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Isabel - Team SALT
Tue May 20 2025

How to ask a Christian girl out 🥰

Christian Men, how do you approach a girl and ask her out? Girls, how do you love to be approached? For any semi-big decision I've always appreciated when someone talks to me in person but says, "You don't need to answer this right now but..."

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Kyle's avatar
Kyle

Just approach her and ask if she would like to grab lunch, dinner or coffee. Don't do a movie until later, that's just unneeded silence. Do a later. True men of God are fearless and respectable. Showing strength right away will let her know she's in good hands, but make sure you honor the boundaries of a women

Mon Jun 16 2025
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Harry's avatar
Harry

I usually pray and try to get to have an opportunity to talk and get to know them and then you find out what their circumstances are and if they are taken, or too young for me. Depends on the place I met them

Sun Jun 15 2025
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J's avatar
J

I've not approached yet one :') I mean, I've never met a christian under 40

Sat Jun 14 2025
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Pamela's avatar
Pamela

We existe

Sat Jun 14 2025
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J's avatar
J

@Pamela I have faith, but it's difficult these times 🥲

Mon Jun 16 2025
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Pamela

@J I understand ….

Mon Jun 16 2025
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Marlon

Pray an ask God for the Holy Spirit to Lead You . You will feel & know when to make a move she will also feel know . Start off as friends slowly get to know one another & trust in God and The spirit every step of the way

Sat Jun 14 2025
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Marc's avatar
Marc

I also find it quite intimidating and scary to ask someone out as the majority of the time, the lady is always with her friends in church.

Thu Jun 12 2025
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shekinah's avatar
shekinah

@Marc if they’re with their friends just approach them and ask if you could speak to her privately when she is free. It’s not rude to do that. Sometimes you just have to be brave and bold! As a woman when a guys does that it shows he is confident and knows what he wants. Good luck :)

Sat Jun 14 2025
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Marc's avatar
Marc

@shekinah thanks

Sat Jun 14 2025
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Godson's avatar
Godson

@shekinah That's a nice one.. I would love to know you

Sun Jun 15 2025
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shekinah

@Marc if you’re scared about doing that you could always pray to God to remove the fear and get support from friends and family they might have some tips too

Sat Jun 14 2025
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Elizabeth's avatar
Elizabeth

If a guy could be bold and honest like ..."Hi, my name is .... I noticed that you like..... Or "You look like an interesting person to talk to, may I share a conversation with you?

Thu Jun 12 2025
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David's avatar
David

@Elizabeth I would go to the Lord Jesus Christa and ask him if this right one for bý the power of the Holy Spirit then I would. I would know if it was the right person then I would love and cuddle her every day a nd most of all tell her I've ever day Aem

Thu Jun 12 2025
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Anonymous's avatar
Anonymous

@Elizabeth Hello! I'm too honest. Too direct. Too sincere. Women don't like that. 🤣

Sun Jun 15 2025
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Ace's avatar
Ace

Christian women u need to ask the men out

Wed Jun 11 2025
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Leonard's avatar
Leonard

12 o clock, here. See you then.

Tue Jun 10 2025
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ashley's avatar
ashley

Say I'm a dude, you a duddete let's doodal🫠

Tue Jun 10 2025
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Mega Maga's avatar
Mega Maga

@ashley 😁

Tue Jun 10 2025
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VeritasCordis's avatar
VeritasCordis

@ashley so simple yet effective 😄👍

Wed Jun 11 2025
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VeritasCordis's avatar
VeritasCordis

Honest and simple. "Hi (insert name), I really like (insert what you like about her), and wondering (thoughtful question that shows you made the effort to get to know her). I am (insert who you are and basic info). Feel free to reach out to me (insert how she can contact you best). ... and yes, I get 2 invites to the wedding 💗

Tue Jun 10 2025
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Marc's avatar
Marc

That was me to. I would try and run faster than this fastest kid in school as well as you. I would even beat the school bus sometimes 😂

Thu Jun 12 2025
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Luke's avatar
Luke

@VeritasCordis 2 invites to what wedding?

