call first. A way of making sure they are who the profile says they are, and how well they can have a proper conversation with you.
Depends on distance, but since most of my matches are far out video chats are more practical to start.
Her looks and fysiek, without filters. And ability to have a conversation. Before wasting time.