Just approach her and ask if she would like to grab lunch, dinner or coffee. Don't do a movie until later, that's just unneeded silence. Do a later. True men of God are fearless and respectable. Showing strength right away will let her know she's in good hands, but make sure you honor the boundaries of a women
I usually pray and try to get to have an opportunity to talk and get to know them and then you find out what their circumstances are and if they are taken, or too young for me. Depends on the place I met them
I've not approached yet one :') I mean, I've never met a christian under 40
We existe
@Pamela I have faith, but it's difficult these times 🥲
@J I understand ….
Pray an ask God for the Holy Spirit to Lead You . You will feel & know when to make a move she will also feel know . Start off as friends slowly get to know one another & trust in God and The spirit every step of the way
I also find it quite intimidating and scary to ask someone out as the majority of the time, the lady is always with her friends in church.
@Marc if they’re with their friends just approach them and ask if you could speak to her privately when she is free. It’s not rude to do that. Sometimes you just have to be brave and bold! As a woman when a guys does that it shows he is confident and knows what he wants. Good luck :)
@shekinah thanks
@shekinah That's a nice one.. I would love to know you
@Marc if you’re scared about doing that you could always pray to God to remove the fear and get support from friends and family they might have some tips too
If a guy could be bold and honest like ..."Hi, my name is .... I noticed that you like..... Or "You look like an interesting person to talk to, may I share a conversation with you?
@Elizabeth I would go to the Lord Jesus Christa and ask him if this right one for bý the power of the Holy Spirit then I would. I would know if it was the right person then I would love and cuddle her every day a nd most of all tell her I've ever day Aem
@Elizabeth Hello! I'm too honest. Too direct. Too sincere. Women don't like that. 🤣
Then you are trying to be with the wrong type of woman
Christian women u need to ask the men out
That's not really a biblical perspective
12 o clock, here. See you then.
Say I'm a dude, you a duddete let's doodal🫠
@ashley 😁
@ashley so simple yet effective 😄👍
Honest and simple. "Hi (insert name), I really like (insert what you like about her), and wondering (thoughtful question that shows you made the effort to get to know her). I am (insert who you are and basic info). Feel free to reach out to me (insert how she can contact you best). ... and yes, I get 2 invites to the wedding 💗
That was me to. I would try and run faster than this fastest kid in school as well as you. I would even beat the school bus sometimes 😂
@VeritasCordis 2 invites to what wedding?
@Luke in other words, the formula I posted works so well that it will lead to a wedding.
If only I knew 😅
I don’t think the trouble is asking a Christian girl out I think it’s more trouble actually finding one haha
This app is full with Christian women. No excuses
You must see a sign first as she will make a move first but in a feminine way, usually in the form of unconscious body language. It's up to us to pick up on these subtle signs and approach her in a masculine way. Which is to approach her and initiate conversation, but keep looking for those subtle signs which if she is interested will give her away and then you will know ether way if she likes you or not to take it further.
@Marc Hopefully subconsciously and not unconsciously 😁😁
@John what a typo 😂
@Marc It's a surprisingly common thing to hear!
Invite to a place/activity that you know she's interested in. Also, being direct is very important, but giving space to choose either. 😊
Going for a high five, and if her hand lingers with yours. Then that is a good sign also!
You say hello
Just ask a girl out if you already talk to her before lol. If you randomly ask to go out it's kinda creepy
@Andressa I agree x
@Andressa if he’s super cute and attractive it’s not creepy 🙃
Would you like to go out sometime?
@Ask Shakespeare how are you doing. It's been a while since you've posted something. You've been missed 🙏🥺
I think hinting is very difficult to read at the time. Even body language. The penny drops when I get home 🤣
Be sensitive to what a women would like. I’d love to go walking or a cycle ride, but equally out for a lovely meal. Even if you don’t get it quite right, a women will appreciate the effort and kindness you’ve put in, if she doesn’t find one that does 👍🥰
@Emma would love to take you out and a ride on my trike and see the sights x
@Marc crossing the border 😱😱😱 at best you’ll need a passport, at worst your risking life and limb coming to Yorkshire from Lancashire Thornton!
@Emma, great to hear from you, Emma. I come over quite often as my sisters live in Rawtenstall. One of my YouTube videos featured the singing Ringing Tree on Todmorden Moor ☺️ I slept in my car in the car park to catch the sunshine over the sculpture 😂
@Emma I'm in Thornton Bradford West Yorkshire ☺️
@Marc 🤣🤣🤣
@Emma 🤣 fancy having a laugh together 😂🥳😆
@Marc a little busy at present but very kind of you to offer, God bless you 🤗
@Emma maybe another time then?
