{"id":3152,"date":"2026-01-14T14:59:28","date_gmt":"2026-01-14T14:59:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/nrb.ttm.mybluehost.me\/?p=3152"},"modified":"2026-01-14T14:59:30","modified_gmt":"2026-01-14T14:59:30","slug":"bi%cc%87r-hiri%cc%87sti%cc%87yan-olarak-flort-etmek-hakkinda-bi%cc%87lmek-i%cc%87stedi%cc%87kleri%cc%87m","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nrb.ttm.mybluehost.me\/tr\/what-i-wish-i-knew-about-dating-as-a-christian\/","title":{"rendered":"Hristiyan Olarak Biriyle \u00c7\u0131kmadan \u00d6nce Ke\u015fke Bilseydim Dedi\u011fim \u015eeyler"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Biriyle \u00e7\u0131kmadan \u00f6nce de\u011fi\u015ftirmek istedi\u011fim bir \u015fey varsa o da beklentilerim olurdu. Ne yaz\u0131k ki, zihnim K\u00fclkedisi gibi fantastik hikayelerle doluydu, bu y\u00fczden bir erkekle tan\u0131\u015f\u0131p onun \u201cdo\u011fru ki\u015fi\u201d oldu\u011funu bilme imaj\u0131, bunun b\u00f6yle olmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeme neden oldu. Gen\u00e7lik y\u0131llar\u0131mda \u00f6zsayg\u0131m sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 de\u011fildi, bu y\u00fczden de de\u011ferimin Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n bana bak\u0131\u015f\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 bir erke\u011fin beni be\u011fenmesinden kaynakland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcm. Peki bir Hristiyan olarak fl\u00f6rt etmek hakk\u0131nda daha \u00f6nce ne bilmek isterdim?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-tl-dr-the-summary\">TL;DR: \u00d6zet<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Belki de fl\u00f6rt havuzundas\u0131n\u0131z ve beklentileriniz kar\u015f\u0131lanm\u0131yor. Hi\u00e7 kendinize \u201cNeden kimse bana bundan bahsetmedi?\u201d diye sordunuz mu? \u0130\u015fte bir Hristiyan olarak biriyle \u00e7\u0131kmadan \u00f6nce ke\u015fke bilseydim dedi\u011fim birka\u00e7 \u015fey. Siz de anlayabiliyor musunuz?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><a href=\"#h-1-chemistry-confirmation\">Kimya \u2260 Onaylama<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a href=\"#h-2-prayer-isn-t-a-relationship-shortcut\">Dua Bir \u0130li\u015fkinin Kestirme Yolu De\u011fildir<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a href=\"#h-3-boundaries-don-t-replace-discipline\">S\u0131n\u0131rlar Disiplinin Yerini Almaz<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a href=\"#h-4-stop-looking-for-a-savior\">Bir Kurtar\u0131c\u0131 Aramay\u0131 B\u0131rak\u0131n<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a href=\"#h-5-god-isn-t-testing-you\">Tanr\u0131 Sizi S\u0131nam\u0131yor<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ne yaz\u0131k ki Kutsal Kitap'ta \u201cHristiyan Bek\u00e2rlar i\u00e7in Fl\u00f6rt 101\u201d diye bir b\u00f6l\u00fcm ve ayet yoktur. \u00c7\u0131karabilece\u011fimiz tek \u015fey Kutsal Kitap'\u0131n nas\u0131l bir arkada\u015f edinmemiz gerekti\u011fi konusunda s\u00f6yledikleridir. Buradan Kutsal Ruh, b\u00f6l\u00fcm ve ayet olmayan bo\u015fluklar\u0131 doldurur. Elleriniz \u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fczde karanl\u0131kta y\u00fcr\u00fcyormu\u015f gibi hissedebilirsiniz, ancak Tanr\u0131 sizinle birliktedir ve izin verirseniz size rehberlik edecektir. Hadi ba\u015flayal\u0131m m\u0131?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Hristiyan Olarak Biriyle \u00c7\u0131kmadan \u00d6nce Ke\u015fke Bilseydim Dedi\u011fim \u015eeyler\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/mw8lXW0FjVM?