{"id":3159,"date":"2026-01-29T11:03:41","date_gmt":"2026-01-29T11:03:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/nrb.ttm.mybluehost.me\/?p=3159"},"modified":"2026-01-29T11:03:42","modified_gmt":"2026-01-29T11:03:42","slug":"hiri%cc%87sti%cc%87yanlar-cok-hizli-evleni%cc%87yor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nrb.ttm.mybluehost.me\/tr\/christians-get-married-too-fast\/","title":{"rendered":"Hristiyanlar \u00c7ok H\u0131zl\u0131 Evleniyor!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Bek\u00e2r H\u0131ristiyanlar\u0131n \u00e7o\u011fu otuz ya\u015f\u0131ndan \u00f6nce evlenmeyi umar. Yirmili ya\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131ndaki baz\u0131 gen\u00e7 H\u0131ristiyanlar bile yirmi be\u015f ya\u015f\u0131nda evlenmemi\u015flerse bir \u015feylerin yanl\u0131\u015f gitti\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyor. Bu zaman \u00e7izelgelerini nereden al\u0131yoruz? Evlenmenin bir son kullanma tarihi oldu\u011funu ya da elliyi ge\u00e7tikten sonra art\u0131k \u00e7ok ge\u00e7 oldu\u011funu kim s\u00f6yl\u00fcyor?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-tl-dr-the-summary\">TL;DR: \u00d6zet<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Suna\u011fa do\u011fru acele edip etmedi\u011finizi nas\u0131l anlars\u0131n\u0131z? \u0130\u015fte bunu anlaman\u0131n birka\u00e7 yolu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"#h-1-you-re-ignoring-red-flags\">1. K\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 Bayraklar\u0131 G\u00f6rmezden Geliyorsunuz<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"#h-2-you-confuse-chemistry-with-calling\">2. Kimyay\u0131 Aramakla Kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131yorsunuz<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"#h-3-you-re-spiritually-guilt-tripped\">3. Ruhsal Olarak Su\u00e7luluk Duyuyorsunuz<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"#h-4-you-don-t-know-their-fruit\">4. Onlar\u0131n Meyvelerini Bilmiyorsun<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"#h-5-god-s-peace-is-missing\">5. Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n Huzuru Eksik<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bu, evlenmeden \u00f6nce her \u015feyi \u00e7\u00f6zece\u011finiz anlam\u0131na gelmez, ancak s\u00fcrece Tanr\u0131'y\u0131 da dahil etmelisiniz. O sizin i\u00e7in kimin do\u011fru oldu\u011funu bilir, bu nedenle ruhunuzda hissedebilece\u011finiz huzursuzlu\u011fu g\u00f6rmezden gelmeyin. E\u011fer Tanr\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a \u201cBu ben de\u011filim; bu benim iste\u011fim de\u011fil\u201d diyorsa, di\u011fer ki\u015fiyi de\u011fi\u015ftirebilece\u011finizi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnerek bunu g\u00f6rmezden gelmeyin. Bir insan\u0131n kalbini yaln\u0131zca Tanr\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirebilir, bu nedenle istisna oldu\u011funuz yalan\u0131na kanmay\u0131n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Hristiyanlar \u00c7ok mu H\u0131zl\u0131 Evleniyor?\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/M9Jb1GD8lOU?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-intro\">Giri\u015f<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Bence H\u0131ristiyanlar\u0131 h\u0131zla evlenmeleri gerekti\u011fine inand\u0131ran \u015feylerin bir kombinasyonu. \u00c7o\u011fu kilise evlili\u011fi \u201cher \u015feyin sonu\u201d olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcyor, bu y\u00fczden \u00e7o\u011fu Hristiyan bekar kendini d\u0131\u015flanm\u0131\u015f ya da tedavisi olmayan bir hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131 varm\u0131\u015f gibi hissediyor. D\u00fcnyan\u0131n neresinde ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131za ba\u011fl\u0131 olarak, toplum evlili\u011fi hayat\u0131n bir sonraki ad\u0131m\u0131 gibi g\u00f6steriyor. Okula gidersiniz, kariyer yapars\u0131n\u0131z, evlenirsiniz ve \u00e7ocuk sahibi olursunuz. Evlilik basit\u00e7e hayat\u0131n bir par\u00e7as\u0131 olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fcr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Belki de evlili\u011fin \u00f6nemsendi\u011fi bir k\u00fclt\u00fcrde b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fcn\u00fcz, bu y\u00fczden aile \u00fcyelerinin bask\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 hissediyorsunuz. \u0130yi niyetli olduklar\u0131na inanmak istiyorsunuz, ancak tatil i\u00e7in eve yaln\u0131z gitmekten nefret ediyorsunuz \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc anneniz ve teyzeleriniz aras\u0131nda birinin \u201cBiriyle g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fcyor musun?\u201d diye soraca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 zaten biliyorsunuz. Acele etmen gerek.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00d6zellikle bek\u00e2r H\u0131ristiyan kad\u0131nlar, \u00e7o\u011fu anne olmak istedi\u011finden ve \u00e7ocuk sahibi olabilmek i\u00e7in bunu ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirmeleri gerekti\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcklerinden bask\u0131 hissediyorlar. Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n her kad\u0131n\u0131n otuz be\u015f, hatta k\u0131rk ya\u015f\u0131ndan sonra \u00e7ocuk sahibi olmas\u0131n\u0131 istedi\u011fini s\u00f6ylemiyorum ama Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n ya\u015fl\u0131 kad\u0131nlar\u0131 sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bebeklerle kutsad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rd\u00fcm. Bekledikleri gibi olmam\u0131\u015f olabilir, ama biraz daha beklemek anlam\u0131na gelse bile \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131 hi\u00e7bir \u015feye de\u011fi\u015fmezlerdi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ne yaz\u0131k ki, d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan ve hatta i\u00e7eriden gelen t\u00fcm bu bask\u0131lar \u00e7o\u011fu H\u0131ristiyan bek\u00e2r\u0131n acele kararlar vermesine neden olmaktad\u0131r. \u201cEvet\u201d demek i\u00e7in acele ediyorlar, ancak Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n asla ama\u00e7lamad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir evlili\u011fin i\u00e7inde oluyorlar. Yeni e\u015flerden olu\u015fan bir Facebook grubunday\u0131m ve aceleyle evlenen kad\u0131nlar\u0131n payla\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm hikayeleri size anlatamam. \u015eimdi hepimizin y\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 oldu\u011funu bildi\u011fi bo\u015fanmayla kar\u015f\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131yalar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-1-you-re-ignoring-red-flags\">1. K\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 Bayraklar\u0131 G\u00f6rmezden Geliyorsunuz<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>G\u00f6r\u00fcyorsunuz ama g\u00f6rmek istemiyorsunuz. Belki inan\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 reddediyorlar, s\u00f6ylediklerinin arkas\u0131nda durmuyorlar ya da kontrol veya tutars\u0131zl\u0131k belirtileri g\u00f6steriyorlar ama siz bunlar\u0131 g\u00f6rmezden geliyorsunuz. Kendinize \u201cKimse m\u00fckemmel de\u011fildir\u201d ya da \u201cTanr\u0131 onlar\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirebilir\u201d diyorsunuz. Evet, de\u011fi\u015ftirebilir ama siz Kutsal Ruh de\u011filsiniz ve evlilik i\u015flev bozuklu\u011funu d\u00fczeltmez. Onu b\u00fcy\u00fct\u00fcr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0130\u00e7g\u00fcd\u00fcleriniz huzursuzsa ve rahats\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 susturmak zorunda kal\u0131yorsan\u0131z, yava\u015flay\u0131n. K\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 bayraklar sadece uyar\u0131 de\u011fildir. Duraklamaya ve dua etmeye davettirler. Hikayenin daha h\u0131zl\u0131 ilerlemesini istedi\u011finiz i\u00e7in uyar\u0131 i\u015faretlerini ge\u00e7ersiz k\u0131lmay\u0131n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-my-experience\">Benim