A Christian woman is no different from any woman so I don't think you need to treat any woman different all women are the same you don't need to do anything any different because they are Christian
@Stevo 🤣🤣🤣🥴
@Stevo exactly
@Stevo 🙌 all respectfully 🙏💗
I think just how are you doing today will be a good starter, then on to the next motive
I'd be a gentleman about everuthing.. hey. I'm jay nicecto meet u. So let's take a walk and get to know each other.. let's go out to eat. Chinese. Lol
@Jay yup that works.
@Mega Maga it works for me too what Chinese food do u like x
@Jay hahaha
I like the man being pro-active and show initiative. How mot to approach: asking the woman to travel to yiou. Asking the woman to make a suggestion/set up and plan the date/give her ideas. How to do it right: ask if she wants to meet in person If she's interested, would she like option a b c ... (In her area). Then confirm with her which of the options she likes/dislikes and suitable time slots.
Women not girls .....men not boys or put boys and girls....don't mix it up someone comment on this please
@Fiona I reported this post for the use of girls and men
I mean that I reported the original author.
@Rachel thanks hun appreciate it
It's interesting how women are still infantilised while MEN actually behave a lot more like boys nowadays... And yet.... We're addressed as 'girls' .... 🤷🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️
@Mega Maga @Rachel I give her the benefit of the doubt that it just her way of communicating an innocent post. You don’t own language and you don’t control her - it’s her freedom. Ironically, in fact, that’s a conservative value. Plus, as I understand, she’s happily married so she must be doing somethings right 😃
Also @Mega Maga @Rachel Titus 1:15 To the pure, all things are pure, but to those who are corrupted and do not believe, nothing is pure. In fact, both their minds and consciences are corrupted. Please be gracious to your other sisters in Christ 👍and maybe see if you can learn a thing or 2 from them 😃
@Jude A report is just that - a report. The use of the word girls is offensive to some of us, and I informed Salt of this. I am choosing to ignore your personal comments towards me
@Rachel It’s the long weekend here in Sydney from tomorrow - public holiday on Monday. I’m going fishing 🎣 for trouts with the BOYS 😃
@Jude no it needs editing Jude if it was the other way around men wouldn't like it and rightly so, also married all know they don't have everything together same as singles so don't put people on pedestals for being married like they are the fount
@Fiona that’s just your opinion that the guys would be offended. I absolutely wouldn’t ✌️ Her freedom doesn’t need editing. You can’t control her, but you certainly can control yourself and your response. #self-control
@Jude It's not about offence or whether people say boys - it's about the original post referring to Men and girls
@Rachel okay, so you understand that whether it’s offensive or not depends on you👌 What’s wrong with her reference? That’s how she talks. That’s her usage of the language. When people write, especially females, they make it personal - so she probably still likes the term ‘girl’ being assigned to her. She’s a gal, she a lass - typical terms in UK culture. She is NOT being a pervert, which is what you’re insinuating. I think she’s super cool, easygoing and real and INNOCENT.
@Rachel In my opinion, the MOST important part about this is that she is FREE. I pray that you and people like you can enjoy that FREEDOM one day. I can guarantee you that us, reasonable BOYS, will not want to marry or stay married with females who see malice, mistakes or ill-intent and want police our language and behaviour. I can’t imagine how exhausting it must be to be in a relationship with someone who does that.
Well I believe someone have to make the move first either women or men It’s doesn’t matter who make the first move.. well im new here trying my luck out here Hope am welcome
@Mert the manakes the move and sets up the date. Don't be pasive! Its mot what men are for!
@Mega Maga 💪♥️💪♥️💪
1. Join one of the Salt Tables. 2. Get in the chat. 3. Start a conversation 1 person. 4. Make sure she has a Salt profile and not using web-based Salt Table - very important 🙃 (and she’s local, unless you can afford air fares). 5. Send an intro after the table talk. 6. Chat, chat, chat 7. “You’re so great. I’d like to meet you in person” And voilà!
Has that ever happened in real life? Im still waiting for ANY manon here to make an effort to even ask me out for a coffee 😞 They're so incredibly passive 🥴
Please take this with the kindness that it is said with, but when I see your name pop up on Table talks, it makes me think of Donald Trump and his right wing supporters. Maybe consider a change to your profile?
Cool. Im right wing. Glad the name does the job :)
@Mega Maga I know this is getting off-topic But I appreciate the transparency and boldness to use your name to tell your view on politics .... -We are called to love people, not imagine them to be enemies It shows maturity when we are not triggered by what others say ..... As well as not broadly paint others all the same by how they vote .... I wish more people would be clear in their profiles about their worldview and profiles God bless 🙏
Thanks. Appreciate it.