Sat Jun 14 2025
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VeritasCordis

@Luke in other words, the formula I posted works so well that it will lead to a wedding.

Sat Jun 14 2025
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Angelo's avatar
Angelo

If only I knew 😅

Mon Jun 09 2025
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Jack's avatar
Jack

I don’t think the trouble is asking a Christian girl out I think it’s more trouble actually finding one haha

Mon Jun 09 2025
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Mega Maga's avatar
Mega Maga

This app is full with Christian women. No excuses

Tue Jun 10 2025
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Marc's avatar
Marc

You must see a sign first as she will make a move first but in a feminine way, usually in the form of unconscious body language. It's up to us to pick up on these subtle signs and approach her in a masculine way. Which is to approach her and initiate conversation, but keep looking for those subtle signs which if she is interested will give her away and then you will know ether way if she likes you or not to take it further.

Mon Jun 09 2025
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John's avatar
John

@Marc Hopefully subconsciously and not unconsciously 😁😁

Fri Jun 13 2025
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Marc's avatar
Marc

@John what a typo 😂

Fri Jun 13 2025
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John's avatar
John

@Marc It's a surprisingly common thing to hear!

Fri Jun 13 2025
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Silver's avatar
Silver

Invite to a place/activity that you know she's interested in. Also, being direct is very important, but giving space to choose either. 😊

Mon Jun 09 2025
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Marc's avatar
Marc

Going for a high five, and if her hand lingers with yours. Then that is a good sign also!

Fri Jun 13 2025
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Grant's avatar
Grant

You say hello

Sun Jun 08 2025
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Andressa's avatar
Andressa

Just ask a girl out if you already talk to her before lol. If you randomly ask to go out it's kinda creepy

Sun Jun 08 2025
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James's avatar
James

@Andressa I agree x

Sun Jun 08 2025
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Jude's avatar
Jude

@Andressa if he’s super cute and attractive it’s not creepy 🙃

Mon Jun 09 2025
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Scottie's avatar
Scottie

Would you like to go out sometime?

Sun Jun 08 2025
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Just Me Hayley's avatar
Just Me Hayley

@Ask Shakespeare how are you doing. It's been a while since you've posted something. You've been missed 🙏🥺

Sun Jun 08 2025
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Marc's avatar
Marc

I think hinting is very difficult to read at the time. Even body language. The penny drops when I get home 🤣

Sat Jun 07 2025
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Emma's avatar
Emma

Be sensitive to what a women would like. I’d love to go walking or a cycle ride, but equally out for a lovely meal. Even if you don’t get it quite right, a women will appreciate the effort and kindness you’ve put in, if she doesn’t find one that does 👍🥰

Sat Jun 07 2025
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Marc's avatar
Marc

@Emma would love to take you out and a ride on my trike and see the sights x

Sun Jun 08 2025
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Emma's avatar
Emma

@Marc crossing the border 😱😱😱 at best you’ll need a passport, at worst your risking life and limb coming to Yorkshire from Lancashire Thornton!

Sun Jun 08 2025
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Marc

@Emma, great to hear from you, Emma. I come over quite often as my sisters live in Rawtenstall. One of my YouTube videos featured the singing Ringing Tree on Todmorden Moor ☺️ I slept in my car in the car park to catch the sunshine over the sculpture 😂

Mon Jun 09 2025
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Marc's avatar
Marc

@Emma I'm in Thornton Bradford West Yorkshire ☺️

Mon Jun 09 2025
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Emma's avatar
Emma

@Marc 🤣🤣🤣

Mon Jun 09 2025
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Marc's avatar
Marc

@Emma 🤣 fancy having a laugh together 😂🥳😆

Tue Jun 10 2025
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Emma's avatar
Emma

@Marc a little busy at present but very kind of you to offer, God bless you 🤗

Wed Jun 11 2025
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Marc's avatar
Marc

@Emma maybe another time then?

