it’s just a coffee?!? ☕️ or is it?!?

I think it's a great way to get to know someone and be in a healthy mindset. Unless the person asking is not safe.

I think embrace the American culture of first dates freely. So much easier to discern in person.

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It’s only coffee with a mate. #friendateship

I think making sure that both parties define the ‘coffee date’ the same is important. Some may misunderstand. Personally, I am of the thought that there should always be a first date that is casual and holds no further significance other than seeing if there is a mutual connection. And, meeting a new person! Nothing gets lost in my opinion.

Nothing scary about getting to know another person over coffee. Definitely worth it. Nothing to lose and so much to potentially gain.

Call me oldskool but no no no to US dating culture, scary!! 😶‍🌫️ 😬

It's very wise to have decernment first....due to today's society it's best. A coffee date is a wonderful first date!

If I have no obvious reason to decline, I will accept a date. It's just a date, and it's how you see if you get along with a person or not. Just because you say yes to a date doesn't mean you are saying yes to marrying him. You are saying yes to getting to know him a little bit better to see if you want to move forward and keep getting to know each other.

First of all, as a woman, I’d rather not initiate a first date but respond to the invitation. I personally see a first date as an important event because, regardless of whether it’s coffee or something else, it still requires time and effort from both. So, I’ll make sure I see something I’m looking for (not about wedding) in the person (whether it’s spiritual, mental, or physical attraction) before that happens. This can be determined through conversations (messages, calls, or online meetings).

I used to think of it casually until I realized that some guys started telling mutual friends that we went out! (how is that possible after one short date?) So now I'm a lot more cautious.

I’d always say yes to a coffee cause I believe a coffee is just a coffee and a first date is just a first date! 😊

I’ve always considered coffee more a casual first date, no strings, just seeing if we get along in person over a drink before deciding to go on another ‘date’. I think as Christians we put too much pressure on ourselves, at the end of the day a coffee ‘date’ is just a coffee, so relax. If we go out again that’s great, but usually you know if you connect with someone when you meet, and if there isn’t a connection don’t force it.

I'd admit that Ive rejected a few "just coffee's" (I don't like wasting heart space, theirs or my own) if the connection wasnt immediate. Like Julio, for the most part I can discern if these connections will hit a dead end, but, I'm finding value in having a more casual mindset (not careless, just not jumping onto the marriage train) which actually encourages me to keep waiting for what I desire in a Godly relationship as I mire objectively can decide if I enjoy this person effortlessly.

It’s just a coffee… Zero commitment… The ONLY question after the coffee is over should be, “Do I enjoy this person enough to see them again?” Nothing else!! Don’t ask yourself if you could see yourself married to them! It’s just a coffee.😊☕️

I make it clear that I will meet with someone we are going to start as fiends with the possibility for more. But tbh I can wead out a lot of people just with a few phone calls. I can get a decent grasp of their spiritual life and goals. That I think people need to be more open about. Just have a call with someone and see where it goes.