Every man is focused on looks. That’s just how it is. Unhealthy habits are bad don’t get me wrong I wish I was perfect but I’m not. Fighting with smoking cigarettes, just feel like I’m not worthy to even go to church. I think there is a reason for any red flag. Nobody is perfect. Good luck finding the one who has no red flag.

There have been so many good answers but here are a few extra - Wants the benefits of a relationship without the label, commitment or responsibility of a relationship - moves from church to church regularly ie every 6-18months - doesn't serve at church in any way (there a reasons and season where this would be ok but generally a red flag) - doesn't give to church at all - is straight out of a serious relationship (you need to process and work through stuff before trying to move on)

Hiding you away from his close friends and family...

What exactly is “too focussed” . Honestly, sounds like it’s written by someone that isn’t good looking and is trying to cope with it

Wearing sunglasses in not one, but all photos Sparse profile e.g. single words where a short sentence or phrase is more appropriate Using endearing or loving words when we haven't even connected, chatted or met Lack of true investment and effort in wanting to know more Lack of communication Using "busy" as an excuse Lack of courtesy, sincerity and honesty Lack of manners Places physical looks above noble character and faith in God

Indeed

Lack of hygiene, idk if that's a red flag perse, but it's definitely a turn off.

A man who doesn't have his own job and his own place. I've lost count of how many times able bodied men have come at me who live with their parents, or are sleeping on a couch in someone else's house, don't have a job, dont have a car. And seriously think they should be pursuing a woman, or that she should be their provider, or their free ticket to just basically take advantage and use women for themselves. 😳 Talk about backwards. In short, men who don't think men need to be providers.

Major read flag, don't want to see your family. Makes you wonder what is it that he wants.

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I am 53😊, a little older than some Salters, but have journeyed a little☺️, It's the Jesus values we carry. Sometimes folks are just not walking so closely with Him., walk on by unless He tells you otherwise 😊, and you WILL know! But His Values are clear, they keep you safe, True, in Love with Him and on the right Track! I must say, there are some that have difficulty in communication, and there needs to be patience and understanding, we aren't all blessed with that skill. In 16 v 7

Yes I've been on a date with a girl who was all of the above people don't realise that they are doing these things and that it's very hurtful.

I’d add doesn’t pray if they don’t pray what personal relationship can they have with God!? None!!

The salt app has sort of like a face time one can call and view the person I think that’s a great feature, you can hear and see the person you can take them with you if you have time and are doing something and the other person doesn’t mind and they can even meet everyone you are interacting with!

No pictures is a red flags ! 🚩 BECAUSE I am not concern about looks however I need to KNOW who you are and if you are real or not . It gives me insecurity vibes unfortunately.

Although I think this is understood, I'd like to differentiate between bad work ethic and being unable to work. The stigma is real for some of us

Not writing anything in their profile is already a red flag to me. I will immediately click next.

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Another red flag I think is flirtatious comments way too soon and maybe specifically ones which refer to a future life together. A lot of guys (maybe girls too) don’t realise how it can hurt the other person’s heart and generate a lot of confusion. (Speaking from past experience).

I think part of the problem is these dating apps in general. These systems are unnatural and claustrophobic when it comes to human interaction you cant hear or see how someone is expressing what they mean. Salt unfortunately doesnt help men who know what they are looking for - doesnt assist in filtering attributes of women they already know do not suit or have those red flags!

If you notice that they get a lot of their advice from worldly networks. I.e the 'red pill' community (although not ways bad but not biblical). If they cut to the chase way to quick and ask you intrusive personal question before having a few light-hearted casual ones. Those heavy conversations are needed but not straight away. I e asking someone about their sexual waste or childhood experiences on the first few messages. 😳

Someone who cares about whether you’re vaccinated or not.

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- Can’t explain why they like Taylor Swift - doesn’t explain what biblical basis exists for any number of dating cultural rules

As someone who's been deceived by the guy who goes to church (but isnt a Godly man), I would add these: -refuses counsel/advice from mature Christians -defames others' character in the church, dividing/isolating you from your community (this may even look like them feeling like that church just "isn't for them") -reluctant to share about their testimony -says all the spiritual things but their actions exhibit worldliness -more interested in the prestige of church leadership than actually leading

I’d add to this and say - doesn’t go to church - doesn’t read the Bible regularly - doesn’t have Christian friends