@Rachel That's precisely the type of woman I'm very interested in!
Not even men who call themselves Christians want to ask a woman out, they act like spoiled boys Unfortunately:-(
Yup. Or like castrated cats. Idk what's wrong with men nowadays... They're so annoyingly passive 😟
First make friends. And then ask out. Ask Holy Spirit how to deal with her and over all if it will be wise to ask her out. And where to take her ect.
@Jutta definitely
They would probably prefer something nice but I would rather say Let's risk it for the biscuit
Meaning?
Make friends first, but don't be shy, ask them out for coffee or lunch/dinner. Offer to fully pay for the date if possible. Once you know them enough, if they are still single, ask them if they have any feelings for you, and if yes then don't wait any longer, ask them out ASAP. If they don't have feelings then it's no harm, you're just having fun with your friend.
Well, if I know her a little bit, and I like her... normal as any honest man does. In fact, I invite her with all my friends!... to walk or ride a bike in the woods, to walk in the old city, to have a drink, to swim in the pool, to play sports, to a night of games (billar, soccer, ping pong or bowling). In fact, I am starting to do that, organize and invite all my friends/knowledge, and of course, nice if you like me, you are more than invited!
Do women typically still wait for men to make the first move? Is that still a thing?
@Alfie Apparently yes, and they even have "theology" to have that attitude. In fact, I wrote about it, and someone replied to me, ending up saying that before I speak, I think more. 😅
@yannykgw continue with your attitude of thinking that you don't need to ask a woman out, because there are things that don't even need to be said to understand that you are not a knight and do not follow biblical principles.
@Alfie Of course
@Alfie yes it is still a thing… 😊
@Alfie two men questioning chivalry and biblical principles
Of course! It's one of the most important decisions in our lives.... The man needs to actively demonstrate who he is and what life with him will look like.
Hi girls I live in Houston tx
For me as I'm a straight forward type of person, I like it to be direct to the point but sometimes it's awkward when u doesn't like the one who is asking you out. I mean it's rude to ignore them and say no also but sorry ✌️😊
Just ask her straight, no intro or whatsoever so long as your intention is pure.
Don’t download this app and touch grass
Haha good one.
I like it when the guy admires something about my personality or a skill I've worked on, but only after talking for a while so it actually feels genuine. On the flip side, I don't like hearing a guy I've just met compliment my physical appearance right away. It makes me uncomfortable, to be honest, and feels a bit creepy somehow? I don't know if other ladies relate to this feeling or not, but I'd much rather be called beautiful after a few weeks of getting to know each other, not a few minutes.
@Elisabeth i totally relate… especially being called sexy right away… i could handle beautiful but don’t call me sexy when you don’t even know anything about me 😊😊
@Goodness 100%!
@Goodness You are absolutely correct
@Elisabeth totally agree with you. Beauty is fleeting after all ☺️
Be curious ask questions, compliment and from there start a conversation before you know it you’ll be exchanging numbers.
How about "Excuse me, do you go to church? Would you like to go with me?"
That would work on me as I'm not a great socialiser
I believe it should be appropriate, case by case. To be honest, even Sault looks like sugar. Prayer first about your true intentions surrounding why you want to ask a woman of God out. It must be a situation where the man's intentions are set forth to marry the woman as it says in the Bible. We as strong men are born to be the leader in the household only leading by faith and a strong representation of what it means to be a mature man of God. With a great blessing comes 🙏
So true
When I used to date before I tied the knot, I'd approach with a compliment on her style or about something going on around us, chat about that, introduce myself, ask for her number.
@Matt - Team SALT but I rarely actually did this because it's scary as hell
How is it scary, it’s not like we bite?!😅
@Matt - Team SALT Scary as hell is correct and I respect your honesty - I’ve come from abuseful relationships add to it I am high functioning asd and cannot interpret body language in always on guard. Its hard in a church or visiting one as a single and the first thing I do now to settle myself is look for wedding bands to gauge intentions - but that does not always go down well.
Why is it teens and early 20’s can get away with murder and middle ages trying to walk righteously before God can be treated so badly - loneliness stinks but sometimes its safer to remain lonely in the arms of God comfirted by Holy Spirit Theres supposed to be no fear in perfect love but so few walk in His perfect love
@Ilisapeci do you not find it scary putting yourself out there and being vulnerable?
Nope maybe nervous but not scary.
There's nothing scary about asking a woman out. Men are just having these expectations nowadays that they can chill and the woman does it all... Far too passive!!