Thu Jun 12 2025
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Stevo's avatar
Stevo

A Christian woman is no different from any woman so I don't think you need to treat any woman different all women are the same you don't need to do anything any different because they are Christian

Sat Jun 07 2025
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Mami's avatar
Mami

@Stevo 🤣🤣🤣🥴

Sat Jun 07 2025
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Anonymous's avatar
Anonymous

@Stevo exactly

Mon Jun 09 2025
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VeritasCordis

@Stevo 🙌 all respectfully 🙏💗

Tue Jun 10 2025
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Hannah's avatar
Hannah

I think just how are you doing today will be a good starter, then on to the next motive

Sat Jun 07 2025
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Jay's avatar
Jay

I'd be a gentleman about everuthing.. hey. I'm jay nicecto meet u. So let's take a walk and get to know each other.. let's go out to eat. Chinese. Lol

Fri Jun 06 2025
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Mega Maga's avatar
Mega Maga

@Jay yup that works.

Fri Jun 06 2025
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James's avatar
James

@Mega Maga it works for me too what Chinese food do u like x

Fri Jun 06 2025
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Anonymous's avatar
Anonymous

@Jay hahaha

Sat Jun 07 2025
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Mega Maga's avatar
Mega Maga

I like the man being pro-active and show initiative. How mot to approach: asking the woman to travel to yiou. Asking the woman to make a suggestion/set up and plan the date/give her ideas. How to do it right: ask if she wants to meet in person If she's interested, would she like option a b c ... (In her area). Then confirm with her which of the options she likes/dislikes and suitable time slots.

Thu Jun 05 2025
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Fiona's avatar
Fiona

Women not girls .....men not boys or put boys and girls....don't mix it up someone comment on this please

Thu Jun 05 2025
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Rachel's avatar
Rachel

@Fiona I reported this post for the use of girls and men

Thu Jun 05 2025
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Rachel's avatar
Rachel

I mean that I reported the original author.

Thu Jun 05 2025
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Fiona's avatar
Fiona

@Rachel thanks hun appreciate it

Fri Jun 06 2025
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Mega Maga

It's interesting how women are still infantilised while MEN actually behave a lot more like boys nowadays... And yet.... We're addressed as 'girls' .... 🤷🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

Thu Jun 05 2025
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Jude's avatar
Jude

@Mega Maga @Rachel I give her the benefit of the doubt that it just her way of communicating an innocent post. You don’t own language and you don’t control her - it’s her freedom. Ironically, in fact, that’s a conservative value. Plus, as I understand, she’s happily married so she must be doing somethings right 😃

Thu Jun 05 2025
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Jude's avatar
Jude

Also @Mega Maga @Rachel Titus 1:15 To the pure, all things are pure, but to those who are corrupted and do not believe, nothing is pure. In fact, both their minds and consciences are corrupted. Please be gracious to your other sisters in Christ 👍and maybe see if you can learn a thing or 2 from them 😃

Thu Jun 05 2025
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Rachel's avatar
Rachel

@Jude A report is just that - a report. The use of the word girls is offensive to some of us, and I informed Salt of this. I am choosing to ignore your personal comments towards me

Thu Jun 05 2025
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Jude's avatar
Jude

@Rachel It’s the long weekend here in Sydney from tomorrow - public holiday on Monday. I’m going fishing 🎣 for trouts with the BOYS 😃

Thu Jun 05 2025
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Fiona's avatar
Fiona

@Jude no it needs editing Jude if it was the other way around men wouldn't like it and rightly so, also married all know they don't have everything together same as singles so don't put people on pedestals for being married like they are the fount

Fri Jun 06 2025
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Jude's avatar
Jude

@Fiona that’s just your opinion that the guys would be offended. I absolutely wouldn’t ✌️ Her freedom doesn’t need editing. You can’t control her, but you certainly can control yourself and your response. #self-control

Fri Jun 06 2025
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Rachel's avatar
Rachel

@Jude It's not about offence or whether people say boys - it's about the original post referring to Men and girls

Fri Jun 06 2025
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Jude's avatar
Jude

@Rachel okay, so you understand that whether it’s offensive or not depends on you👌 What’s wrong with her reference? That’s how she talks. That’s her usage of the language. When people write, especially females, they make it personal - so she probably still likes the term ‘girl’ being assigned to her. She’s a gal, she a lass - typical terms in UK culture. She is NOT being a pervert, which is what you’re insinuating. I think she’s super cool, easygoing and real and INNOCENT.

