It has been very challenging to me. As I am often in the stage, I feel that is very “dangerous” to date other woman in the church. I believe that there is some kind of “idolatry” to leaders that are anointed by God, that makes it difficulty to date in honest/ safe way. I believe there is such a need to teach about this subject, so it honors God design for daiting and marriage.
@Jose Ignacio yeah that idolatry does happen and it’s so 🤮
Yall are lucky. Most African churches are conservative and don't even allow dating... So for a leader it would be quiet tough indeed
@Victor Maybe it is time to respectiveful break that bandage
I find myself in this exact spot. My leaders have always encouraged me to date as a leader. When I find myself in a serious relationship, I just do what every other good Christian would do in a healthy relationship. The thing for me is; we value, at my church is to bring your dating live into community. If I am hide my relationship, then those under me would feel they need to do likewise, and then that open them for Satan to have their way with them.
I am really grateful for my leaders who gave me this freedom to search for a spouse
Dating isn't hard. I believe it's as simple as it can get. Example: I am a 36 years old pentecostal men. I know what I want for my future in all aspects of life. I am looking for a pentecostal woman within 10 year age gap. Between the ages of 26 to 40. A woman with kids. A woman who also knows what she wants in her life in all aspects. As we both have our same spiritual beliefs, there shouldn't be an issue their. There has to be some attractiveness between eachother.
There has to be more positive impact than negative ones.
If you are referring to the church leaders, just because they are single does not mean that they do not have the knowledge of the word and with the word and their knowledge they can direct and guide the raven, because wisdom is not on earth but in the scriptures of God.
I am diacon and worship team, not dating at the moment but when I was, we both just go to our pastors and express that we was dating and they was praying and taking care of us. My church was like a real family, we care for each other for real. I move to a different country and I don't see this kind of support here. That is not good! But each culture has own ways that unfortunately, reflect in the church life as well. I only "date" online for now. 😝
It is really hard. As a church staff member (I work in IT) I have a rule not to date people coming to our church to make sure church is a safe place for people to freely seek Jesus unhesitantly. I want peoples walk with God to always be a priority even when conversing with me. And it is amazing to see God's glory with every life and every person I meet but it makes dating harder. 😅💜 But we shouldn't treat God's precious people with self gain or self intrest but rather serving and pouring out.
As a single church leader myself, I have no dating life 🤣
@Pa i can relate 🤣
The things we sacrifice for the Gospel 😂
When you say church leaders do you mean specifically the ones who lead in a physical church building, or church leaders in and outside of physical church walls?