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-1-chemistry-confirmation\">1. Kimya \u2260 Onaylama<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sohbetin ak\u0131p gitmesi ve ikinizin de Maverick City ya da Elevation Worship'i seviyor olman\u0131z bunun Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n emri oldu\u011fu anlam\u0131na gelmez. Eskiden do\u011fru hissetmenin do\u011fru olmak anlam\u0131na geldi\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrd\u00fcm. Ancak duygusal y\u00fckseli\u015fler ve fiziksel \u00e7ekim, muhakemeyi g\u00f6lgeleyebilir. Kimya \u00f6nemlidir, evet. Ancak asla karakterin, \u00f6\u011f\u00fcd\u00fcn ya da inanc\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcne ge\u00e7memelidir. D\u00fc\u015fman, m\u00fckemmel \u201chissettiren\u201d ama sizi amac\u0131n\u0131zdan uzakla\u015ft\u0131ran birini g\u00f6nderebilir. E\u011fer bu ki\u015fi Tanr\u0131'ysa, kelebekler u\u00e7up gittikten sonra bile huzur sizi takip edecektir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">K\u0131v\u0131lc\u0131mdan daha fazlas\u0131na ihtiyac\u0131n\u0131z var - ruhsal uyumlulu\u011fa ve hayat ger\u00e7ek oldu\u011funda g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc duracak ortak de\u011ferlere ihtiyac\u0131n\u0131z var. Tanr\u0131 iradesini t\u00fcyleri diken diken ederek onaylamaz. Meyveler, uyum ve duygular de\u011fi\u015fti\u011finde de de\u011fi\u015fmeyen netlikle onaylar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-attraction-is-important\">\u00c7ekim g\u00fcc\u00fc \u00f6nemlidir<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Tekrar ediyorum, bu o ki\u015fiden etkilenemeyece\u011finiz anlam\u0131na gelmez. Bu, onlarla e\u011flenemeyece\u011finiz anlam\u0131na da gelmez \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc her \u015fey ama\u00e7 ve Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n \u0130ste\u011fini yerine getirmekle ilgilidir. Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n \u0130ste\u011fi ve Y\u00fcceli\u011fi merkezdeyken, randevunuzdan yine de keyif alabilir ve onunla harika an\u0131lar payla\u015fabilirsiniz. Ayr\u0131ca kimyay\u0131 Kutsal Ruh'un s\u00fczgecinden ge\u00e7irin.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dua ederken d\u00fcr\u00fcst olup \u201cTanr\u0131m, onlardan ho\u015flan\u0131yorum ama senin iste\u011fini her \u015feyden \u00e7ok istiyorum\u201d demekte yanl\u0131\u015f bir \u015fey yoktur. Evet, bu riskli bir duad\u0131r ve do\u011fru ki\u015fi de\u011filse onu kaybedebilirsiniz bile. Ancak, Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n hikayenizi m\u00fckemmel bir \u015fekilde bir araya getirdi\u011fine g\u00fcvenebilirsiniz. T\u00fcm yan\u0131tlar sizde olmayabilir ama O'nda vard\u0131r. Sizi geride b\u0131rakm\u0131yor ve asla terk etmeyecek.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-chemistry-shouldn-t-be-your-guide\">Kimya rehberiniz olmamal\u0131<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ke\u015fke kimyan\u0131n kaderin bir i\u015fareti olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 daha \u00f6nce bilseydim. Sizin i\u00e7in tamamen yanl\u0131\u015f olan biriyle kimyan\u0131z uyu\u015fabilir. Bazen sadece a\u00e7\u0131k oldu\u011funu fark etmedi\u011finiz duygusal bir ihtiyac\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131lad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in birine \u00e7ekildi\u011finizi hissedersiniz. Sizinle uzun vadeli bir ortakl\u0131k kurabilecek kapasiteye, olgunlu\u011fa veya ruhsal temele sahip olmayan biriyle an\u0131nda ba\u011flant\u0131 kurabilirsiniz. Kimya g\u00fczel bir ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7 olabilir, ancak bir ili\u015fkiyi tek ba\u015f\u0131na ta\u015f\u0131yamaz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bir Hristiyan olarak biriyle \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yorsan\u0131z, kimya <em>bonus<\/em>, plan de\u011fil. Muhakeme yetene\u011finiz ancak Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n ili\u015fkiyi tartmas\u0131na izin verdi\u011finizde i\u015fe yarayabilir - d\u00fcrt\u00fclerinizin de\u011fil, art\u0131k bekar olmama arzunuzun de\u011fil, zaman \u00e7izelgenizin de\u011fil. Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n sizi y\u00f6nlendirmesine ne kadar \u00e7ok izin verirseniz, duygusal heyecan ile ruhsal huzur aras\u0131ndaki fark\u0131 ay\u0131rt etmeniz de o kadar kolayla\u015f\u0131r. Heyecan g\u00fcr\u00fclt\u00fcl\u00fc olabilir. Huzur ise sabittir. Biri kaybolur. Di\u011feri kal\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Kimya sizi bir araya getirebilir ama birlikte kal\u0131p kalamayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 karakter belirler. Bu benim deneme yan\u0131lma yoluyla \u00f6\u011frenmem gereken bir \u015fey. Ve d\u00fcr\u00fcst olmak gerekirse? Bu beni inan\u00e7tan ziyade korkudan dolay\u0131 raz\u0131 olabilece\u011fim durumlarda kalmaktan kurtard\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-2-prayer-isn-t-a-relationship-shortcut\">2. Dua Bir \u0130li\u015fkinin Kestirme Yolu De\u011fildir<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Eskiden dua etmenin bir ili\u015fkiyi otomatik olarak kutsal k\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrd\u00fcm. Spoiler: \u00f6yle de\u011filmi\u015f. Dua g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fcd\u00fcr, ancak kafa kar\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 maskelemek, bir ba\u011f\u0131 aceleye getirmek veya rahats\u0131z edici konu\u015fmalardan ka\u00e7\u0131nmak i\u00e7in kullan\u0131l\u0131yorsa, ruhani bir sa\u00e7mal\u0131k haline gelir. \u00c7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z biri hakk\u0131nda veya onunla birlikte dua etmek kutsald\u0131r - olgunluk ve uygun s\u0131n\u0131rlarla yap\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Duay\u0131 tutkal yapmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak yerine, temelin ger\u00e7ekten ne oldu\u011funu sorun. \u201cBu konuda dua edelim \u201din arkas\u0131na saklanmadan zor konu\u015fmalar yapabilir misiniz? Birlikte dua etmeden \u00f6nce ayr\u0131 ayr\u0131 dua edebiliyor musunuz? Bu size ili\u015fkinizin ruhsal sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 hakk\u0131nda Kutsal Yaz\u0131lardan ne kadar iyi al\u0131nt\u0131 yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zdan \u00e7ok daha fazlas\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yleyecektir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-over-spiritualizing-dating\">Randevular\u0131 a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 ruhsalla\u015ft\u0131rmak<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Buras\u0131 bir\u00e7ok ki\u015finin <a href=\"https:\/\/nrb.ttm.mybluehost.me\/tr\/randevulari-asiri-ruhanilestirmek\/\">Hristiyanlar fl\u00f6rt s\u00fcrecini a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 ruhanile\u015ftiriyor<\/a>. Bu alanda olmak tehlikelidir \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n \u0130ste\u011fi do\u011frultusunda oldu\u011funuzu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnebilirsiniz ama de\u011filsinizdir. \u201cBu konuda dua ettim\u201d diyebilirsiniz