Fri Jun 06 2025
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Jude's avatar
Jude

@Rachel In my opinion, the MOST important part about this is that she is FREE. I pray that you and people like you can enjoy that FREEDOM one day. I can guarantee you that us, reasonable BOYS, will not want to marry or stay married with females who see malice, mistakes or ill-intent and want police our language and behaviour. I can’t imagine how exhausting it must be to be in a relationship with someone who does that.

Sat Jun 07 2025
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Mert's avatar
Mert

Well I believe someone have to make the move first either women or men It’s doesn’t matter who make the first move.. well im new here trying my luck out here Hope am welcome

Thu Jun 05 2025
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Mega Maga's avatar
Mega Maga

@Mert the manakes the move and sets up the date. Don't be pasive! Its mot what men are for!

Thu Jun 05 2025
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John's avatar
John

@Mega Maga 💪♥️💪♥️💪

Fri Jun 13 2025
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Jude's avatar
Jude

1. Join one of the Salt Tables. 2. Get in the chat. 3. Start a conversation 1 person. 4. Make sure she has a Salt profile and not using web-based Salt Table - very important 🙃 (and she’s local, unless you can afford air fares). 5. Send an intro after the table talk. 6. Chat, chat, chat 7. “You’re so great. I’d like to meet you in person” And voilà!

Thu Jun 05 2025
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Mega Maga's avatar
Mega Maga

Has that ever happened in real life? Im still waiting for ANY manon here to make an effort to even ask me out for a coffee 😞 They're so incredibly passive 🥴

Thu Jun 05 2025
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Rachel's avatar
Rachel

Please take this with the kindness that it is said with, but when I see your name pop up on Table talks, it makes me think of Donald Trump and his right wing supporters. Maybe consider a change to your profile?

Thu Jun 05 2025
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Mega Maga

Cool. Im right wing. Glad the name does the job :)

Thu Jun 05 2025
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Jason's avatar
Jason

@Mega Maga I know this is getting off-topic But I appreciate the transparency and boldness to use your name to tell your view on politics .... -We are called to love people, not imagine them to be enemies It shows maturity when we are not triggered by what others say ..... As well as not broadly paint others all the same by how they vote .... I wish more people would be clear in their profiles about their worldview and profiles God bless 🙏

Fri Jun 06 2025
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Mega Maga's avatar
Mega Maga

Thanks. Appreciate it.

Fri Jun 06 2025
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John's avatar
John

@Rachel That's precisely the type of woman I'm very interested in!

Sun Jun 08 2025
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Anonymous's avatar
Anonymous

Not even men who call themselves Christians want to ask a woman out, they act like spoiled boys Unfortunately:-(

Thu Jun 05 2025
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Mega Maga's avatar
Mega Maga

Yup. Or like castrated cats. Idk what's wrong with men nowadays... They're so annoyingly passive 😟

Thu Jun 05 2025
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Jutta's avatar
Jutta

First make friends. And then ask out. Ask Holy Spirit how to deal with her and over all if it will be wise to ask her out. And where to take her ect.

Thu Jun 05 2025
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Stewart's avatar
Stewart

@Jutta definitely

Thu Jun 05 2025
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Hal's avatar
Hal

They would probably prefer something nice but I would rather say Let's risk it for the biscuit

Thu Jun 05 2025
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Mega Maga's avatar
Mega Maga

Meaning?

Thu Jun 05 2025
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Christopher

Make friends first, but don't be shy, ask them out for coffee or lunch/dinner. Offer to fully pay for the date if possible. Once you know them enough, if they are still single, ask them if they have any feelings for you, and if yes then don't wait any longer, ask them out ASAP. If they don't have feelings then it's no harm, you're just having fun with your friend.

