{"id":3156,"date":"2026-01-22T12:02:11","date_gmt":"2026-01-22T12:02:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/nrb.ttm.mybluehost.me\/?p=3156"},"modified":"2026-01-22T12:02:13","modified_gmt":"2026-01-22T12:02:13","slug":"how-to-deal-with-infatuation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nrb.ttm.mybluehost.me\/how-to-deal-with-infatuation\/","title":{"rendered":"Infatuation and How to Deal With It"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Infatuation. By definition, it’s an intense or short-lived passion or admiration for someone or something. While being physically attracted to someone is fine, a lot Christian singles find themselves infatuated. Why? Because I\u2019ve seen and heard it countless times in conversations, group chats, and group posts \u2014 people asking, \u201cHow do I get this person off my mind? I can’t stop thinking about them.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

TL;DR: The Summary<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Are you dealing with infatuation? Is it exciting and almost forbidden? Do you find yourself daydreaming about someone you barely know, or convincing yourself they\u2019re \u201cthe one\u201d before you even know their middle name? How do we, as believers, deal with that strong pull so we don\u2019t make careless mistakes or compromise our walk with Jesus? Here are five things to consider as you navigate this season.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  1. Name it honestly<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. Pause before pursuing<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  3. Check it with scripture<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  4. Bring it to community<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  5. Don’t build on butterflies<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    Intro<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    An example of this was a woman in her early thirties who was trying to walk in purity and save herself for marriage, but she was talking to a man who intensified her lust. She found herself being more and more aroused and was even starting to question if waiting was really worth it \u2014 especially since she had sexual desires just like anyone else. She didn\u2019t want to admit it, but she was clearly infatuated with the man. What she thought was a \u201cconnection\u201d was actually a distraction pulling her away from her relationship with God.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    I too, prior to marriage, have been infatuated with men. Sometimes it was because of their magnetic personalities, other times because of their physical features. Again, there\u2019s nothing wrong with finding someone attractive or charming, but when those surface traits become the only<\/em> thing holding your attention, you\u2019re no longer seeing clearly. Even Scripture tells us that beauty fades (Proverbs 31:30). What lasts \u2014 what truly matters \u2014 is character, godliness, and purpose.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Name It Honestly<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    Infatuation thrives in secrecy and denial. When you\u2019re constantly thinking about someone, checking your phone like it\u2019s life support, or imagining your wedding day after two DMs, it\u2019s time to call it what it is \u2014 emotional overload. It might feel good, but that doesn\u2019t mean it\u2019s from God. Infatuation often grows from fantasy, not facts. It promises connection, but it blinds us from seeing who the person truly is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    It can be humbling to admit, \u201cLord, I\u2019m not in love. I\u2019m infatuated.\u201d<\/em> But that level of honesty is where freedom begins. Naming it doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re weak \u2014 it means you\u2019re self-aware. You\u2019re inviting God into the moment instead of trying to manage it alone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Dangers of infatuation<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

    Infatuation, unchecked, can cloud your discernment. You start justifying things you normally wouldn\u2019t. Perhaps you ignore red flags because you want the feeling to last. You start daydreaming about what could be instead of paying attention to what actually is. And before you know it, you\u2019re building emotional attachment to a person who may not even be aligned with your faith or future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    When you name it, you give God permission to show you truth. You also release yourself from the illusion that this person has some kind of control over your emotions. It\u2019s not about shame; it\u2019s about clarity. Say it plainly: \u201cLord, this person has my attention more than You right now. Help me to reset my focus.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    When you confess that, you\u2019re not just being honest \u2014 you\u2019re taking authority over your emotions. You\u2019re saying, \u201cGod, I choose to walk in wisdom, not fantasy.\u201d And that\u2019s where maturity begins.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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