Too much pressure on Christian guys?

Healthy masculine man pursues, it is how God made them. Pressure is a fuel for purpose with men. Its the bees who goes to the flowers, the sperms who swims to the egg. Its the egg who chooses healthy sperm & rejects unhealthy sperm. A beautiful polarity of Masculine & Feminine. Masculine gives, feminine receives sameway goes in consummate. Divine masculine men Protects, Leads & Provides for the women no excuses. Feminine nurtures, submits, multiply. Its their different role & Divine calling.

Im old fashioned, i dont expect a guy to pay on a first date. Id offer to split it. Unless he insisted. Im an old romantic. But you dont see it these days. Guys holding doors, pulling out your chair ect....

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That isn't pressure

it does get a bit depressing sending intro after intro getting no response would be nice to hear back from someone hopefully i get to delete this app in 2026

Yeah it's due 2 feminism that screwed everything. In Spain u can not be a man, they do not let you, we have less rights. If they like u it's a complkment otherwise it's "harassment". Plus it's full of spoiled impure girls

Diamonds are made under pressure 💎

Related to the taking a women out on a date. Truth is she has probably gine out a couple of times before and then things went side ways. If you are intentional about someone then do something different. It doesnt have to be a restaurant. Can be a picnic. A walk and a coffee. Women just want to see that you actually thought about this and planned it and put effort in it. Women although complicated are simple. We just want to feel valued and special . Doesnt have to be fancy.

Too much pressure? Its called being a MAN. But "most" men nowadays doesnt want to act like a masculine man anymore as they want to be pursued, 50/50 on dates, dont want to lead and initiate. They basically wants to be the price. Not biblical anymore 🤷‍♀️ Its sad.

Nah this isn't pressure, this is the right way to go about it. It shows emphasis on biblical values and leading as God created man to do.

I don’t feel like there is pressure. It’s more a patience and discernment process in my opinion, to find a person with similar vision. Then unselfish love will handle the rest. It saddens me that some people give up their search prematurely.

He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the Lord. Proverbs 18:22

My view is that pursuit, for want of a better word, is far more fraught than it once was. The sad fact is that a number of high profile men have behaved in such an appalling way so as to cast a negative perception on male-female pursuit. Personally, unless I have a pretty firm indication that a lady I'm interested in reciprocates that interest, I will typically remain aloof. As a divorced dad, the risk of my pursuit being misinterpreted and the ensuing hoo haa is simply too great.

There are plenty of expectations for men and a lot of things you have to take into consideration. But I personally feel no pressure. If I like a woman to some extent I will let her know. And her reaction is not in my control so also reason to worry about it. Ive had plenty of rejections so at some point you stop caring when they do

It’s true that for men in the church there are a lot of expectations and pressure, and at the same time not enough guidance from men who are already established in marriage. Stay strong brothers !

One of the main reasons I’m on this app is because I would really struggle to ‘approach’ women in person, say at church. I definitely would not be able to initiate anything in person, unless I got to know someone really well first beforehand. I think it would be great if I could meet a woman in person, or even on here, who reaches out to me first, that would show me that they are very proactive, sociable and assertive, which I think is very valuable :)

It’s not necessarily pressure, and paying for a date is reasonable (though it shouldn’t have to be expensive), but what there seems to be is a lack of grace and giving guys a chance. In church settings, guys have a lot to lose if rejected - in some cases getting badmouthed/gossiped about, even if everything is above board. Ideally, a relationship grows out of friendship and you ask someone out on a date because you’ve got some idea of who they are and an incline of mutual attraction.

If they wanted to, they would. If they don't, somene else will 🤷‍♀️

No, I don't feel pressure. I'm happy to pay but equally I don't believe in the notion that it HAS to be the man to initiate and pursue. After all, Ruth initiated/pursed Boaz. Plus, the word "pursue" has connotations of one party playing hard-to-get or "ooo chase me" or guys "playing it cool". This is immature. We're all grown adults, we shouldn't be playing games.

All I can say is this, what my grandparents and before that time had, and what we have now regarding finding someone and getting married are vastly different. The expectations of traditions are still expected but overwhelming only for males (especially in Western Countries)

I feel the preasure is for everyone. It's a tough but wonderful game. God is good. We experience Him in this too as He is the relation-oriented God :D