deneyimim<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Gen\u00e7li\u011fimde kilisede bir erkekle \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131m i\u00e7in bunun yeterli oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrd\u00fcm. Yan\u0131lm\u0131\u015f\u0131m. \u00c7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131m pek \u00e7ok erkek kilisenin gereklerini yerine getiriyordu ama kendilerini Tanr\u0131'ya adamam\u0131\u015flard\u0131. B\u00fcy\u00fck s\u0131nav evlilik \u00f6ncesi seks s\u00f6z konusu oldu\u011funda veriliyordu ve bir\u00e7o\u011fu bunda yanl\u0131\u015f bir \u015fey g\u00f6rm\u00fcyordu. Ben g\u00f6rd\u00fcm, bu y\u00fczden i\u00e7ten i\u00e7e bunun i\u015fe yaramayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 biliyordum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kocamla tan\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131mda, o zaten safl\u0131k i\u00e7inde y\u00fcr\u00fcmeye kararl\u0131yd\u0131. Bu alanda liderlik yap\u0131yordu, bu y\u00fczden s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131m\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131klamama gerek kalmad\u0131. \u0130\u015fte fark bu. Tanr\u0131'yla zaten bilin\u00e7li bir \u015fekilde y\u00fcr\u00fcyen birini istersiniz. Dini yap\u0131lacaklar listesindeki \u015feyleri kontrol etmiyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-ignoring-red-flags\">K\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 bayraklar\u0131 g\u00f6rmezden gelmek<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0130\u015fte bu y\u00fczden k\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 bayraklar\u0131 g\u00f6rmezden gelmek \u00e7ok tehlikelidir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u00e7o\u011fu zaman, ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7ta bahane etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z \u015feyler zamanla daha da b\u00fcy\u00fcr. Birinin ya\u015fam tarz\u0131, hayat\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 \u00fczerine in\u015fa etti\u011finiz inan\u00e7larla \u00e7eli\u015fiyorsa, siz \u201cevet\u201d dedikten sonra bu durum \u201ckendili\u011finden d\u00fczelmez\u201d. Sadece ta\u015f\u0131mas\u0131 daha da a\u011f\u0131rla\u015f\u0131r. \u0130nsanlar evlendikleri i\u00e7in sihirli bir \u015fekilde Tanr\u0131'dan korkar, tutarl\u0131 ya da olgun hale gelmezler. Evlilik karakteri de\u011fi\u015ftirmez, ortaya \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bazen i\u015fin en zor k\u0131sm\u0131, fark\u0131na varmak de\u011fildir. <a href=\"https:\/\/nrb.ttm.mybluehost.me\/tr\/kirmizi-bayraklar\/\" type=\"post\" id=\"147\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">k\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 bayrak<\/a>. Bunun bir anlam\u0131 oldu\u011funu kabul etmektir. Ama Tanr\u0131 a\u015fk hikayenizi mahvetmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fm\u0131yor, onu korumaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor. Onun \u201chay\u0131r \u201d\u0131 ya da \u201chen\u00fcz de\u011fil \u201di ceza de\u011fildir. G\u00fcvenliktir, merhamettir. Sizi, ke\u015fke dinleseydim diyece\u011finiz gelecekteki bir versiyonunuzdan koruyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>K\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 bayraklar bir ki\u015fiyi Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n sevgisinden mahrum b\u0131rakmaz; ancak sizi bir antla\u015fma ili\u015fkisine y\u00f6nlendirmekten mahrum b\u0131rakabilir. Dikkatinizi verin. Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n size g\u00f6sterdiklerini g\u00f6rmezden gelmenin sonu asla iyi bitmez.