{"id":3148,"date":"2026-01-08T12:00:16","date_gmt":"2026-01-08T12:00:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/nrb.ttm.mybluehost.me\/?p=3148"},"modified":"2026-03-05T11:15:52","modified_gmt":"2026-03-05T11:15:52","slug":"onlari-hemen-begenme","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nrb.ttm.mybluehost.me\/tr\/dont-fancy-them-straight-away\/","title":{"rendered":"Cazibe Olu\u015fturabilir mi? Ya Onlardan Hemen Ho\u015flanmazsam?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cYa onlardan hemen ho\u015flanmazsam?\u201d D\u00fcnya \u00e7ekicili\u011fe, k\u0131v\u0131lc\u0131mlara ve kimyaya \u00e7ok fazla \u00f6nem verdi\u011fi i\u00e7in bu, bir\u00e7ok H\u0131ristiyan bekar i\u00e7in bir endi\u015fe kayna\u011f\u0131d\u0131r. Matthew McConaughey'nin Jennifer Lopez'e yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 gibi ayaklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 yerden kesmezse <em>D\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn Planlay\u0131c\u0131s\u0131<\/em>, O zaman bu ger\u00e7ek a\u015fk de\u011fildir. Ya da bir erkek sokakta y\u00fcr\u00fcyen, sa\u00e7lar\u0131nda r\u00fczgar esen ve parlak bir g\u00fcl\u00fcmsemesi olan bir kad\u0131n g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde yerinde duram\u0131yorsa, o kad\u0131n onun zaman\u0131na de\u011fmiyor demektir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0130\u015fte o ilk k\u0131v\u0131lc\u0131m\u0131 hissetmeyen evli bir \u00e7iftin hikayesi:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"G\u00f6r\u00fcc\u00fc Usul\u00fc Randevuda Risk Ald\u0131lar\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/AA4yfFPhRuo?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-where-christians-go-wrong\">Hristiyanlar Nerede Yanl\u0131\u015f Yap\u0131yor?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Bir yandan <a href=\"https:\/\/www.be-salt.com\/\">arkada\u015fl\u0131k uygulamalar\u0131 Hristiyan bekarlar\u0131n tan\u0131\u015fmas\u0131na yard\u0131mc\u0131 oluyor<\/a> D\u00fcnyan\u0131n farkl\u0131 yerlerinden gelen insanlar aras\u0131nda genellikle d\u0131\u015f g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015fe \u00e7ok fazla \u00f6nem verilir. Onlardan hemen ho\u015flanmad\u0131ysan\u0131z, sola kayd\u0131r\u0131n. \u0130lk bulu\u015fmaya gidenler i\u00e7in, o tek kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fma \u00fczerinde b\u00fcy\u00fck bir bask\u0131 vard\u0131r. G\u00f6zlerinde kelebekler u\u00e7u\u015fmas\u0131n\u0131 ve y\u0131ld\u0131zlar\u0131n dans etmesini beklerler. \u0130lk bulu\u015fmada e\u015fleri oldu\u011funa dair bir onay alamazlarsa, bunu kaybedilmi\u015f bir dava olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcrler. Bir\u00e7ok H\u0131ristiyan bek\u00e2r, birisinin kendileri i\u00e7in do\u011fru ki\u015fi olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hemen anlayamazlarsa \u201cyanl\u0131\u015f ki\u015fiyle\u201d \u00e7\u0131karak zaman kaybetmekten korkar. Fark edemedikleri \u015fey ise, bir \u015feyin sonsuza dek kayboldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fczde bile Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n zaman\u0131 nas\u0131l kullanaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bildi\u011fidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ger\u00e7ekten ho\u015flanmad\u0131klar\u0131 ya da ilgi duymad\u0131klar\u0131 biriyle birlikte olmak zorunda kalacaklar\u0131ndan korkan bir ba\u015fka Hristiyan bekar grubu daha var. Ama\u00e7 ve \u00e7a\u011fr\u0131 hakk\u0131nda bu kadar \u00e7ok konu\u015fulurken, pek \u00e7ok ki\u015fi Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n kimyay\u0131 ger\u00e7ekten \u00f6nemsemedi\u011fine inan\u0131yor. Bu \u00f6\u011freti y\u00fcz\u00fcnden, birlikte olmaktan bile ho\u015flanmad\u0131klar\u0131 biriyle evlenmekten korkuyorlar. G\u00fcnden g\u00fcne mutsuz hissettikleri bir evlilik hayal ediyorlar, ancak Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n iste\u011fi yerine getirildi\u011fi