Back to SALT Social
posters avatar
Isabel - Team SALT
Tue May 20 2025

How to ask a Christian girl out 🥰

Christian Men, how do you approach a girl and ask her out? Girls, how do you love to be approached? For any semi-big decision I've always appreciated when someone talks to me in person but says, "You don't need to answer this right now but..."

22 Likes
34 Comments
Jonathan's avatar
Jonathan

Don’t download this app and touch grass

Tue Jun 03 2025
0 ❤️
Elisabeth's avatar
Elisabeth

I like it when the guy admires something about my personality or a skill I've worked on, but only after talking for a while so it actually feels genuine. On the flip side, I don't like hearing a guy I've just met compliment my physical appearance right away. It makes me uncomfortable, to be honest, and feels a bit creepy somehow? I don't know if other ladies relate to this feeling or not, but I'd much rather be called beautiful after a few weeks of getting to know each other, not a few minutes.

Mon Jun 02 2025
6 ❤️
Loiwe Grace's avatar
Loiwe Grace

Be curious ask questions, compliment and from there start a conversation before you know it you’ll be exchanging numbers.

Sat May 31 2025
5 ❤️
Corey's avatar
Corey

I believe it should be appropriate, case by case. To be honest, even Sault looks like sugar. Prayer first about your true intentions surrounding why you want to ask a woman of God out. It must be a situation where the man's intentions are set forth to marry the woman as it says in the Bible. We as strong men are born to be the leader in the household only leading by faith and a strong representation of what it means to be a mature man of God. With a great blessing comes 🙏

Sat May 31 2025
4 ❤️
Ann's avatar
Ann

So true

Sun Jun 01 2025
0 ❤️
Matt - Team SALT's avatar
Matt - Team SALT

When I used to date before I tied the knot, I'd approach with a compliment on her style or about something going on around us, chat about that, introduce myself, ask for her number.

Fri May 30 2025
3 ❤️
Matt - Team SALT's avatar
Matt - Team SALT

@Matt - Team SALT but I rarely actually did this because it's scary as hell

Fri May 30 2025
6 ❤️
Ilisapeci's avatar
Ilisapeci

How is it scary, it’s not like we bite?!😅

Sun Jun 01 2025
1 ❤️
Keith's avatar
Keith

@Matt - Team SALT Scary as hell is correct and I respect your honesty - I’ve come from abuseful relationships add to it I am high functioning asd and cannot interpret body language in always on guard. Its hard in a church or visiting one as a single and the first thing I do now to settle myself is look for wedding bands to gauge intentions - but that does not always go down well.

Mon Jun 02 2025
0 ❤️
Keith's avatar
Keith

Why is it teens and early 20’s can get away with murder and middle ages trying to walk righteously before God can be treated so badly - loneliness stinks but sometimes its safer to remain lonely in the arms of God comfirted by Holy Spirit Theres supposed to be no fear in perfect love but so few walk in His perfect love

Mon Jun 02 2025
0 ❤️
Matt - Team SALT's avatar
Matt - Team SALT

@Ilisapeci do you not find it scary putting yourself out there and being vulnerable?

Tue Jun 03 2025
0 ❤️
Dani's avatar
Dani

I always approach a girl like i would anyone I'd want to be friends with, just hang out and get some food, not to friendzone them but friends come first, partner second, I've found there's a reason it feels awkward at first, and that's because it is awkward to jump a few hurdles 😅. At least if things don't work out the way you thought, you've got a new friend

Thu May 29 2025
3 ❤️
Elisabeth's avatar
Elisabeth

This is a good approach! Some women probably enjoy being approached directly from the start, but I know for me and many of my friends that starting as casual friends is a much less stressful way to get to know people, especially in the context of common social circles. As much as possible, unnecessary awkwardness can and should be avoided. 😂 Not all of it can be, but people can still try, lol.

Mon Jun 02 2025
0 ❤️
Keith's avatar
Keith

@Dani that is very similar to the original hebrew in song of songs - if we seek we sit back watch get to know etc etc - the boundaries for dating - we are not actually meant to date, its a public coming to know and then courtship commitment to marry death do us part. We have secretly let the world slip into christian relationships to taint them

Mon Jun 02 2025
0 ❤️
Paul's avatar
Paul

Want to meet up sometime? Im free (insert time and day here)

Thu May 29 2025
0 ❤️
Nick's avatar
Nick

I used to think it was best to be bold and ask in person but due to some interactions I've found myself not wanting to put the girl in the awkward position of saying no with me standing right there, so I reverted to messaging so they can also take time to think it over. Thoughts?

