Can girls and guy be 'just friends'?

Yes

Yep, but we have to establish some limits so that things don't get confused

Yes

Yes they can

I think they can, but the friendship should be and look very different than a friendship between the same gender. It’s important to have boundaries so that nobody gets confused or misreads things. Me personally, I don’t hangout with a guy one on one, it’s always with a group of people. Unless it’s a date and made very clear that that’s the intent by both sides.

Yes!!! It is important to maintain a genuine friendship, initially, without any kind of romantic approach or falling in love!! Later when they get to know each other well, they can discern if it is possible to have a relationship or maintain the friendship as they started it at the beginning!!

Yes

No, they cannot.100% of cases at least one of them has a plan ...be it romantic,be it material

No

Yes, absolutely with limit

No

No

NO.

Yes

the real qwestion is whether guys and guys can be frwends!

Yes

Of course they can, not all encounters are meant to be romantic.

My best friend is a guy and even though we have a lot in common, I’m just not interested in him romantically and he doesn’t make my number one standard ,having a personal relationship with Jesus

Yes,they can

Yes definitely

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I think, yes. Being friends with someone is all about finding someone who match your character

Yes, of course!

Yes, men and woman can share even being friends or not

I think men and women can certainly be friends. I have a lot of female friends. If they are actively trying to lead you into something intimate then it becomes a problem

Of course, it is. Totally!!

I think this depends largely on each person and how the relationship is handled, in my case, I do not consider that the friendship between men and women is completely simple, since sometimes feelings or misunderstandings can arise, especially if one of the parties already has a stable relationship. ☺️

While people are single yes cuz how else are you going to figure out if you & the other person click. the longer it is the more you learn of them, so you don’t break their ❤️. When you get into a relationship to fast and then realize that you two don’t really clicked & break it off most times it’s 1 person thinking that. you still have to be very careful cuz the devil will temp you if you put yourself into situations you shouldn’t be. But once you bf/gf no more 1 on 1 out of respect 2 your bf/gf

In any male and female relationship it's almost certain that one person is attracted to the other which means ongoing frustration for the besotted person while the other party is often naively and blissfully unaware. Not a healthy dynamic.

If there is a way. The devil will find it and use it. They should not be in a room by themselves. Temptations will probably be present

😂 remember eve? Remember Samson girlfriend?

Yes

No

I have a best friend guy for 13 years and it’s super possible. We never got weird about it or getting feelings for each other. We were together in church all the time. We never were attracted to each other like that. It was more like siblings vibe

I think Yes, my friends is like my sisters. In my heart its like adopt sisters.

Nope! Not possibel answer is simpel

I think there’s a non pressured environment that becomes very attractive to both so not sure if that’s a good thing or bad thing 🤷‍♂️

I used to think this was possible but every guy I’ve been friends with eventually wanted more. However that was before I became Christian.

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Not really I think usually someone feels something for the other

Only if neither is attracted to the other

yes

Yes I have many women friends. But if one is attracted to the other it will usually lead to one eventually trying to move towards a relationship or FWB.

In my opinion, one of the them may always be attracted to the other. But there are exceptions, it may just be friendship.

No. Because one of them always has different intentions

I don't think so!

Yes they can be, but ask yourself: Which parts are not for the other person when you don‘t plan to marry her and just place the person as a friend. Cause some topic shouldn‘t be open to the other sex. So making a limit is a good thing to know, can we Talk about it or will it infect how i see the other person

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As long as there's no attraction on either side. But if you're both single it's fine cuz if it turns into more than friends, then great! But if you're in a relationship or married then no, you can't be friends if there's attraction there.

Si. Totalmente

Based on my experience, I would say yes. As long as everything is handled from the line of respect, not only to the person who acts as a friend, but to his partner (if he came to have it)

I used to think yes, however from a personal experience - I can assure you it most likely will not workout for a girls and guys to be friends. Relationships and the partners of the individuals can get involved, then breakups happen and things can happen between both of you then you realise you’re just friends but then you try to move on but again relationships will get involved. I’d advise against.

Yes, I do! I have a best friend, and I consider him a brother. Of course, it's different from a friendship between men or women; it requires even more respect. In the case of marriage, the ideal is for the friend to become a friend of the couple.

One piece of advice I’ve heard that is very helpful is that you should never allow yourself to be put in a situation where you may allow yourself or the other person to give way to sin or the flesh. It’s not that you’re going to act upon it necessarily, but why allow Satan to bait you. He’s used this often to ruin some of the best of us and to not learn from that is just not a good decision.

Yes, I think so, I have a best (girl) friend for a year now and it's going great! Also, I have more friends that are woman/girls. Might be different for other people though

Nope. Unfortunately, freewill and sin are there. People desire what they can't have. Also it will always be inevitable that a prolonged amount of time with someone will cause you to have mixed emotions. Maybe if you were friends from childhood 🤔but newly no. I doubt it. Strong character is needed and we are surrounded by weak ones. Not everyone has same intentions as you. Sorry

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No. My ex wife asked me that and I don't think it's possible

No. I used to think so, but now I'm 40, I see it's impossible. I can have male friends, but they have recently confided in me that they think otherwise. This is so hard when you've been friends for years. One guy I have known 23yrs, met at college. I see him as older brother, cousin or uncle. When he told me he liked me, I was so confused. All the years of friendship may have been a lie. Because he might have wanted me as a wife? So the friendship is not genuine. I cried, it was a shock.

Yes, though it depends on the people and as others have said, with clear communication and boundaries. Isolation and loneliness are big problems, so being prescriptive about friendships adds to that. As one gets into 30’s onwards, the pool of friends available to socialise and do things gets smaller. Another issue (dare I say especially in church) is others see a guy and girl talking and assume there’s more to it. That creates unnecessary awkwardness and pressure.