Wed Jun 04 2025
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yannykgw

Well, if I know her a little bit, and I like her... normal as any honest man does. In fact, I invite her with all my friends!... to walk or ride a bike in the woods, to walk in the old city, to have a drink, to swim in the pool, to play sports, to a night of games (billar, soccer, ping pong or bowling). In fact, I am starting to do that, organize and invite all my friends/knowledge, and of course, nice if you like me, you are more than invited!

Wed Jun 04 2025
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Alfie's avatar
Alfie

Do women typically still wait for men to make the first move? Is that still a thing?

Wed Jun 04 2025
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yannykgw's avatar
yannykgw

@Alfie Apparently yes, and they even have "theology" to have that attitude. In fact, I wrote about it, and someone replied to me, ending up saying that before I speak, I think more. 😅

Wed Jun 04 2025
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Anonymous's avatar
Anonymous

@yannykgw continue with your attitude of thinking that you don't need to ask a woman out, because there are things that don't even need to be said to understand that you are not a knight and do not follow biblical principles.

Thu Jun 05 2025
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Anonymous's avatar
Anonymous

@Alfie Of course

Wed Jun 04 2025
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Goodness's avatar
Goodness

@Alfie yes it is still a thing… 😊

Wed Jun 04 2025
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Anonymous's avatar
Anonymous

@Alfie two men questioning chivalry and biblical principles

Thu Jun 05 2025
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Mega Maga's avatar
Mega Maga

Of course! It's one of the most important decisions in our lives.... The man needs to actively demonstrate who he is and what life with him will look like.

Thu Jun 05 2025
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Jacky's avatar
Jacky

Hi girls I live in Houston tx

Wed Jun 04 2025
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Joy's avatar
Joy

For me as I'm a straight forward type of person, I like it to be direct to the point but sometimes it's awkward when u doesn't like the one who is asking you out. I mean it's rude to ignore them and say no also but sorry ✌️😊

Tue Jun 03 2025
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Anonymous's avatar
Anonymous

Just ask her straight, no intro or whatsoever so long as your intention is pure.

Tue Jun 03 2025
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Jonathan's avatar
Jonathan

Don’t download this app and touch grass

Tue Jun 03 2025
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Mega Maga

Haha good one.

Thu Jun 05 2025
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Elisabeth

I like it when the guy admires something about my personality or a skill I've worked on, but only after talking for a while so it actually feels genuine. On the flip side, I don't like hearing a guy I've just met compliment my physical appearance right away. It makes me uncomfortable, to be honest, and feels a bit creepy somehow? I don't know if other ladies relate to this feeling or not, but I'd much rather be called beautiful after a few weeks of getting to know each other, not a few minutes.

Mon Jun 02 2025
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Goodness's avatar
Goodness

@Elisabeth i totally relate… especially being called sexy right away… i could handle beautiful but don’t call me sexy when you don’t even know anything about me 😊😊

Wed Jun 04 2025
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Elisabeth

@Goodness 100%!

Fri Jun 06 2025
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G-benga

@Goodness You are absolutely correct

Fri Jun 06 2025
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Yso

@Elisabeth totally agree with you. Beauty is fleeting after all ☺️

Sat Jun 07 2025
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Loiwe Grace

Be curious ask questions, compliment and from there start a conversation before you know it you’ll be exchanging numbers.

Sat May 31 2025
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Anonymous's avatar
Anonymous

How about "Excuse me, do you go to church? Would you like to go with me?"

Wed Jun 04 2025
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Mega Maga

That would work on me as I'm not a great socialiser

Thu Jun 05 2025
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Corey

I believe it should be appropriate, case by case. To be honest, even Sault looks like sugar. Prayer first about your true intentions surrounding why you want to ask a woman of God out. It must be a situation where the man's intentions are set forth to marry the woman as it says in the Bible. We as strong men are born to be the leader in the household only leading by faith and a strong representation of what it means to be a mature man of God. With a great blessing comes 🙏

Sat May 31 2025
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Ann's avatar
Ann

So true

Sun Jun 01 2025
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Matt - Team SALT's avatar
Matt - Team SALT

When I used to date before I tied the knot, I'd approach with a compliment on her style or about something going on around us, chat about that, introduce myself, ask for her number.