s\u00fcrece, e\u011flenceyi ve kimyay\u0131 feda etmeye de\u011fer oldu\u011fu s\u00f6yleniyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-my-story\">Benim Hikayem<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Kocam ve ben Zoom'da g\u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fcl\u00fc sohbete ilk ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda, benim i\u00e7in hemen bir \u201ck\u0131v\u0131lc\u0131m\u201d olmad\u0131. Ondan etkilenmedi\u011fimden de\u011fil, ama duygusal olarak \u00e7ok erken ba\u011flanmamak i\u00e7in bilerek yava\u015flama karar\u0131 alm\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. Bu hatay\u0131 daha \u00f6nce bir kez yapm\u0131\u015ft\u0131m ve duygular\u0131m\u0131n beni y\u00f6nlendirmesine izin verdi\u011fim i\u00e7in bu durum muhakeme yetene\u011fimi g\u00f6lgelemi\u015f ve kar\u015f\u0131mdaki ki\u015fiyi ger\u00e7ekten tan\u0131mama engel olmu\u015ftu. Bu y\u00fczden kocamla konu\u015fmaya ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda \u015fu ifadeyi benimsedim: \u201cHer seferinde bir g\u00fcn. Her seferinde bir konu\u015fma.\u201d Hemen bir k\u0131v\u0131lc\u0131m hissetmesem de ona kar\u015f\u0131 hislerim zaman i\u00e7inde sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir \u015fekilde b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc. \u015eimdi, neredeyse be\u015f y\u0131l sonra, kocam hayat\u0131m\u0131n \u00f6nemli bir par\u00e7as\u0131 haline geldi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-slow-down\">Yava\u015fla<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Daha \u00f6nce de belirtildi\u011fi gibi, pek \u00e7ok H\u0131ristiyan bek\u00e2r, en ba\u015f\u0131ndan beri ho\u015flanmad\u0131klar\u0131 yanl\u0131\u015f biriyle zaman kaybetmekten korkmaktad\u0131r. Ancak ben her birine biraz yava\u015flamalar\u0131 i\u00e7in meydan okuyorum. Kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki ki\u015fi e\u015finiz olmasa bile, bu onun Rab'bi seven harika bir birey olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 anlam\u0131na gelmez. Tan\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z herkes e\u015finiz olacak diye bir \u015fey yok.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bir kez daha, imanl\u0131lar olarak Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n ya\u015famlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n her ayr\u0131nt\u0131s\u0131yla ilgilendi\u011fini hat\u0131rlamam\u0131z gerekti\u011fine inan\u0131yorum. Tanr\u0131'y\u0131 \u00e7ok uzaklarda, cennetteki taht\u0131nda hayal etmek kolayd\u0131r ve O'nun Ruhu'nun her g\u00fcn bizimle birlikte oldu\u011funu unuturuz. Neyi sevdi\u011fimizi ve neyi sevmedi\u011fimizi bilir. Ki\u015filiklerimizi ve en iyi kiminle ba\u011flant\u0131 kuraca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 bilir. E\u011fer bunu biliyorsa, neden bunu sizinle ve olas\u0131 evlili\u011finizle ilgili olarak d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmesin? Evet, Tanr\u0131 itaat ve kutsall\u0131k ister. Sizin O'nun amac\u0131 ve iste\u011fiyle uyum i\u00e7inde olman\u0131z\u0131 ister. Ancak Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n sizin mutlulu\u011funuzu hi\u00e7 \u00f6nemsemedi\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmek yanl\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-what-do-single-christians-think\">Bekar H\u0131ristiyanlar ne d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyor?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Bu konu\u015fmay\u0131 \u015fu adrese g\u00f6t\u00fcrd\u00fck <a href=\"https:\/\/www.be-salt.com\/social\">SALT Sosyal Toplulu\u011fu<\/a> ne s\u00f6yleyeceklerini g\u00f6rmek i\u00e7in. Onlar\u0131n g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015flerini okurken, kendi fl\u00f6rt hayat\u0131n\u0131zda nas\u0131l ilerledi\u011finizin envanterini \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131n. Elbette ne yapaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131za dair belirlenmi\u015f bir kural yok, ancak birbirimizden bilgelik alabiliriz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Onlardan hemen ho\u015flanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda ne yapars\u0131n\u0131z? Ya ilk bulu\u015fma gerginlik nedeniyle garip gelirse - sizin ya da onun gerginli\u011fi? O ki\u015fiye bir \u015fans daha vermeli misiniz yoksa duygular\u0131n\u0131z hemen olu\u015fmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in onu bir kenara m\u0131 atmal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z? Romantik komediler sayesinde a\u015fk\u0131n anl\u0131k olmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyoruz. Ama ya yava\u015f yava\u015f yan\u0131yorsa? Bu, birine kar\u015f\u0131 duygular\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 zorlaman\u0131z veya \u00fcretmeniz gerekti\u011fi anlam\u0131na gelmez. Bu adil de\u011fil. Onu tan\u0131mak i\u00e7in zaman ay\u0131rd\u0131ktan sonra ger\u00e7ekten onunla bir gelecek g\u00f6remiyorsan\u0131z, nazik\u00e7e uzakla\u015f\u0131n ve o ki\u015fiyi buldu\u011funuzdan daha iyi bir \u015fekilde b\u0131rak\u0131n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Birine kar\u015f\u0131 hisler beslemenin nas\u0131l bir \u015fey oldu\u011funu bilirim. Ger\u00e7ek bir beklentim yokken k\u00f6t\u00fc bir kararla bunu yapt\u0131m ve bu adam bana ilgi g\u00f6sterdi\u011fi i\u00e7in onunla birlikte gitmeye karar verdim. Bunun sonucunda kendime zarar verdim \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc kar\u015f\u0131mdaki ki\u015fiye kar\u015f\u0131 d\u00fcr\u00fcst de\u011fildim. Hristiyan fl\u00f6rtlerinde durum b\u00f6yle olmamal\u0131. Bu s\u00fcre\u00e7te \u015feffaf olmal\u0131y\u0131z ki kimseyi y\u00f6nlendirmeyelim ya da ger\u00e7ekten ho\u015flanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z halde onlardan ho\u015fland\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmelerine neden olmayal\u0131m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-don-t-fancy-them-straight-away\">Onlar\u0131 Hemen Be\u011fenmediniz mi?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cBazen insanlar gergin\/\u00e7ekingen olabilir, onlara her zaman 2. bir \u015fans\/ 2. randevu verin. Ancak, 1. bulu\u015fmada konu\u015fma s\u0131ras\u0131nda de\u011ferler\/ahlaki de\u011ferler uyu\u015fmazsa, 2. bulu\u015fma gerekli de\u011fildir.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-karl\">Karl<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cFiziksel \u00e7ekim hi\u00e7bir zaman uzun vadede \u00f6nemli de\u011fildir, ancak ilk ba\u015fta nas\u0131l hissetti\u011finizi etkileyebilir. Ki\u015finin ki\u015fili\u011finin nas\u0131l oldu\u011funu \u00f6\u011frenmek i\u00e7in zaman ay\u0131r\u0131n. En az\u0131ndan bir arkada\u015fl\u0131\u011fa sahip olmak i\u00e7in yeterince ortak nokta oldu\u011fu s\u00fcrece, ikinci bulu\u015fma i\u00e7in denemeye de\u011fer. Bazen bir ili\u015fki i\u00e7in duygusal ba\u011f kurmak zaman al\u0131r.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-candy\">\u015eeker<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cBazen duygular\u0131 hemen hissetmezsiniz ama zamanla geli\u015firler. Benim genel kural\u0131m, i\u015flerin nas\u0131l gitti\u011fi konusunda d\u00fcr\u00fcst olmak ve 3. randevunun sonunda bir \u015fey olmuyorsa ileti\u015fim kurmakt\u0131r, b\u00f6ylece onlar\u0131n zaman\u0131na da sayg\u0131 duymu\u015f olursunuz.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-leoni\">Leoni<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201c\u0130lk seferde sizi tutmak i\u00e7in bir t\u00fcr centilmenlik, nezaket ya da duygu olmal\u0131. \u0130lk izlenimler \u00f6nemlidir. \u0130shak'\u0131n hizmetk\u00e2r\u0131 ilk kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fmada hizmet edecek bir han\u0131mefendi arad\u0131. Do\u011fru sorular\u0131 sorarak ya da hi\u00e7 centilmenlik g\u00f6stermeyerek i\u015fleri bitirdim.