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-2-you-confuse-chemistry-with-calling\">2. Kimyay\u0131 Aramakla Kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131yorsunuz<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Sadece bir k\u0131v\u0131lc\u0131m olmas\u0131, bir gelecek oldu\u011fu anlam\u0131na gelmez. Bu manyetik \u00e7ekim, ortak ibadet listesi, sevimli \u015fakalar - bunlar harika. Ancak karakter olmadan kimya, ger\u00e7ekle\u015fmeyi bekleyen bir kazad\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tanr\u0131 insanlar\u0131 sadece tutkular\u0131na g\u00f6re e\u015fle\u015ftirmez. Ama\u00e7lar\u0131 da ayn\u0131 hizaya getirir. Kimse izlemedi\u011finde hayatlar\u0131n\u0131z ayn\u0131 y\u00f6ne mi i\u015faret ediyor? Ba\u011flant\u0131n\u0131z bir \u00e7a\u011fr\u0131n\u0131n a\u011f\u0131rl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 m\u0131 ta\u015f\u0131yor yoksa sadece uyumlulu\u011fun s\u0131cakl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 m\u0131? Evlili\u011fin titre\u015fimlerden daha fazlas\u0131na ihtiyac\u0131 vard\u0131r. Vizyona ihtiyac\u0131 vard\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-my-experience-0\">Benim deneyimim<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Kocam\u0131 tan\u0131d\u0131k\u00e7a, Tanr\u0131'y\u0131 memnun etmek i\u00e7in bir \u015fekilde birlikte \u00e7al\u0131\u015faca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 biliyordum. \u015eimdi kilisemizin podcast'ine liderlik ederek hizmette yan yana \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yoruz. Kutsal yaz\u0131lar\u0131 tart\u0131\u015f\u0131rken ekip halinde \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yoruz ve Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n evlili\u011fimiz arac\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131yla ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 bereketlemek i\u00e7in nas\u0131l \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rebiliyorum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>E\u011fleniyor muyuz? Evet, birlikte yapmay\u0131 en sevdi\u011fimiz \u015feylerden biri Facebook'ta belgesel ya da sa\u00e7ma sapan \u015feyler izlemek. Bu evlili\u011fimizin bir par\u00e7as\u0131 ama temeli de\u011fil. Konu\u015fmaya ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda, inanc\u0131m\u0131z ve Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n S\u00f6z\u00fc ile ba\u015flad\u0131k. O andan itibaren ruhani bir ba\u011fdan duygusal bir ba\u011fa d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc. Tanr\u0131 bunu yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda anlars\u0131n\u0131z \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc her \u015fey yava\u015f yava\u015f ve sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir h\u0131zda ilerleyecektir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-tempted-to-rush\">Acele etmek i\u00e7in cazip<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>H\u0131ristiyan bek\u00e2rlar genellikle bu noktada pani\u011fe kap\u0131l\u0131r. Biriyle tan\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar, bir k\u0131v\u0131lc\u0131m hissederler ve aniden \u201cBu Tanr\u0131 olmal\u0131\u201d diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrler. Ancak duygular g\u00fcr\u00fclt\u00fcl\u00fc olabilir. Cazibe g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc olabilir. Alt\u0131ndaki ruhani temeli kontrol etmek i\u00e7in yeterince uzun s\u00fcre yava\u015flamazsan\u0131z, kimya netli\u011fi g\u00f6lgeleyebilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kimya kolayd\u0131r. Birinin ki\u015fili\u011finden ho\u015flanmak, \u015fakalar\u0131na g\u00fclmek ya da ona kar\u015f\u0131 bir \u00e7ekim hissetmek i\u00e7in ay\u0131rt edici olmak gerekmez. Ama aramak zaman al\u0131r. \u00c7a\u011fr\u0131, hayat\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n be\u015f, on, yirmi y\u0131l sonra neye benzeyece\u011fini ortaya koyar.