Fri May 30 2025
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Matt - Team SALT's avatar
Matt - Team SALT

@Matt - Team SALT but I rarely actually did this because it's scary as hell

Fri May 30 2025
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Ilisapeci's avatar
Ilisapeci

How is it scary, it’s not like we bite?!😅

Sun Jun 01 2025
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Keith's avatar
Keith

@Matt - Team SALT Scary as hell is correct and I respect your honesty - I’ve come from abuseful relationships add to it I am high functioning asd and cannot interpret body language in always on guard. Its hard in a church or visiting one as a single and the first thing I do now to settle myself is look for wedding bands to gauge intentions - but that does not always go down well.

Mon Jun 02 2025
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Keith's avatar
Keith

Why is it teens and early 20’s can get away with murder and middle ages trying to walk righteously before God can be treated so badly - loneliness stinks but sometimes its safer to remain lonely in the arms of God comfirted by Holy Spirit Theres supposed to be no fear in perfect love but so few walk in His perfect love

Mon Jun 02 2025
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Matt - Team SALT's avatar
Matt - Team SALT

@Ilisapeci do you not find it scary putting yourself out there and being vulnerable?

Tue Jun 03 2025
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Ilisapeci

Nope maybe nervous but not scary.

Thu Jun 05 2025
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Mega Maga's avatar
Mega Maga

There's nothing scary about asking a woman out. Men are just having these expectations nowadays that they can chill and the woman does it all... Far too passive!!

Thu Jun 05 2025
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Alicia

I think we have to be careful not to berate men if they aren't feeling comfortable with initiating. I think it's better to encourage them. Men have been told by women many times that a man's attention isn't wanted. Women have been reacting angrily to men approaching for years now. That makes women seem unapproachable, but then men are told that they should initiate. Men have feelings too, and I think expecting them to act like they don't isn't fair or healthy.

Mon Jun 09 2025
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Matt - Team SALT's avatar
Matt - Team SALT

@Mega Maga I found it very scary but probably because I struggled with low self esteem most of my life

Fri Jun 13 2025
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Dani

I always approach a girl like i would anyone I'd want to be friends with, just hang out and get some food, not to friendzone them but friends come first, partner second, I've found there's a reason it feels awkward at first, and that's because it is awkward to jump a few hurdles 😅. At least if things don't work out the way you thought, you've got a new friend

Thu May 29 2025
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Elisabeth's avatar
Elisabeth

This is a good approach! Some women probably enjoy being approached directly from the start, but I know for me and many of my friends that starting as casual friends is a much less stressful way to get to know people, especially in the context of common social circles. As much as possible, unnecessary awkwardness can and should be avoided. 😂 Not all of it can be, but people can still try, lol.

Mon Jun 02 2025
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Keith's avatar
Keith

@Dani that is very similar to the original hebrew in song of songs - if we seek we sit back watch get to know etc etc - the boundaries for dating - we are not actually meant to date, its a public coming to know and then courtship commitment to marry death do us part. We have secretly let the world slip into christian relationships to taint them

Mon Jun 02 2025
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Mega Maga's avatar
Mega Maga

Yup. That sounds like a healthy approach

Thu Jun 05 2025
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Anonymous's avatar
Anonymous

Want to meet up sometime? Im free (insert time and day here)

Thu May 29 2025
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Nick's avatar
Nick

I used to think it was best to be bold and ask in person but due to some interactions I've found myself not wanting to put the girl in the awkward position of saying no with me standing right there, so I reverted to messaging so they can also take time to think it over. Thoughts?

