They lied on their profile? 😲

I think I’d gently bring it up and just ask. No need to jump to conclusions right away. Sometimes people forget to update their profiles or there’s more to the story. I like to create space for honesty, because how someone responds tells you a lot. If it turns out to be a genuine mix-up, that’s okay. But if it feels off or they avoid the question, it’s also okay to step back. At the end of the day, you deserve clarity, and when someone’s serious, their words and actions will match.

There's being dishonest, and then there's lying. One is acceptable, the other is not....

Isabel address it before you go further

Politely address it, gently rebuke with love, be the Salt.

This post is extremely narcissistic because no one is a static profile. Has anyone besides Jesus ever fulfilled something so perfect? Ridiculous.

Depends on the severity of the lie. I truly believe everyone can benefit from practicing polite confrontation and how the other person responds will say a lot about their character. But overall I would be weary of anyone that needs to tell serious lies to attract a mate…

Your 1st point wouldn’t do well for a CV if you’re applying for a job. For your 2nd point, this app enables introverts who tend to find it harder to get in relationships to be courageous, to get out of their shells and put themselves out there. Your 3rd point brings me back to your 1st point. You skip profile prompts, we skip you. We only consider candidates who put in real efforts and care.

Off with their heads—all of them!😂 But fr, there are many weeds in this garden! 🤭

Did they really? On a dating profile? Where the objective is to present themselves in the most attractive light? Surely you jest.

Call em out on it be bold as a lion.

I remember when I first filled out my profile and I had to choose my height, maybe it has changed now but there was a series of checkboxes going up from 2'0", 2'1" etc but I couldn't find a way to scroll up to my height so I spent a good long time with my profile saying I am 3'6" which was the maximum height I was able to select 😂 I suppose it was a "lie" due to technical issues but if in doubt I would challenge someone 😁

it’s difficult to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth… Especially with the few words that can fit onto a bio. I try to look for something spiritually good. If I can’t find that then i often pass. Most issues are half truths or they just leave out the info that’s hard to talk about. A full lie is difficult to come back from.

If you’re lying online, just imagine the streets 😭… no time for all of that. They belong to the streets

I would say it depends on context. If the discrepancy is about sports, hobbies or favourite food - that can change or it could be miss click in the wide list. If it is about core values, I would address is and eventually excuse myself if the change was in opposition to my core values.

Discuss it with them first but if they still say the same thing that is contradicting the profile and you’re unsure about what is going on write to the apps customer service team because you never know if they’re a catfish (been caught myself on another app) but definitely talk to them about it first.

I would also say try and use discernment but if the issue repeats itself, politely withdraw.

We have to use discernment and trust the LORD, especially 🙏 when it comes to matters of the heart ❤️

Okay so I was talking to someone on here. Arranged a date and I was a little unsure as he was love bombing me. Reached out to a friend as she is dating and it turns out he has been dating her. She stopped dating him as she saw his profile on another app and it was contradicting what his profile on Salt said and what he said in real life. He is a surreal liar.

So many bots here

Well that would be a red flag so I would talk about it with the person in a way maybe they can explain especially if you're interested and invested.

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Politely inquire for sure!

LIE BY OMISSION, i.e. not filling out the profile completely with all relevant info so the other party can make an educated decision to pursue or not. Very common.

Why is my comment appearing with someone else comment???

We are the light, the nature of the light is to shine and expose ...so I think right think is to give a chance to the person to come clean or not. Some might realize and apologize and change some may cover the lie but you will never know the true nature of that person if you do not bring it up...who knows if you are the one to bring such a one to repentance ??? So talking about it in Love will be the most Godly thing to do instead of staying silent .

Trust, honesty and integrity are essential - one would hope this goes without saying on a Christian site, though sadly isn’t always the case. Assumptions and misunderstandings happen, so address the concern(s) and give the person opportunity to explain. If it’s clear they were dishonest, then walk away (as difficult as that is). It would help if Salt would teach and foster basic acceptable standards - this is a Christian space and people lying indicates a lack of discipleship (by the Church).

Not wrong to just ask... assumptions can be tricky. Most times it will show in the way they reply.

I know someone who did not put their own name up, but used another name. when I asked them about it they said they thought they needed to provide a username. Also, said it is to protect their privacy

Difficult!!!! I’d be interested to know why, fear of rejection or insecurity that can be worked with? Genuine mistake? Unable to be honest with themselves about who they are and where they are at. If they are consistently doing this I would worry they couldn’t be trusted and therefore they are not ready to be a reliable partner for someone.