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00c7a\u011fr\u0131 a\u015fa\u011f\u0131daki gibi sorular sorar: Birlikte dua edebilir misiniz? Birlikte b\u00fcy\u00fcyebilir misiniz? F\u0131rt\u0131nalarda birlikte y\u00fcr\u00fcyebilir misiniz? Birlikte Mesih'te \u00e7ocuklar yeti\u015ftirebilecek misiniz? Kimya sizin i\u00e7in bu sorular\u0131 yan\u0131tlamaz. Karakter cevap verir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tanr\u0131 iki ki\u015fiyi ger\u00e7ekten bir araya \u00e7a\u011f\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, sadece \u00e7ekim de\u011fil, uyum da olur. Netlik vard\u0131r, kafa kar\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131 de\u011fil. B\u00fcy\u00fcme vard\u0131r, uzla\u015fma de\u011fil. Kimya bir ili\u015fkiyi ba\u015flatabilir, ancak \u00e7a\u011fr\u0131 bir evlili\u011fi s\u00fcrd\u00fcr\u00fcr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-3-you-re-spiritually-guilt-tripped\">3. Ruhsal Olarak Su\u00e7luluk Duyuyorsunuz<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Belki de birisi \u201cBeklemeye devam edersen nimeti ka\u00e7\u0131racaks\u0131n\u201d demi\u015ftir. Ya da daha k\u00f6t\u00fcs\u00fc, \u201cTanr\u0131 bana senin e\u015fim oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yledi.\u201d Bu ay\u0131rt etme de\u011fildir. Bu manip\u00fclasyondur, \u00f6zellikle de \u00f6zg\u00fcr iradenizi elinizden al\u0131p sizi se\u00e7im yapmaya zorluyorlarsa. Kutsal kitapla gizlenmi\u015f bask\u0131 yine de bask\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Birinin aciliyetinin sizin zaman \u00e7izelgeniz olmas\u0131na izin vermeyin. Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n iste\u011fi asla zorlama ya da tela\u015f de\u011fildir. Bir \u015fey ger\u00e7ekten O'ndan geliyorsa, sizi ikna etmek i\u00e7in korkuya gerek yoktur. Ne kadar \u201cruhani\u201d g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcrse g\u00f6r\u00fcns\u00fcn, zaman ay\u0131rmaya, zor sorular sormaya ve huzur yoksa uzakla\u015fmaya hakk\u0131n\u0131z vard\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-my-experience-1\">Benim deneyimim<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Kocam Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n ona kar\u0131s\u0131 oldu\u011fumu s\u00f6yledi\u011fine inansa da, ni\u015fanlanana kadar bunu bana s\u00f6ylemedi. Neden mi? Kendimi bask\u0131 alt\u0131nda hissetmemi istemiyordu. Kendi sonu\u00e7lar\u0131ma varmam\u0131 ve Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n \u00f6\u011f\u00fctlerini kendi ba\u015f\u0131ma aramam\u0131 istedi. Zamanla Tanr\u0131 bunu do\u011frulad\u0131 ve kocam\u0131n sab\u0131rl\u0131 davran\u0131p beni beklemesine \u00e7ok sevindim. \u0130\u015fte fark bu. Tanr\u0131 size pekala g\u00f6sterebilir, ancak bunu kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki ki\u015fiye kar\u015f\u0131 bir silah olarak kullan\u0131p istedi\u011finizi zorla kabul ettirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmay\u0131n. Onlar\u0131n \u00f6zg\u00fcr iradeleri var, bu y\u00fczden bunu ellerinden almay\u0131n ve unutmay\u0131n, yanl\u0131\u015f anlaman\u0131z m\u00fcmk\u00fcn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n size \u201cdo\u011fru ki\u015fi o\u201d dedi\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnebilirsiniz ama asl\u0131nda bu sizin kendi duygular\u0131n\u0131z ve arzular\u0131n\u0131zd\u0131r. Bu bana kocamdan \u00f6nce tan\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m adamla oldu. Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n bana onun kocam oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yledi\u011fine yemin edebilirdim, ama i\u015fler yolunda gitmeyince, her \u015feyin benim kafamda oldu\u011funu kabul etmek zorunda kald\u0131m. Ger\u00e7ekten Tanr\u0131 oldu\u011funda, di\u011fer ki\u015fiyle onaylayacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-danger-of-over-spiritualizing\">A\u015f\u0131r\u0131 ruhsalla\u015ft\u0131rma tehlikesi<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Ruhani bask\u0131n\u0131n bu kadar tehlikeli olmas\u0131n\u0131n nedeni budur. Kendi muhakeme yetene\u011finizi atlar. Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n sizi korumak i\u00e7in tasarlad\u0131\u011f\u0131 s\u00fcreci k\u0131saltmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Birisi Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n ad\u0131n\u0131 kullanarak sizin s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131, bilgeli\u011finizi, zamanlaman\u0131z\u0131 ya da O'nunla olan ili\u015fkinizi atlarsa, bu kutsal de\u011fildir. Bu zararl\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n iste\u011fini yerine getirmek i\u00e7in korku taktiklerine asla ihtiyac\u0131 yoktur. Biri sizi acele ettiriyorsa, sizi su\u00e7lamak i\u00e7in kutsal metinleri kullan\u0131yorsa ya da i\u015fleri a\u011f\u0131rdan alarak \u201cTanr\u0131'ya itaatsizlik\u201d etti\u011finizi hissettirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yorsa, geri ad\u0131m at\u0131n. Sevgi bekler. Bilgelik bekler. Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n Kendisi bekler. Manip\u00fclasyon bir evlili\u011fin temeline ait de\u011fildir. Ve e\u011fer bu d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnden \u00f6nce oluyorsa... ancak d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnden sonra b\u00fcy\u00fcr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-4-you-don-t-know-their-fruit\">4. Onlar\u0131n Meyvelerini Bilmiyorsun<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>En sevdikleri kutsal kitab\u0131 ve Pazar g\u00fcn\u00fc nas\u0131l davrand\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 biliyorsunuz. Ama meyvelerini biliyor musunuz? Hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131, d\u00fczeltme ya da y\u00fczle\u015fmeyle nas\u0131l ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yorlar? Kendilerine fayda sa\u011flayamayan insanlara nas\u0131l davran\u0131yorlar?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0130sa insanlar\u0131 meyvelerinden tan\u0131yaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 s\u00f6ylemi\u015ftir, ne kadar y\u00fcksek sesle ibadet ettiklerinden ya da ne s\u0131kl\u0131kta oru\u00e7 tuttuklar\u0131ndan de\u011fil. Ruhani abart\u0131dan daha fazlas\u0131na ihtiyac\u0131n\u0131z var. Olgunluk, al\u00e7akg\u00f6n\u00fcll\u00fcl\u00fck, tutarl\u0131l\u0131k ve hata yapt\u0131klar\u0131nda t\u00f6vbe ettiklerine dair kan\u0131tlara ihtiyac\u0131n\u0131z vard\u0131r. Meyvelerin b\u00fcy\u00fcmesi zaman al\u0131r. Hen\u00fcz g\u00f6rmediyseniz, hayat\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 daha sonra geli\u015febilecek \u015feylere ba\u011flamay\u0131n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-my-experience-2\">Benim deneyimim<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Kocam\u0131n inanc\u0131 Pazar g\u00fcnleri ile s\u0131n\u0131rl\u0131 de\u011fil. Bunu her g\u00fcn ya\u015far. Her sabah kalk\u0131p kitap okur ve dua eder. Tanr\u0131 ona ye\u015fil \u0131\u015f\u0131k yakt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, yeni tan\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir yabanc\u0131 i\u00e7in dua etmekten \u00e7ekinmez. \u0130sa onun ya\u015fam tarz\u0131 ve ben bunu hemen anlad\u0131m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Konu\u015furken bile belli bir s\u00fcre sonra kesiyordu \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc konu\u015fmalar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n uygunsuz bir hale gelmesini istemiyordu. Ge\u00e7mi\u015fte \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131m erkekler bunu umursamazd\u0131. Telefonda bana \u015fehvetli bir \u015feyler s\u00f6ylemek onlar\u0131 asla rahats\u0131z etmezdi. Ancak kocam farkl\u0131yd\u0131 \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc konu\u015fmalar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n Tanr\u0131'y\u0131 memnun etmesini bile istiyordu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00d6yleyse kendinize \u015funu sorun. Bu ki\u015finin ya\u015fam\u0131 \u0130sa'y\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a g\u00f6steriyor mu? E\u011fer g\u00f6stermiyorsa, bu b\u00fcy\u00fck bir k\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 bayrakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-progress-not-perfection\">\u0130lerleme, m\u00fckemmellik de\u011fil<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0130\u015fte