Thu May 29 2025
8 ❤️
Sharon's avatar
Sharon

Like with most things.. i’d say ‘it depends’ on the whole context of the interaction. How about a blend of both your options? Asking her in person, handing over your number while throwing in where you’d like to take her on said date and letting her have a think?

Thu May 29 2025
3 ❤️
Keith's avatar
Keith

@Nick I find it rare to find a lady who likes bold, there are a few who like direct and I call them power women who excel in certain areas - they have no time for mucking around. Generally be gentle make your intent known and allow her to think, ponder, test and weigh you and come back. Most have been creeped out and need safe assurance - though unless they give you a chance they may never really know

Mon Jun 02 2025
0 ❤️
Anson's avatar
Anson

I'm new to all this, so I'm still figuring it all out😁

Wed May 28 2025
3 ❤️
Keith's avatar
Keith

@Anson @Anson aren’t we all - the world has changed and boundaries have shifted - depending on one’s life experiences also makes it hard to figure out. Careful evaluating, prayer, discernment and if there’s an if or unsure walk away. If they make it hard walk away, if they go around in circles early walk away Respect, integrity and most of all reverence before God - if thats not there from day one it will never get better

Mon Jun 02 2025
0 ❤️
Lachlan's avatar
Lachlan

I don't... I'd rather know a bit about them before asking them out 😂

Wed May 28 2025
3 ❤️
Oritsetsola Susan Abraham's avatar
Oritsetsola Susan Abraham

1: At church - with a warm smile on your face.. Hello how did you find today’s teaching if they were sitting on the same row as you.😃 2: At a wedding - if they are dancing in the crowd on their own, be brave remember the scripture “fear not only believe.. Ask them may l dance with you and then strike a conversation. 3: On this dating app - Like Nike says “just do it” - what’s the worst thing that could happen? They say no! Okay move on Gods got someone who'd say yes around the corner..😀🙏🙏

Wed May 28 2025
8 ❤️
Tom's avatar
Tom

I don’t ask a girl out for fear of being rejected & not being taken seriously.

Wed May 28 2025
3 ❤️
Blessing's avatar
Blessing

If she's on here, she's already being asked out! Unless she's looking for a pen pal 😂😅

Wed May 28 2025
2 ❤️
Chris's avatar
Chris

I typically choose to approach a lady on foot. In my experience, trying to ask a lady out when driving at her in a car or riding towards her on a bike hasn't proven to be as successful as I hoped.

Wed May 21 2025
12 ❤️
Yafet's avatar
Yafet

@Chris 😆 true

Wed May 28 2025
0 ❤️
Joanna's avatar
Joanna

I like when men ask me questions and then listen. It shows they're interested and want to get to know me. It doesn't have to be too deep or personal, but questions to show they're interested. Two way conversation is much better than one way conversation. I find a lot of men have forgotten or don't know what to say to a woman.

Tue May 20 2025
14 ❤️
RenĂŠe's avatar
RenĂŠe

Very rare but I like it when they just name the date and place

Tue May 20 2025
8 ❤️
Fiona's avatar
Fiona

I think first change the term Men and girls might I suggest. Unless it's boys and girls or Men and Women it doesn't sound right sorry

Tue May 20 2025
12 ❤️
Andy's avatar
Andy

Will you be the Ruth to my Boaz? 😎

Tue May 20 2025
5 ❤️
Foluke's avatar
Foluke

@Andy that is really humorous

Wed May 28 2025
0 ❤️
Ari's avatar
Ari

Ask once for 1on1 anywhere, and if rejected, move on. Either f2f or message.

Tue May 20 2025
4 ❤️
Just Me Hayley's avatar
Just Me Hayley

@Ari your adorablely handsome & God-centric, with a huge beautiful heart, the complete package your not going to look over and rejected for long🙏🤲

Tue May 20 2025
2 ❤️
Bash's avatar
Bash

I wouldn’t give it too much emphasis, simply approach and be respectful. I usually ask if they’d like to get a coffee or something lighthearted

Tue May 20 2025
7 ❤️