Red flags in a partner

Its the mixed signals and the one who always keep saying promises.

Using God's name in vain, or using om* as an abbreviation for it.

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Lack of devotion to God Lack of stability Lazy or dishonest,

Narcissistic behaviour . Lack of boundaries. Placing ex before new partner . Gaslighting . Falsity of faith - religious zeal . Duplicities

Unwillingness to change to make a relationship work.

It's a big no to any man who will give up a relationship with their children so they can find "the one". 🙄 Someone who doesn't believe the bible is true or doesn't aspire to be like Jesus. Anyone who feels earning money is more important than a relationship and time spent with family/ community.

Lying about age, I know someone who’s voluntarily shaved 10 years off himself on here. Posting pictures 5+ years old. Lying about height - literally adding 4 or 5 inches. When a 58 year old states “I want a big family”. Come off it. Again, it’s been mentioned…gym selfies/muscle selfies. Just seems so naff, desperate and crass to me. Forced, sledgehammer “sexiness” isn’t actually sexy…

Someone who constantly talks about themselves and whose conversations are just about their problems.

I suppose mine would be pride. I'm not looking for someone that's perfect, I have a lot of grace for a person's negative quirks, bad choices, and red flags, but someone who thinks there's nothing wrong with them and who rarely turns to Christ if at all, that's someone I don't want to spend my life with. Smoking is a no as well, I tried dating a smoker once and the taste I got when we kissed made me gag. Very unpleasant.

Lack of manners/impatience to other people (ie waitstaff, getting on bus/trains etc)

Pornography addiction.

Tells you he will leave his four year old son with the boy's mother and travel to the other side of the world to start a new life with you.

Being communist, feminist and specially if supports abortion 🚩

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Someone who pushes your boundaries even when you have expressed them...or someone who has a short temper / can't control their emotions 🚩

Double standards

For me I'd say girls with male friends, dating multiple ppl, drinking problem, smoking weed, and not making any effort to spend time, making effort to spend time when you need stuff is also bad

When he isn’t actively involved in a church, doesn’t mention his faith in his profile (when it’s on a non-Christian app), doesn’t prioritize a daily relationship with God…

If they are rude to the people around them e.g parents, colleagues and waiters. Not being open to attend events with your friends or family but expecting you at all of their friend/ family gatherings ( it needs to be equal). Fixated on the idea of being an alpha male.

Gott segne euch Amim Grus aus Germany ( Freiburg im . Breisgau

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Unreliability, no foundation in Jesus Christ, lukewarm in faith, trying to get someone down so they can prove themselves, no joy in life/ negativity, not willing to learn, stupidity/ lack of intelligence, not reading the Word of God, arrogance, pride and not having a pure/ good heart❣️🔥

The way he talks or expresses himself if he curses or critizes in a bad way, real christians don't talk like that and not having sense of humour, once I am confortable I tend to joke or to be sarcastic in a good way hehehehe.

After being a authentic believer in Christ. (No Covid vax) is important. It’s really sad how people are having so many symptoms and dying early. Can’t have that for me and my kids. I used to be a medical professional with three science degrees.

Arrogance

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After reading through most of the comments, I can’t help but think that some still use secular metrics to access a potential Christian partner. Some people made very good points like varying Christian beliefs (predominantly in the west), laziness, honor to self and others, love for God and fellowship with brethren,etc. I only say we should search our hearts and weight the standards that we are using, with God’s standards.

Love-bombing😭😭

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Biggest red flag for me is a lazy man. A man that doesn't work.

Love bombing

Not kind and respectful about someone feeling

Duck face on every photo.

Cursing

Love crumbs

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If church is not a priority in their life. If someone says they are a Christian but can't tell you when they became a Christian, or claims to have always been a Christian.

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I whole heartedly agree with a lot that has already been said and will be said. I have a whole scroll of red flags and deal breakers. 1. Has no personal relationship with Jesus 2. Is unkind to other people and animals. 3. Is argumentative and wants to be right in everything. 4. Prideful 5. Unclean. Leaves trash everywhere, doesnt pick up after self... 6. Has no idea what theyre looking for or want out of a relationship. 7. Wants a polygamous or short term relationship. "Here for short" captions

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This is more of an absolute stop, than just a red flag, but if the profile says he’s separated. Separated means still married - that’s a full stop for me. I’ve also seen a few profiles of people who admit they are married and looking for something on the side. That’s a block and report for me. Also profiles with no pics – I don’t think salt allows this – but it’s common on other sites. I figure there’s a high chance he’s married and not putting a pic because he doesn’t want to be recognized.

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Over usage of "spiritual" vocabulary, just head knowledge to impress (or deceive). Exalting oneself over others, but especially the Lord. Lovebombing.

Wearing a wedding ring in your profile pic. Either you’re married or you’re not ready to move on.

Off the top of my head - dishonesty is a big one for me, also someone who claims to be Christian but doesn't live like one e.g. through their attitudes and behaviours. Oh and someone who thinks women should stay at home all day and do the housework.

Half naked pictures on your profile

Heart emojis. 😆🤔

When they describe a woman they’re looking for as a “girl”. 🚩 If they say “as long as you don’t take yourself too seriously”. 🚩 Pictures of themselves in bed. 🚩 Not putting any effort into their profile. 🚩 Doing “blue steel” in every photo and it’s not ironic. 🚩

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Do you want me do this in alphabetical order or numerical order? 🙃

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When worldly things seem to be more of a focus than Jesus

Being 30+ years old and not being able to have a relationship more than 1or 2 years.

Wandering eye 👁️

There has to be a benchmark of being kind, caring, truthful and having integrity (do they live out their faith every day or just on Sundays?). If any of those are missing, it shows up in various red flags - lying is probably the biggest one. Taking faith seriously is also a must (so being well rooted in God for a good number of years), as well as being in a healthy place emotionally - if someone is looking to you to “complete them” then there’s going to be problems.

One thing that I look out for, is when their values doesn’t add up like the Bibles. I’m not perfect and sin free, but how they treat the biblical values does tell what their motivation and values overall are.

Great question sis! Different values opposite from the bible. Well doctrine is important too. Aside from that, inconsistency is a great deal breaker ✌️

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When you haven’t even gotten to your third topic yet and he’s already talking about marriage 😆

Hola Isabel qué hermosa eres 🌹