bu noktada pek \u00e7ok H\u0131ristiyan gafil avlan\u0131r. Meyvenin m\u00fckemmellik anlam\u0131na geldi\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u00fcz. Ama \u00f6yle de\u011fildir. Meyve b\u00fcy\u00fcme demektir. Meyve al\u00e7akg\u00f6n\u00fcll\u00fcl\u00fck demektir. Kimse izlemedi\u011finde d\u00fcr\u00fcstl\u00fck demektir. Meyve, hatal\u0131 olduklar\u0131nda hesap verebilirlik demektir. Meyve, m\u00fckemmel bir performans de\u011fil, \u0130sa'y\u0131 yans\u0131tan tutarl\u0131 se\u00e7imler anlam\u0131na gelir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0130ki ay konu\u015ftuktan sonra birinin meyvesini tan\u0131yamazs\u0131n\u0131z. Evet, ki\u015filiklerini g\u00f6rebilirsiniz. Cazibelerini anlayabilirsiniz. Sosyal medyadaki varl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 bilebilirsiniz. Ama meyve zaman gerektirir. Meyve mevsimler gerektirir. Meyve, ne zaman nas\u0131l tepki verdiklerini g\u00f6rmeyi gerektirir:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na u\u011fram\u0131\u015flar.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na u\u011frad\u0131lar.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>D\u00fczeltilmi\u015fler.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Ba\u015ftan \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131ld\u0131lar<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Stresliler.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>G\u00fccendiler.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>E\u011fer birisi evlenmeden \u00f6nce ger\u00e7ek ya\u015famdaki bask\u0131larla Mesih'i and\u0131ran bir olgunlukla ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131kam\u0131yorsa, evlendikten sonra da sihirli bir \u015fekilde ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131kamayacakt\u0131r. Meyve sizi korur. Haz\u0131r oldu\u011funuzu kan\u0131tlar. Meyve, birinin Mesih'i ger\u00e7ekten takip edip etmedi\u011fini ya da sadece hislerini takip edip etmedi\u011fini ortaya \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131r.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Potansiyel ile evlenmeyin. Performanslarla evlenmeyin. Meyvelerle evlenin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-5-god-s-peace-is-missing\">5. Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n Huzuru Eksik<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Endi\u015felisiniz, fazla d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorsunuz ve uyuyam\u0131yorsunuz ama kendinize bunun i\u00e7in dua etti\u011finizi s\u00f6ylemeye devam edin. Durun. Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n esenli\u011fi panik yaratmaz. O'nun varl\u0131\u011f\u0131, kendinizi bunun do\u011fru oldu\u011funa ikna etmenizi gerektirmez.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Huzur her zaman y\u00fcksek sesle s\u00f6ylenmez, ama her zaman mevcuttur. Ve Tanr\u0131 ger\u00e7ekten ili\u015fkinizin merkezinde oldu\u011funda, bu sadece ne s\u00f6yledi\u011finizde de\u011fil, nas\u0131l hareket etti\u011finizde de kendini g\u00f6sterir. Huzur yoksa, cevab\u0131n\u0131z \u201cgit\u201d olmayabilir - \u201cbekle\u201d olabilir. Hatta \u201chay\u0131r\u201d bile olabilir.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-my-experience-3\">Benim deneyimim<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Evet, evlilik \u00f6ncesinde gerginlik normaldir ama arada bir fark var. Ben kendi g\u00fcvensizli\u011fim y\u00fcz\u00fcnden gergindim. Evlili\u011fe d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm kadar haz\u0131r m\u0131yd\u0131m? Bir e\u015f olmak i\u00e7in gerekenlere sahip miydim? T\u00fcm bunlar benden kaynaklan\u0131yordu ama etraf\u0131mdaki di\u011fer her \u015fey kocam\u0131n ger\u00e7ekten de dua etti\u011fim adam oldu\u011funu do\u011fruluyordu. Onaylar\u0131n tekrarland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6ylemek yetersiz kal\u0131r.