God didn't make guys & girls to be just friends. If both people are straight,someone is gonna catch feelings for the other person & want to be more than friends.

I met someone at church recently we're attracted to each other but she's made it very clear, friends only and I'm struggling w

No, we can't be friends. One always feels more and differently, and something can always happen.

I think so but there should be boundaries 😊

Some of my longest most consistent friendships are with my male friend from childhood, so yes. However it’s important to know and set boundaries; I’ve never been attracted to any of them before, yet I ensure we’re clear on who’s who. We don’t even talk deep into the nights outside group conversations for example. There are newer guys I’ve learnt to regulate our friendship to honour their spouses and partners. It’s a lot about boundaries and ideally keeping a group experience 🌸

I dont think so

Yes if your boundaries are clear. I have a couple best guy friends whose wives are totally ok with us hanging out alone, as we’re all close and everyone is on the same page about it. That being said, I wouldn’t feel comfortable say, going to dinner alone with one of my guy friends without their wives. Just because I don’t want even the appearance of evil. Having coffee is fine though. And these guys are like brothers and I am like their sister and it’s treated as such.

No

I would say yes. I have two women friends with whom I am completely platonic, that said there are boundaries of course. The boundaries in regards to my faith do the trick though, since I believe in saving sex for marriage that closes the door to many other temptations or occasions thereof.

Yes it is possible if boundaries are set

I think when you’re younger yes, very possible. But once you go from hanging as a group to more 1:1, it grays and can become tempting. Friendship, for me, would be group settings, side hugs, limiting late nights and minimal attire situations.

It’s possible yes, however that’s not really the important thing.. is it advisable? Well no in my opinion , there are so many temptations with these kind of relationships. That being said , are these relationships genuine? From my experience no, I have always had so called female friends clearly exploiting me for information they would not get from other females. Diff mindsets and perspectives often lead to high dependency.I would just say this, be a best friend to your bio sister or bro first.

It depends on the definition of ‚being friends’. I would state that is very rare situation as very often one person has romantic feelings to the other one’s

My best friend is a guy, he is my brother in Christ. There has never been anything more than family love there. I don’t believe someone is less qualified to be a good friend just because they are of the opposite sex. If Jesus could be close friends with a woman, why can’t we?

If a girl is my friend that is girlfriend 🤣

With these questions it depends entirely on you and the other person and on the foundation. Some people do fine in that friendship others struggle they would rather have the person in their life as a friend than not at all. For others, that same scenario is intolerably painful they have to be with the person as a lover/partner, or they can’t stand to be around the person at all.

I don’t think it works if one or both are hoping for a romantic relationship. But I think if they see each other as a brother/sister then it’s possible. I’d say that my friendships with men are different from those with women, though. Friends rather than best friends.

Yes I believe they can especially if there’s no feelings there. And I believe there’s no boundaries only cause I’m an open person so yeah.

Yes

I’ve struggled in that past as I’ve gotten to know people love feelings blossom quickly so in my experiences no but ocasional meet ups can happen xx

In my experience, it's much more safe and healthy to experience a male-female friendship in the context of a group. One on one relationships across genders can easily develop unhealthy attachments, even if both people aren't "interested" romantically in the other person

Yes

If you’re walking in the likeness of the Christ most certainly you can but there are lines that must not be crossed. If Jesus wouldn’t do it you shouldn’t.

I think it’s possible. I had a guy friend who I did not have any feelings of romance but was a good friend.

No.

I strongly believe the answer to be "no". God created women and men for each other in a very deep, romantic, biological way. We are wired to be attracted to each other - being friends with the opposite sex will surely lead to feelings of desire, "what if", lust, or worse, cheating on your real partner with your "friend".

Generally speaking I'd say no but there are exceptions to the rule but those are very rare and need to be approached with discernment. Like I would say giving a lift to a coworker everyday who is of the opposite sex is a no go because of the amount of time you are spending with them 1 on 1 in close quarters

nah. someone always has feelings or is another's backup plan.

I believe if your single 💯 but if your married or in a relationship it’s a no go for a couple reasons. I have seen it happen far to many times that 2 people have no interest in each other but then the relationship gets hard or something happens in one’s life and it goes sideways way to easily. Also men especially but it does go both ways, put different effort into a male female relationship then a male male one and that different effort belong to his wife not some female friend.

Excellent question. I believe we can. But one must set boundaries, give honor and have purity. One example is set by Paul In Philippians, he mentions Euodia and Syntyche, and commends them as sisters “who have labored side by side with me in the gospel” (Philippians 4:3).

I think it's possible. If the girl is happily married or 100% not interested. I met one girl four years ago who has zero interest in me. 😃 If it's 50% interest, it's possibly going wrong. 😃

It's possible, yes. They're not Christians, but I met a handful of people at uni whom I'm still in regular contact with, one of them is a guy among a few women. None of us have ever felt any attraction towards him, or vice versa, but we're all good friends. I think culture often says that if a man and woman are friends, it will always become more. Which is not true. But can leave you overthinking interactions sometimes when there's no need to.

Can Christians be brothers and sisters in Christ? Yes. Also friends? Also yes. Where being strictly only friends is necessary strong boundaries and a healthy social group is important.

I do feel like in our adults lives, if someone has a spouse, I think its okay to be cordial but idk about hanging out and being friends, its frowned upon. Not really a good look.

Everyone is always gonna feel different on this.... but for me, yes I can. I dont like my boys. Never have. Never been my type. Never wanted relations with them. 22 years later, we are all adults. Some of them are married, and my feelings are still the same and their wives know that there is never anything weird and never will be. I think some guys are cool, but I dont want anything with them but its easier if u make it clear from the jump.