ama Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n bu konudaki yan\u0131t\u0131n\u0131 beklediniz mi? Duygular\u0131n\u0131z y\u00fcz\u00fcnden varsay\u0131mda bulunup ilerlediniz mi? Nas\u0131l hissetti\u011finize aldanmay\u0131n. Bu kalp k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na yol a\u00e7abilir ve baz\u0131lar\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a yapt\u0131klar\u0131 bir \u015fey i\u00e7in Tanr\u0131'y\u0131 su\u00e7lar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-my-experience\">Benim deneyimim<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Kocamla tan\u0131\u015fmadan \u00f6nce konu\u015ftu\u011fum son adam hakk\u0131nda dua etti\u011fimi hat\u0131rl\u0131yorum. Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n baz\u0131 \u015feyleri do\u011frulad\u0131\u011f\u0131na yemin edebilirdim, ama me\u011fer ben daha \u00e7ok duygular\u0131ma kap\u0131lm\u0131\u015f\u0131m. Bu bir hatayd\u0131 ve aram\u0131zdaki ili\u015fki sona erdi\u011finde Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcne ge\u00e7ti\u011fim i\u00e7in t\u00f6vbe etmek zorunda kald\u0131m. \u0130\u015fleri aceleye getirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u00fcyordum ama \u00f6yleydim. Ya\u015f\u0131mdan dolay\u0131 bu adam\u0131n o adam olmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcm. E\u011fer gidi\u015fat\u0131 d\u00fczeltmeseydim, i\u015fler k\u00f6t\u00fc sonu\u00e7lanacak ve \u015fu anda evli oldu\u011fum muhte\u015fem adam\u0131 ka\u00e7\u0131racakt\u0131m. Buna de\u011fer mi? \u015eimdi duygular\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n pe\u015finden gidip daha sonra Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n ger\u00e7ek l\u00fctfunu ka\u00e7\u0131rmaya ya da geciktirmeye? Hi\u00e7 sanm\u0131yorum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-what-does-prayer-do\">Dua ne i\u015fe yarar?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dua uyumlulu\u011fa giden kestirme bir yol de\u011fildir. Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n zamanlamas\u0131n\u0131 ge\u00e7ersiz k\u0131lmaz. Dua a\u00e7\u0131kl\u0131\u011fa zorlamaz. Dua yanl\u0131\u015f bir ili\u015fkiyi do\u011fru bir ili\u015fkiye d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcrmez. Duaya bir onay damgas\u0131 gibi davranmay\u0131 b\u0131rakmal\u0131 ve onu Tanr\u0131'yla s\u00fcregelen bir sohbet gibi g\u00f6rmeye ba\u015flamal\u0131y\u0131z.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dua g\u00f6zlerinizi a\u00e7mal\u0131d\u0131r, kapatmamal\u0131d\u0131r. Sizi yava\u015flatmal\u0131, h\u0131zland\u0131rmamal\u0131d\u0131r. Sizi bilgeli\u011fe g\u00f6t\u00fcrmelidir, h\u00fcsn\u00fckuruntu de\u011fil. Arzular\u0131n\u0131z g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc oldu\u011funda, dua bile duygular\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n s\u00fczgecinden ge\u00e7ebilir. \u0130\u015fte bu y\u00fczden Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n yan\u0131t\u0131n\u0131 beklemek \u00f6nemlidir. Sizin verece\u011finiz yan\u0131t de\u011fil. <em>umut<\/em> O verir. Yaln\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n O'nun vermesini istedi\u011fi de\u011fil. Yaln\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n <em>ger\u00e7ek<\/em> Bir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">K\u00f6kleri Tanr\u0131'ya dayanan bir ili\u015fkinin dua yoluyla zorlanmas\u0131na gerek yoktur. B\u00fcy\u00fcyecektir \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc dua zaten her ikinizin de kimli\u011finin bir par\u00e7as\u0131d\u0131r - kendinizi uyumlu oldu\u011funuza ikna etmek i\u00e7in kulland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z bir \u015fey de\u011fil. Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n \u00fcretilmesi gerekmez. O, ba\u011flant\u0131y\u0131 ger\u00e7ekten y\u00f6nlendirdi\u011finde do\u011fal olarak merkezde olacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-3-boundaries-don-t-replace-discipline\">3. S\u0131n\u0131rlar Disiplinin Yerini Almaz<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">S\u0131n\u0131rlar koymak gereklidir. Ama ke\u015fke s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n sadece sizin disiplininiz kadar g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc oldu\u011funu \u00f6nceden bilseydim. B\u00fct\u00fcn g\u00fcn \u201cyat\u0131ya kalmak yok\u201d diye konu\u015fabilirsiniz ama e\u011fer <a href=\"https:\/\/nrb.ttm.mybluehost.me\/tr\/flort-ederken-bastan-cikarici-durumlardan-kacinin\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">zaman\u0131n\u0131z\u0131, tetikleyicilerinizi ve duygular\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 y\u00f6netmek<\/a> olgunla\u015f\u0131rsan, d\u00fc\u015fersin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Disiplin, arzu ortaya \u00e7\u0131kmadan \u00f6nce al\u0131nan kararlarla ilgilidir. Zay\u0131f noktalar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 biliyor musunuz? O andan \u00f6nce hesap verebilirlik yaratt\u0131n\u0131z m\u0131? Yoksa o an\u0131n s\u0131cakl\u0131\u011f\u0131yla iradenize mi g\u00fcveniyorsunuz? Tanr\u0131 bizi sadece s\u0131n\u0131rlar koymaya \u00e7a\u011f\u0131rm\u0131yor - bizi bilgece y\u00fcr\u00fcmeye \u00e7a\u011f\u0131r\u0131yor (Efesliler 5:15). Bu bir ya\u015fam tarz\u0131d\u0131r, sadece bir kurallar listesi de\u011fil.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0130\u015fte bu y\u00fczden ki\u015fisel fark\u0131ndal\u0131k \u00e7ok \u00f6nemlidir. E\u011filimlerinizi bilmezseniz, durumlara k\u00f6r\u00fc k\u00f6r\u00fcne yakla\u015f\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z. \u0130\u015fte bu y\u00fczden bekarl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 y\u00f6netmek \u00f6nemlidir. Kendiniz hakk\u0131nda belki de fark etti\u011finizden daha fazla \u015fey \u00f6\u011frenirsiniz. Bu \u015fekilde sizi kendinizin en k\u00f6t\u00fc versiyonundan koruyan bir hayat ya\u015fayabilirsiniz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-boundaries-without-discipline\">Disiplinsiz s\u0131n\u0131rlar<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Disiplinsiz s\u0131n\u0131rlar, hi\u00e7 kapatmaya zahmet etmedi\u011finiz bir kap\u0131daki kilitler gibidir. Kilit var oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in kendinize g\u00fcvende oldu\u011funuzu s\u00f6ylersiniz ama kap\u0131y\u0131 s\u00fcrekli a\u00e7\u0131k b\u0131rak\u0131rsan\u0131z g\u00fcnaha girersiniz. Bir H\u0131ristiyan olarak fl\u00f6rt etmek kendinize kar\u015f\u0131 d\u00fcr\u00fcst olmay\u0131 gerektirir. Sadece ne istedi\u011finiz konusunda de\u011fil, neyle m\u00fccadele etti\u011finiz konusunda da.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">S\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131 kim oldu\u011funuza g\u00f6re belirleyemezsiniz <em>umut<\/em> Sen \u00f6ylesin. Kim oldu\u011funuza g\u00f6re s\u0131n\u0131rlar koyars\u0131n\u0131z. <em>Biliyorum<\/em> \u00d6ylesin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Belki de \u201c\u015eimdiye kadar yeterince g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc olmal\u0131yd\u0131m\u201d diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorsunuz.\u201d<br>Ya da \u201cBiz yeti\u015fkiniz, \u00fcstesinden gelebiliriz.\u201d<br>Ya da \u201c\u00d6nemli bir \u015fey de\u011fil, s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 biliyoruz.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ama s\u0131n\u0131rlar zay\u0131fl\u0131kla ilgili de\u011fildir. Bilgelikle ilgilidir. Duygular\u0131n t\u0131rmand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, cazibenin artt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ve savunmas\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n kap\u0131lar\u0131 h\u0131zla a\u00e7t\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 kabul etmekle ilgilidir. En g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc Hristiyan bile, disiplinin ihtiya\u00e7 duyduklar\u0131 anda sihirli bir \u015fekilde ortaya \u00e7\u0131kaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 varsayarsa kayabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Disiplin, zorluk ortaya \u00e7\u0131kmadan \u00e7ok \u00f6nce in\u015fa edilir. Al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131zda, dua hayat\u0131n\u0131zda, d\u00fcr\u00fcstl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fczde ve sizi sorumlu tutmalar\u0131na izin verdi\u011finiz ki\u015filerde in\u015fa edilir. S\u0131n\u0131rlar yolu netle\u015ftirir. Disiplin sizi o yolda tutar. S\u00fcrekli su\u00e7luluk duygusu, kafa kar\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131 veya ruhsal sisle m\u00fccadele etmedi\u011finiz bir ili\u015fkiyi hak ediyorsunuz. Disiplin netlik i\u00e7in alan yarat\u0131r. Kaos yerine g\u00fcvenle \u00e7\u0131kman\u0131za yard\u0131mc\u0131 olur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-4-stop-looking-for-a-savior\">4. Bir Kurtar\u0131c\u0131 Aramay\u0131 B\u0131rak\u0131n<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Zor yoldan \u00f6\u011frenmek zorunda kald\u0131m: m\u00fcstakbel e\u015finiz sizin \u015fifac\u0131n\u0131z, dan\u0131\u015fman\u0131n\u0131z ya da teselliciniz de\u011fil. O \u0130sa'd\u0131r. Bir e\u015f g\u00fcvensizli\u011finizi gideremez, duygusal bo\u015flu\u011funuzu dolduramaz ya da sizi tamamlayamaz. Bu, ba\u015fka bir insan i\u00e7in \u00e7ok fazla bask\u0131d\u0131r ve her ikinizi de ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131\u011fa s\u00fcr\u00fckler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Biriyle \u00e7\u0131kmak i\u00e7in m\u00fckemmel olman\u0131za gerek yok, ama b\u00fct\u00fcn olman\u0131z gerekir. Bu, Mesih'te g\u00fcvende oldu\u011funuz anlam\u0131na gelir, birinin sizin de\u011ferinizi onaylamas\u0131 i\u00e7in \u00e7aresiz olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z anlam\u0131na gelmez. Yaln\u0131zca Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n yapabildi\u011fini birinin yapmas\u0131n\u0131 isterseniz, hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na u\u011frar, kafan\u0131z kar\u0131\u015f\u0131r ve muhtemelen yeterli olmad\u0131klar\u0131 i\u00e7in onlar\u0131 su\u00e7lars\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-my-story\">Benim hikayem<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bu, \u00f6zellikle gen\u00e7lik y\u0131llar\u0131mda fl\u00f6rt ederken yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m b\u00fcy\u00fck bir hatayd\u0131. Sadece erkek de benden ho\u015flan\u0131rsa bir de\u011ferim oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyordum. E\u011fer ho\u015flanmazsa, bende bir sorun vard\u0131. Ya da bir erkek bana ilgi g\u00f6stermiyorsa, bu benim s\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 oldu\u011fum anlam\u0131na geliyordu. Beni