Thu May 29 2025
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Sharon's avatar
Sharon

Like with most things.. i’d say ‘it depends’ on the whole context of the interaction. How about a blend of both your options? Asking her in person, handing over your number while throwing in where you’d like to take her on said date and letting her have a think?

Thu May 29 2025
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Keith's avatar
Keith

@Nick I find it rare to find a lady who likes bold, there are a few who like direct and I call them power women who excel in certain areas - they have no time for mucking around. Generally be gentle make your intent known and allow her to think, ponder, test and weigh you and come back. Most have been creeped out and need safe assurance - though unless they give you a chance they may never really know

Mon Jun 02 2025
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Immanuella

@Keith I honestly find the direct approach the best - if it's done in a respectful way. Now, it's not a guarantee that the girl will say yes, but that's okay. If she says no, you'll at least know where you stand. If she says that she would like some time to think about it, give her that option too. I also think that asking a girl out should be done in private to avoid embarrassing either party.

Mon Jun 09 2025
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Anson

I'm new to all this, so I'm still figuring it all out😁

Wed May 28 2025
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Keith

@Anson @Anson aren’t we all - the world has changed and boundaries have shifted - depending on one’s life experiences also makes it hard to figure out. Careful evaluating, prayer, discernment and if there’s an if or unsure walk away. If they make it hard walk away, if they go around in circles early walk away Respect, integrity and most of all reverence before God - if thats not there from day one it will never get better

Mon Jun 02 2025
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Lachlan

I don't... I'd rather know a bit about them before asking them out 😂

Wed May 28 2025
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Oritsetsola Susan Abraham

1: At church - with a warm smile on your face.. Hello how did you find today’s teaching if they were sitting on the same row as you.😃 2: At a wedding - if they are dancing in the crowd on their own, be brave remember the scripture “fear not only believe.. Ask them may l dance with you and then strike a conversation. 3: On this dating app - Like Nike says “just do it” - what’s the worst thing that could happen? They say no! Okay move on Gods got someone who'd say yes around the corner..😀🙏🙏

Wed May 28 2025
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Tom

I don’t ask a girl out for fear of being rejected & not being taken seriously.

Wed May 28 2025
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Blessing

If she's on here, she's already being asked out! Unless she's looking for a pen pal 😂😅

Wed May 28 2025
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Anonymous

I typically choose to approach a lady on foot. In my experience, trying to ask a lady out when driving at her in a car or riding towards her on a bike hasn't proven to be as successful as I hoped.

Wed May 21 2025
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Yafet

@Chris 😆 true

Wed May 28 2025
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Mega Maga

🤣 as a cyclist and a somewhat scared pedestrian...... This made me chuckle 🤭

Thu Jun 05 2025
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Joanna

I like when men ask me questions and then listen. It shows they're interested and want to get to know me. It doesn't have to be too deep or personal, but questions to show they're interested. Two way conversation is much better than one way conversation. I find a lot of men have forgotten or don't know what to say to a woman.

Tue May 20 2025
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Renée

Very rare but I like it when they just name the date and place

Tue May 20 2025
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Fiona

I think first change the term Men and girls might I suggest. Unless it's boys and girls or Men and Women it doesn't sound right sorry

Tue May 20 2025
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John's avatar
John

@Fiona Spot on! Great suggestion. BTW', I'm not that great at karaoke 😊

Wed Jun 04 2025
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Andy

Will you be the Ruth to my Boaz? 😎

Tue May 20 2025
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Foluke

@Andy that is really humorous

Wed May 28 2025
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Ari's avatar
Ari

Ask once for 1on1 anywhere, and if rejected, move on. Either f2f or message.

Tue May 20 2025
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Just Me Hayley

@Ari your adorablely handsome & God-centric, with a huge beautiful heart, the complete package your not going to look over and rejected for long🙏🤲

Tue May 20 2025
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Bash

I wouldn’t give it too much emphasis, simply approach and be respectful. I usually ask if they’d like to get a coffee or something lighthearted

Tue May 20 2025
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Mega Maga

Yup... Just ask what and when/where she's free and set sth up!

Thu Jun 05 2025
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