Man rejection is Godâs protection. Focus on yourself and your relationship with God while keeping an open heart. God knows the desires of your heart and He also knows what is right for you. Know that you are loved by God and that love from a man who God calls to be your husband will reflect Godâs love for you.
@Kristen this is such good advice, thank you for pointing us all back to the truth! ð«¶ð»ð€
Keep telling yourself that you are God's beloved, and what he thinks about you is all that matters. I would keep talking to God about the kind of partner I would want to spend the rest of my life with. He or she should put God first. Remembering that Eve came out of Adam as the church came out of Christ and that Christ loves the church and husbands ought to love their wives in the same way!
Just talk to someone else... plenty of fish in the sea ðð
There is a study where young children were raised only by food and with no love. These children died or killed themselves. There are several more stories where children are ignored by their parents. These children searched for love and intimacy. Therefore, they started to be offensive. But what they got was even more hate and misunderstanding instead of love and intimacy. It is right that we all need love to be healthy, but we can't force people to love us.
Jesus Christ is the one and only solution for every need. He knows everything and loves to help everyone who is giving life in his hands. In the Bible, it says: âEveryone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.â John 4,13-14 We don't need more love than the love of Jesus Christus.
Are these questions for teenagers? Do we have something to discuss even for adults?
I learnt a lesson from Corrie ten boom... She loved a man who did love her back, but his family said he had to marry rich, so he did. She was heartbroken. But her father (a strong Christian) said don't allow this to become bitterness. Ask God to help you love him the way God loves him. She did, and after that she had a peace in her heart. Extraordinary since she consequently never married.
@Lydia she was an amazing lady - a great example of forgiveness and love. ð§¡
@Léah ikr, I loved all her books. Her dad in particular really inspired me. Imagine what kind of godly man raises four children and they all turn out super godly. Says a lot about him.
It doesn't matter what anyone else says... Jesus loves me no matter what!
My friend told me something, if you were everyone's cup of tea, you'd be a mug. Helps me but, I still don't think I am likely to even find the right girl for me here but we will see. Try to remember God will provide for me hopefully when I am ready
Sounds like my life story ð
@Joseph mine too lately
You only need one... He's not for you. One more closer to the one the Lord has for you!
I don't take it personally. My views and beliefs are not mainstream so it's difficult to find a match.
Sounds like you are a folower of the gospel of grace Matt
Iâve got about a 0.5-1% success rate on this app, followed by ghosting straight away anyway. Is this normal or am I really that bad?
@Matt oh Matt I do feel your pain ð Generally people actually ghost because actually they think your awesome but arenât right for them and simply donât want to say this as they donât want to hurt you. Rejection doesnât mean there is anything wrong with you, youâre just not right for them. You are fearfully and wonderfully made by God. He promises a hope and a future, easy for me to say, harder when youâre heartbroken and feeling rejected. May God heal your heart ð
@Emma thanks and Iâm aware that online dating sucks, especially for men I think. Iâve had more success just meeting in person than apps, so it must just be how I come across, but when youâre ânot rightâ for literally hundreds of people (especially those who you know full well you could be) it ends up feeling like youâre just undateable!
@Matt I hear you & I feel like that feeling is definitely mutual. Sometimes I think why are some people signing up but very rarely on the app so they don't know that they received intro's but it's even more frustrating receiving likes & as you not paying a subscription you can't see who's liking you.
100% agreed. What I can't understand is the fact that we are all supposed to be different from the world. And yet we should not be like the world. The world looks at us and sees no difference. We are supposed to be christ-like!
For me, I see it as Godâs protection and direction. Yes, it may sting but if weâre praying for the Lord to direct us to the one who is for us then we also have to know that not everyone is going to like us back. Do you like everyone who likes you? Of course not.
Everytime we get rejected, we should do 50 push-ups. This will help both our mind and body.