ba\u015fka bir k\u0131za tercih etmediyse, kimsenin vaktini almaya de\u011fmezdim. Bunlar\u0131n hepsi yaland\u0131. Siz de bunlara inanmamal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n suretinde yarat\u0131ld\u0131n\u0131z, bu da otomatik olarak paha bi\u00e7ilemez oldu\u011funuz anlam\u0131na gelir. Sizin u\u011frunuza \u00f6lmesi i\u00e7in tek o\u011flunu g\u00f6nderdi, bu y\u00fczden sevgiye lay\u0131ks\u0131n\u0131z. Doyum, Mesih'te kim oldu\u011funuzdan gelir. Bir e\u015fe sahip olmak, e\u011fer arzu etti\u011finiz \u015fey buysa, hayatta sadece bir ikramiyedir. Baz\u0131 kiliselerin evlili\u011fi bir put haline getirmesi ve pek \u00e7ok Hristiyan bek\u00e2r\u0131n y\u00fcz\u00fck olmadan kendilerini eksik hissetmesi \u00fcz\u00fcc\u00fcd\u00fcr. Ne kadar ger\u00e7ek\u00e7i olursa olsun bu yalana kanmay\u0131n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-when-people-are-your-savior\">\u0130nsanlar kurtar\u0131c\u0131n\u0131z oldu\u011funda...<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bir ki\u015fiden Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n tedavi etmek istedi\u011fi bir yaray\u0131 iyile\u015ftirmesini bekledi\u011finizde fl\u00f6rt tehlikeli bir hal al\u0131r. \u0130nsanlar reddedilmeyi, terk edilmeyi, g\u00fcvensizli\u011fi, yaln\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131 veya korkuyu d\u00fczeltemez. Sizi destekleyebilir, cesaretlendirebilir, sizinle birlikte y\u00fcr\u00fcyebilir, sizi sevebilirler ama sizi tamamlayamazlar. Bu beklenti, ili\u015fkileri ortakl\u0131ktan ziyade hayatta kalma ara\u00e7lar\u0131na d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr\u00fcr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sizi ge\u00e7mi\u015finizden kurtaracak, yaln\u0131zl\u0131ktan kurtaracak, g\u00f6r\u00fcnmezlik hissinden kurtaracak birini aramak... Bu arzular\u0131n hi\u00e7biri sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir a\u015fka yol a\u00e7maz. Ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131\u011fa, hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na ve gereksiz kalp k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131klar\u0131na yol a\u00e7arlar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-when-jesus-is-your-savior\">\u0130sa kurtar\u0131c\u0131n\u0131z oldu\u011funda...<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c7aresizlik de\u011fil, b\u00fct\u00fcnl\u00fck \u00fczerine kurulu bir ili\u015fkiyi hak ediyorsunuz. Tanr\u0131 fl\u00f6rt etmeyi asla O'nun yerine ge\u00e7mek i\u00e7in tasarlamam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Onu zaten sizde yapmakta oldu\u011fu \u015feyi tamamlamak \u00fczere tasarlad\u0131. Evlilik kimli\u011fin \u00fczerine \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, h\u00fcsran da onu takip eder. Kimlik Mesih'te temellendirildi\u011finde, bir ili\u015fkiyi putla\u015ft\u0131rmadan ondan zevk almakta \u00f6zg\u00fcr olursunuz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-5-god-isn-t-testing-you\">5. Tanr\u0131 Sizi S\u0131nam\u0131yor<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Baz\u0131 H\u0131ristiyanlar bek\u00e2rl\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir ceza, fl\u00f6rt etmeyi de ge\u00e7ilmesi gereken bir final s\u0131nav\u0131 gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcyor. Sizi \u00f6zg\u00fcr b\u0131rakay\u0131m: Tanr\u0131, siz \u201cyeterince iyi\u201d olana kadar ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n \u00fczerinde bir ili\u015fki sallam\u0131yor. Bu bir s\u0131nav de\u011fil. Bu ortakl\u0131k, zamanlama ve ama\u00e7la