I think we have to be careful not to berate men if they aren't feeling comfortable with initiating. I think it's better to encourage them. Men have been told by women many times that a man's attention isn't wanted. Women have been reacting angrily to men approaching for years now. That makes women seem unapproachable, but then men are told that they should initiate. Men have feelings too, and I think expecting them to act like they don't isn't fair or healthy.
@Mega Maga I found it very scary but probably because I struggled with low self esteem most of my life
I always approach a girl like i would anyone I'd want to be friends with, just hang out and get some food, not to friendzone them but friends come first, partner second, I've found there's a reason it feels awkward at first, and that's because it is awkward to jump a few hurdles 😅. At least if things don't work out the way you thought, you've got a new friend
This is a good approach! Some women probably enjoy being approached directly from the start, but I know for me and many of my friends that starting as casual friends is a much less stressful way to get to know people, especially in the context of common social circles. As much as possible, unnecessary awkwardness can and should be avoided. 😂 Not all of it can be, but people can still try, lol.
@Dani that is very similar to the original hebrew in song of songs - if we seek we sit back watch get to know etc etc - the boundaries for dating - we are not actually meant to date, its a public coming to know and then courtship commitment to marry death do us part. We have secretly let the world slip into christian relationships to taint them
Yup. That sounds like a healthy approach
Want to meet up sometime? Im free (insert time and day here)
I used to think it was best to be bold and ask in person but due to some interactions I've found myself not wanting to put the girl in the awkward position of saying no with me standing right there, so I reverted to messaging so they can also take time to think it over. Thoughts?
Like with most things.. i’d say ‘it depends’ on the whole context of the interaction. How about a blend of both your options? Asking her in person, handing over your number while throwing in where you’d like to take her on said date and letting her have a think?
@Nick I find it rare to find a lady who likes bold, there are a few who like direct and I call them power women who excel in certain areas - they have no time for mucking around. Generally be gentle make your intent known and allow her to think, ponder, test and weigh you and come back. Most have been creeped out and need safe assurance - though unless they give you a chance they may never really know
@Keith I honestly find the direct approach the best - if it's done in a respectful way. Now, it's not a guarantee that the girl will say yes, but that's okay. If she says no, you'll at least know where you stand. If she says that she would like some time to think about it, give her that option too. I also think that asking a girl out should be done in private to avoid embarrassing either party.
I'm new to all this, so I'm still figuring it all out😁
@Anson @Anson aren’t we all - the world has changed and boundaries have shifted - depending on one’s life experiences also makes it hard to figure out. Careful evaluating, prayer, discernment and if there’s an if or unsure walk away. If they make it hard walk away, if they go around in circles early walk away Respect, integrity and most of all reverence before God - if thats not there from day one it will never get better
I don't... I'd rather know a bit about them before asking them out 😂
1: At church - with a warm smile on your face.. Hello how did you find today’s teaching if they were sitting on the same row as you.😃 2: At a wedding - if they are dancing in the crowd on their own, be brave remember the scripture “fear not only believe.. Ask them may l dance with you and then strike a conversation. 3: On this dating app - Like Nike says “just do it” - what’s the worst thing that could happen? They say no! Okay move on Gods got someone who'd say yes around the corner..😀🙏🙏
I don’t ask a girl out for fear of being rejected & not being taken seriously.
If she's on here, she's already being asked out! Unless she's looking for a pen pal 😂😅
I typically choose to approach a lady on foot. In my experience, trying to ask a lady out when driving at her in a car or riding towards her on a bike hasn't proven to be as successful as I hoped.
@Chris 😆 true
🤣 as a cyclist and a somewhat scared pedestrian...... This made me chuckle 🤭
I like when men ask me questions and then listen. It shows they're interested and want to get to know me. It doesn't have to be too deep or personal, but questions to show they're interested. Two way conversation is much better than one way conversation. I find a lot of men have forgotten or don't know what to say to a woman.
Very rare but I like it when they just name the date and place
I think first change the term Men and girls might I suggest. Unless it's boys and girls or Men and Women it doesn't sound right sorry
@Fiona Spot on! Great suggestion. BTW', I'm not that great at karaoke 😊
Will you be the Ruth to my Boaz? 😎
@Andy that is really humorous
Ask once for 1on1 anywhere, and if rejected, move on. Either f2f or message.
@Ari your adorablely handsome & God-centric, with a huge beautiful heart, the complete package your not going to look over and rejected for long🙏🤲
I wouldn’t give it too much emphasis, simply approach and be respectful. I usually ask if they’d like to get a coffee or something lighthearted
Yup... Just ask what and when/where she's free and set sth up!
