{"id":2988,"date":"2025-07-23T10:34:49","date_gmt":"2025-07-23T10:34:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/nrb.ttm.mybluehost.me\/?p=2988"},"modified":"2025-07-23T10:34:52","modified_gmt":"2025-07-23T10:34:52","slug":"dating-as-an-older-christian","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nrb.ttm.mybluehost.me\/dating-as-an-older-christian\/","title":{"rendered":"Dating as an Older Christian"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

This blog post is for anyone dating as an older Christian<\/a> wondering where to meet people your age and how to navigate the dating world as a more mature adult.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

TL;DR: The Summary<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s also easy to think that, as an older Christian, you must be doing something wrong when it comes to dating. You’re watching everyone else get married, seeing the engagement posts, wedding photos, and baby announcements\u2014and wondering, \u201cWhy can\u2019t that be me?\u201d Maybe you\u2019re approaching 50 and still holding on to the hope that a godly spouse is out there for you\u2014but you’re starting to feel weary. That\u2019s exactly what the enemy wants. He wants you to grow tired and give up. But the Bible clearly tells us that we will reap in due season if we do not faint. If you\u2019re feeling tempted to give up, lean even closer to Jesus in your walk with Him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are five things to help guide you on your journey as you continue dating as an older Christian:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  1. Start with Surrender<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. Clarify Your Standards<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  3. Date With Discernment<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  4. Guard Your Heart, Not Your Walls<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  5. Stay Rooted in Hope<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    Pain of Long-Term Singleness<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    I won\u2019t lie and say you won\u2019t experience the pain of loneliness from time to time. There will be days when you feel like giving up\u2014but that\u2019s exactly when you need to press even deeper into your relationship with God. Many Christian singles don\u2019t realize they\u2019ve made marriage an idol, so when that desire goes unfulfilled, it can feel devastating. There\u2019s nothing wrong with desiring marriage and children, but if that desire has taken first place in your heart, it\u2019s time to realign your priorities.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    If your main reason for marriage is to silence the people who keep asking, \u201cWhy are you still single?\u201d then that\u2019s not the right motive. The true purpose of marriage is to reflect Jesus. You and your spouse should live in a way that shows others the love Christ has for His bride\u2014the Church. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Yes, marriage can bring joy, romance, and companionship, but those are extras, not the foundation. Your wholeness doesn\u2019t depend on whether or not you\u2019re married. It depends entirely on who God says you are. Dating as an older Christian isn\u2019t easy, but when your purpose aligns with the person God has for you\u2014whenever that may be\u2014it will all be worth the wait.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Beyond Expectations<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cI thought I would be married by now.\u201d While many Christian singles under 30 are waiting for their future spouse, there are also those over 40 and beyond still hoping and praying for their Kingdom partner. I’ve met plenty of singles in this category\u2014even before I was married\u2014and I know firsthand that the discouragement is real. Some have never even been on a date or married at all. Others were married once, but due to unfortunate circumstances, find themselves single again<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Dating as an older Christian can be frustrating. Some feel like they’re too old to date<\/a>, or believe that because they’ve been single for so long, they must be called to singleness<\/a>. You would think that reaching a certain age would mean greater maturity in the dating pool, but Christian singles over 40 still find it difficult to meet someone who aligns with their values and standards. Dating as an older Christian can also feel disheartening. I hear from both men and women who always thought they’d be married well before hitting 40. Many still long to have children of their own. I’ve seen women dating after menopause wonder whether their perceived calling to motherhood was wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    That said, we’ve seen it work for one of the first ever matches on SALT!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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