ilgilidir. \u0130yi arma\u011fanlar vermekten zevk al\u0131r. Kalbinizle saklamba\u00e7 oynam\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Evet, bekleme d\u00f6nemleri vard\u0131r. Evet, O'nun ar\u0131tt\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u015feyler var. Ama O'nun y\u00fcre\u011fi sizin iyili\u011finiz i\u00e7indir, sadece sizin geli\u015fmeniz i\u00e7in de\u011fil. Her k\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 bayra\u011f\u0131 a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 analiz etmek ya da zorluklar\u0131n \u201cTanr\u0131 bana bir ders veriyor\u201d anlam\u0131na geldi\u011fini varsaymak zorunda de\u011filsiniz. Bazen bu sadece bir e\u015fle\u015fme de\u011fildir. Ve bu sorun de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-learning-from-mistakes\">Hatalardan ders \u00e7\u0131karmak<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Hay\u0131r, ge\u00e7mi\u015fe d\u00f6n\u00fcp fl\u00f6rt ederken yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z t\u00fcm hatalar\u0131 geri alamay\u0131z ama onlardan ders \u00e7\u0131karabiliriz. Kocamla tan\u0131\u015fmadan \u00f6nce \u00e7ok \u015fey \u00f6\u011frendi\u011fimi biliyorum. Tahmin edin ne oldu? Evlilikte bile \u00f6\u011frenmeyi asla b\u0131rakmazs\u0131n\u0131z, bu y\u00fczden nikah masas\u0131n\u0131n son nokta oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeyin. Bu sadece yeni bir ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n karakterine ve y\u00fcre\u011fine g\u00fcvenecek misiniz? O'nun sizinle birlikte oldu\u011funa ve sizin i\u00e7in en iyisini istedi\u011fine inan\u0131r m\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z? Her \u015fey karanl\u0131k hissetti\u011finizde bile g\u00f6zlerinizi O'ndan ay\u0131rmay\u0131n.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Kusurlu oldu\u011funuz i\u00e7in bek\u00e2r de\u011filsiniz. Bir konuda ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z oldu\u011funuz i\u00e7in de beklemiyorsunuz. Tanr\u0131 sizi unuttu\u011fu i\u00e7in g\u00f6z ard\u0131 edilmiyorsunuz. Biriyle \u00e7\u0131kmak ruhsal performans i\u00e7in bir \u00f6d\u00fcl de\u011fildir. Bu sadece iki ki\u015fi aras\u0131ndaki bir ili\u015fkidir - neye ve ne zaman ihtiyac\u0131n\u0131z oldu\u011funu tam olarak bilen sad\u0131k bir Tanr\u0131 taraf\u0131ndan y\u00f6nlendirilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Yolculu\u011fa bir s\u0131nav gibi bakmay\u0131 b\u0131rakt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda, kendinizi bask\u0131dan kurtar\u0131r ve huzura ad\u0131m atars\u0131n\u0131z. Tanr\u0131 sizin de\u011ferinizi derecelendirmez. De\u011ferinizi ili\u015fkinizin durumuna g\u00f6re \u00f6l\u00e7mez. Sevgisini ceza olarak esirgemez. O'nun zamanlamas\u0131 zalimlikten de\u011fil, ilgiden kaynaklan\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Baz\u0131lar\u0131yla tan\u0131\u015fmaya haz\u0131r <a href=\"https:\/\/www.be-salt.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">\u015fa\u015f\u0131rt\u0131c\u0131 Hristiyan bekarlar<\/a>? \u0130ndirin <a href=\"https:\/\/onelink.to\/websiteurl\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">SALT uygulamas\u0131<\/a> Bug\u00fcn!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>If there was one thing I wish I could change prior to dating would be my expectations. Unfortunately, my mind had been filled with fantasy stories like Cinderella, so this image of meeting a man and knowing he was &#8220;the one&#8221; instantly had me thinking that&#8217;s how it was supposed to be. 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