@Gourab I wish it was so simple
@Gourab ð
When I was younger, it hurt - even a few years ago it still hurt ...but less. Now though...I welcome it, because it means that person is not for me and I don't waste time on them. I am rather ruthless with my time which is extremely precious, and honestly I've become pretty good at deleting conversations that stall or go no where. I make contact or call no more than twice...if no response...Bye!!! I have no time for anyone who cannot tell what they want concerning me. No apology! I'm blessed
I pray you find a man who loves you you your entire life
Sure sometimes people aren't a lot on the app & don't know. I just feel like the person put in the effort to read your bio & your post & such & sent me an Intro then I should do the honorable thing & show the common decency to respond respectfully with either a yes or no & give clarity for my answer. I'd expect the same from someone else who I sent an intro too. Don't ghost,block or ignore cause that's just blatantly rudeness & cost nothing to show kindness. Manners maketh the man or woman.
@Just Me Hayley I a with agree that.
@Just Me Hayley most times they match with you and go mute,it's crazy ðð
Agreed. It's un christ-like
Well I just accept the fact that they donât like me. It hurts yes but itâs not about me , itâs about their preference. For example I like banana but not Apple, I am sure some people will argue apples are better, but darling thatâs just what I like, it has nothing to do with what is better. Itâs my preference.
I like both Windows and apple ð
prayer is the key.
It is something we all have to deal with in this modern world. You just have to get back up and keep trying. Everyone deserves happiness.
If youâre so secure in Jesus Christ, rejection is like water off a ducks back. Not bothered one bitâ-> neext ð. Thereâs many other important things going on in the world (like potential WW3), biblical prophecy unfolding before our very eyes regarding Israel, the soon rapture of the Church- if youâre not a post millennialâŠthat should warrant care, attention, and energy. Rejection is the pettiest thing a secure person should even entertain.
Then it wasn't meant to be... someone out there will adore you... find and PRAY FOR your person to come. PRAYER, GROUP PRAYER, ALL PRAYER JUST PRAY! â€ïž
Just move on. Bury your past.
@Pastor Marc. Boa noite, na paz do senhor Jesus! Tudo bem com você
You must find your satisfaction in the acceptance that you have in Christ, he has better things for you and don't necessarily coincides with our human expectations but are better. This is only a tiny part of our life, don't make it the most important when isn't
I understand ð¢
Thinking itâs for good :)
I dunno. What did Jesus do when Judas Iscariot rejected him?
@Eric or Peter. He knew Peter was going to reject/deny him 3 times. And yet he became the rock to form his church. Jesus saw the repentance of Peter as well. And Accepted Judas betrayed as part of his calling. He was sad that night on the mount but he took his cross anyway .
Most of the time, Iâve actually been the one doing the rejecting, not because I want to, but because my faith matters deeply to me. Iâve had to turn down kind, genuine women who didnât share my Christian beliefs. Thatâs hard in its own way. And when I am rejected, itâs usually passive, ghosting or silence, which can sting, but I try not to take it personally but itâs still hard. I remind myself that what Iâm looking for is rare, and thatâs okay. Iâd rather wait than compromise what I believe in.
@Ben If you donât mind sharing - why did you turn down kind and genuine women? They didnât share your Christian beliefs completely or partly or not at all?
@Jude I should have been more clear but the kind and genuine women Iâm talking about turning down were non-believers.
@Ben Makes sense ð
It's best to just accept and move on. Constantly thinking and worrying will only make you feel worse. I've been through rejection enough times to understand how to cope ð
There are many lilies out there. Maybe another is easier to pick up if someone is too deep rooted.
Always remember if God says NO, then it's NOT good for you.
On ANY dating app, including this one, you should expect over ~95% of your experience to be rejection. Manage your expectations.
@Jude exactly this - keep in mind that once you find the one you're meant to be with, you're off the app âš Finding the one will involve moving past the rejections
He certainly does put the lonely in families Isabel x
Rejection is not the end of life. But a blessing in disguise.. The best way is to thank God and MOVE ON.
Several times I dated a girl who doesn't want to continue getting to know me... On my side I really did ð¥. There is nothing more to do than accept her decision... Usually I prefer not to keep contact after.
