I just received my first rejection on the Salt app, and honestly, I'm calling it the best rejection ever. We had a nearly two-hour conversation, talking about deep thingsâspecifically the Bible and Jesus. Even in the rejection, she offered me an opportunity for growth and self-improvement, which is a stark contrast to my experiences on POF or Match. I'm actually smiling! Salt, whatever you're doing, keep it up;
Not sure if Iâm just that simple, but overtime Iâve come to learn that if they donât.. they donât. And thatâs fine. My identity isnât in another personâs approval. We canât change people or how they feel, but what we can do is ground ourselves in our identity in Christ, turn & trust in His promises that He has a good plan for us. Even when we donât understand or see it yet, even when it doesnât go as we hope. Donât lose heart. Chin up and keep going đđ¤
I depends on the level of commitment required in that relationship. For friendship, it might be that the season of the friendship is over and God is taking you and the person to a different part, it can also be the same for a relationship. So if itâs so then you walk away but not in anger, peacefully but if it has happened in every relationship you engage in then it could a pattern. You must discern and deal with it When it comes to marriage itâs a covenant, itâs nt place to look away. You pray
Devil fight marriages, so recognise that and deal with it in prayer.
Hello Isabel
I've been on both sides & understand how much it hurts. But whenever I rejected a guy friend & he continued pushing I always just got more frustrated with him that he didn't see me as a human being / real friend & only as a potential mate. It would make me feel like an object. When I've loved some1 & they didn't rly love me back it always wasted both of our time bc their feelings didn't grow+ I'd be even more heartbroken with more time elapsed.
This is why I say men and women cannot be friends most of the time
Relatively Unpopular Opinion- 1) People change over time- both you and them 2) How many times did Israel reject God, yet God didnât give up? 3) People make mistakes, even when rejecting (see #2) 4) Rejection is the baseline (no one accepted you before you met) 5) People need mercy. What better way to woo? 6) Jesus said âlove your enemiesâ. That is a command to woo the one that rejected you. 7) Situations vary, of course. Sometimes you walk away, sometimes you woo. 8) Peace is good for everyone.
@Jeremiah We can be won over by showing yourself to be safe â respecting, not pushing past our decisions (just be discerning in how/if you keep trying)
@Keziah âFor the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.â ââ1 Cor. 7:4 Itâs not the push that is oppressive, but the pretending that one has authority over oneâs own body. If a husband never pushed, then his wife would never grow. The trouble is: the gov, the culture, & most churches regard marriage as dust, not holding wrongful divorcers accountable.
@Keziah Proper gentleness requires the leader, after each step, to let the receiver have the best opportunity to push back. Secret: if the hearer fails in that try, that one grows up to be a mother. Those are the rules for any talk, & the only way for growing to happen. Of course, John 15:2 and Matthew 10:14 have their proper places, too. Sadly, with gov, culture, and most churches, as they are, there is a drought of John 15:2 disciplinarians.
@Jeremiah This question isnât about spouses - itâs about rejection, unreciprocated interest. A man has no authority over the body of a woman heâs interested in or pursuing. Also, women connected to the vine grow with or without a man pushing them. Yes iron sharpens iron, especially in marriage, but leading by example is important too
@Keziah I did not come here for that. If you want to honor God, then need to hate feminism. In gentleness, I just want to give you good spiritual food. 1 Cor 7:4 has utility for understanding proper gentleness in *verbally* wooing a woman for marriage. Jesus, the vine, is a man, and men and women alike are taught (pushed) by that man.
@Keziah I am your humble servant. âşď¸ God sets the true boundaries, and each person has their own personal boundaries which may or may not have harmony with God. John 2:13-17, Matthew 23, and Acts 9:1-8 all show Christ Jesus the man crossing our unhealthy boundaries without our consent. Jesus is and always was sinless, so crossing some boundaries which are held in ignorance is actually necessary to grow the body of Christ.
@Jeremiah @Jeremiah Iâm not saying that speaking truth to someone is wrong. Iâm saying you donât have access to a womanâs body while youâre pursuing her. And that if you act like you do, she is unlikely to want to be around you. You said someone who rejects you is your enemy. An enemy is someone who doesnât want good things for you, not someone who wants something different than you.
@Jeremiah Not sure how you interpreted Paulâs words to a church as an example of expressing interest in a lady⌠Also Matt 23 has Jesus saying He wanted to gather Israel, yet they didnât want that so it hadnât happened - not sure why you thought it helped your point. Not saying they shouldnât want Him to, but just that He said they wouldnât see Him again until they expressed wanting Him
@Keziah The very sharp rebukes in Matthew 23:1-36 are what I was referring to, rather than the words of verses 37-39. đ (God did promise thorns and thistles, afterall).
@Keziah 1 Corinthians 7:4 can translate into other situations besides procreation. Life gaurds have authority over the bodies of drowning victims to save them, and words can cause mental pain, and teachers have authority over their students minds (bodies) to cause that pain, without which no student would ever grow. So too, students have authority over their teacherâs minds to cause them mental pain, without which no student, again, would ever grow.
@Keziah Teaching hurts and learning hurts. The teacher has authority to cause the leaning pain, and the student has authority to cause the teaching pain. Without those authorites over each other, no student could learn, nor could any teacher teach.
@Keziah That teaching authority over the student, and that learning authority over the teacher are what 1 Corinthians 7:4 is describing through marital, procreative activities.
@Keziah When a man is wooing a woman, he is teaching her who he is. So, he has authority to cause that learning pain, and the woman he is wooing has authority to cause that teaching pain.
@Keziah John 2:13-17, Matthew 23:1-36, and Acts 9:1-8 are all examples of Christ causing his students the learning pain. Jesuses crucifixion is an example of him letting his wife cause him the teaching pain, and after that he resurrected and she got the Holy Spirit (which is like when a wife becomes a mother). âşď¸
Being rejected is the standard of my life. I just go on alone.
You don't, just accept the reject ion and continue moving forward but keep on praying that God will let us meet who we really deserve.
You donât need to convince them to reconsider, if they were the right person, then they wouldâve liked you back. Manâs rejection is Godâs protection.
I think when someone doesnât feel the same way, the healthiest thing you can do is accept it and move on. Itâs hard sometimes, but trying to change their mind usually just hurts both people. I also think itâs really important to respect someoneâs boundaries. If theyâve said no, pushing again can make them uncomfortable and damage whatever respect existed between you. Iâd rather walk away with dignity and peace than turn it into something painful for both sides.
Not everyone has good taste.
If they are not interested I wish them the best and move on
The Since the 0 like and 100 likes are equally troublesome, how do you know which one to choose then? I pray to God for the ONE like, the one that he deems best đ¤
When I was younger, I'd cry and eat a whole tub of ice cream, then order pizza. But this coping mechanism made me so unhealthy. Thankfully, for my mental health and my waistline, I don't take rejection personally anymore. I now remember to have faith that God has a better path for me, so I can move on."
1. "Oh well, God has better plans for me", 2. Pray 3. Move on Not much else I can do tbh
Find a way to shut that door and move on. Your person will like you - it will and must be mutual and unforcedđ
Hope!