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Hatta Tanr\u0131 bana dua ederken, \u201cHayat\u0131n\u0131 nas\u0131l ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131na bakarak, onunla evlenmenden memnun olaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyor musun?\u201d diye sordu. D\u00fcr\u00fcst cevab\u0131m evet oldu. \u0130htiyac\u0131m olan tek \u015fey buydu. Bu ili\u015fkiden vazge\u00e7me \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcne sahiptim ama bu ili\u015fkinin Rab'bi ho\u015fnut edece\u011fini bilmek korkular\u0131m\u0131 yat\u0131\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131. D\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn g\u00fcn\u00fcmde hi\u00e7 \u00e7ekinmeden, korkmadan ve pi\u015fmanl\u0131k duymadan \u201cEvet\u201d dedim. Tanr\u0131 ili\u015fkimizin \u00fczerindeydi ve h\u00e2l\u00e2 da \u00f6yle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-what-peace-means\">Bar\u0131\u015f ne demektir<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0130\u015fte bu y\u00fczden bar\u0131\u015f \u00e7ok \u00f6nemlidir. Huzur kolay demek de\u011fildir. Huzur m\u00fckemmel ko\u015fullar demek de\u011fildir. S\u0131f\u0131r sinir anlam\u0131na gelmez. Huzur, Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n iste\u011fiyle uyum anlam\u0131na gelir. Duygular\u0131n\u0131z g\u00fcr\u00fclt\u00fcl\u00fc oldu\u011funda netlik anlam\u0131na gelir. Huzur, zihniniz b\u00fcy\u00fck bir karar\u0131 i\u015fliyor olsa bile ruhunuzun sakinle\u015fmesi demektir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tanr\u0131 huzur verdi\u011finde, bu huzur sabittir. Bir \u015feyler ters gitti\u011finde, bu huzur eksikli\u011fi g\u00f6rmezden gelemeyece\u011finiz bir sinyal haline gelir. Bazen Tanr\u0131 sizi cezaland\u0131rmak i\u00e7in de\u011fil, size zarar verecek bir \u015feyden uzakla\u015ft\u0131rmak i\u00e7in rahats\u0131zl\u0131\u011fa izin verir. Huzur, ad\u0131mlar\u0131n\u0131za rehberlik etti\u011fi kadar onlar\u0131 korur da. Orada oldu\u011funda dinleyin. Kayboldu\u011funda daha da s\u0131k\u0131 dinleyin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-let-s-conclude\">Sonu\u00e7land\u0131ral\u0131m<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n en iyisinin aceleye getirilmesine gerek yoktur. Gelece\u011finizi bir havu\u00e7 gibi sallam\u0131yor. Onu koruyor. Koridorda y\u00fcr\u00fcmeden \u00f6nce bu listeyi g\u00f6zden ge\u00e7irin. Korkuyla de\u011fil, Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n zamanlamas\u0131n\u0131n asla ge\u00e7 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ve O'nun yolunun her zaman beklemeye de\u011fer oldu\u011funu bilerek inan\u00e7la.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Hi\u00e7bir zaman \u00e7izelgesi, ya\u015f, bask\u0131, kilise k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fc veya aile beklentisi Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n iste\u011fi d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda evlenmeye de\u011fmez. Siz bir evlili\u011fi hak ediyorsunuz. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.be-salt.com\/\">Mesih \u00fczerine kurulu ili\u015fki<\/a>, ger\u00e7e\u011fe dayan\u0131r ve panikle de\u011fil, huzurla y\u00f6nlendirilir. Tanr\u0131'y\u0131 net bir \u015fekilde duymak i\u00e7in yeterince yava\u015flarsan\u0131z, O size yol g\u00f6sterecektir. Bunu her zaman yapar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Baz\u0131lar\u0131yla tan\u0131\u015fmaya haz\u0131r <a href=\"https:\/\/onelink.to\/websiteurl\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Mesih merkezli bekarlar<\/a>? SALT uygulamas\u0131n\u0131 bug\u00fcn indirin!\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Most Christian singles hope they&#8217;re married before age thirty. Even some younger Christians in their early twenties think something is wrong if they&#8217;re not married at twenty-five. Where do we get these timelines from? Who says that there&#8217;s an expiration date on getting married or that it&#8217;s too late once you&#8217;re past fifty? 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