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-kayla\">Kayla<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cBence bu, bir insan\u0131 sizin i\u00e7in neyin \u00e7ekici k\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131na ba\u011fl\u0131. Benim i\u00e7in bu zeka, nezaket, \u015fefkat ve kendilerine ve ba\u015fkalar\u0131na nas\u0131l davrand\u0131klar\u0131d\u0131r. Ne kadar yak\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131 olduklar\u0131 de\u011fil, d\u0131\u015f g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015fleri ki\u015filiklerini ve bana nas\u0131l davranacaklar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6stermez. Bu nedenle, benim i\u00e7in birinden \u2018ho\u015flan\u0131p ho\u015flanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131\u2019 anlamak i\u00e7in birden fazla g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fme yapmak gerekir.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-theresa\">Theresa<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cBu harika bir soru! \u015eahsen ben \u00e7ekimin bazen zamanla artabilece\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorum, \u00f6zellikle de ger\u00e7ek bir ba\u011f ve iyi bir sohbet varsa. E\u011fer onlar\u0131n arkada\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan ho\u015fland\u0131ysam ve bir merak k\u0131v\u0131lc\u0131m\u0131 hissettiysem, duygular\u0131n geli\u015fip geli\u015fmedi\u011fini g\u00f6rmek i\u00e7in ikinci bir randevuya a\u00e7\u0131k olurum. Ancak ger\u00e7ekten romantik bir potansiyel yokmu\u015f gibi hissediyorsam, muhtemelen d\u00fcr\u00fcst olur ve arkada\u015f kalmay\u0131 \u00f6nerirdim. San\u0131r\u0131m bu, daha fazlas\u0131 i\u00e7in herhangi bir olas\u0131l\u0131k hissedip hissetmedi\u011fime ya da sadece g\u00fczel bir arkada\u015fl\u0131k havas\u0131 olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131na ba\u011fl\u0131.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-lucas\">Lucas<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cY\u0131llar \u00f6nce Greg Laurie'nin bir vaaz\u0131n\u0131 dinlemi\u015ftim ve biriyle birlikte oldu\u011funuzda, bu bir randevu, bir hafta ya da bir y\u0131l bile olsa... ve bu ki\u015finin size uygun olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 biliyorsan\u0131z ya da Tanr\u0131 size bunu g\u00f6steriyorsa, bu ili\u015fkiyi bitirmeniz gerekti\u011fini s\u00f6yl\u00fcyordu... ve i\u015fin can al\u0131c\u0131 noktas\u0131 da \u015fuydu: \u201c... neden bir ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n m\u00fcstakbel e\u015fiyle \u00e7\u0131kmaya devam etmek isteyesiniz ki?!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-greg\">Greg<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cBir dereceye kadar Greg'e kat\u0131l\u0131yorum, ancak ayn\u0131 zamanda ilk bulu\u015fma veya g\u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fcl\u00fc g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmeden sonra, g\u00f6ze \u00e7arpan karakter kusurlar\u0131 veya z\u0131t d\u00fcnya g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fleri ve de\u011ferleri d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda, muhtemelen ki\u015fiyi veya sizinle iyi bir e\u015fle\u015fme olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hala \u00e7ok az tan\u0131yorsunuz (ger\u00e7ekten sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 de\u011fil) \u00e7ok erken k\u0131r\u0131lganl\u0131klar\u0131 payla\u015fmak i\u00e7in) .... \u00dc\u00e7 randevu kural\u0131na ve \u00f6nce arkada\u015f idealine daha \u00e7ok kat\u0131l\u0131yorum, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc onlar\u0131n kalbini olaylardan daha fazla tan\u0131maya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r\u0131z ve ilk izlenimlere dayanarak onlar\u0131 b\u0131rakmayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 bilmelerini sa\u011flar\u0131z.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-jason\">Jason<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-give-it-time\">Zaman verin<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Bu yorumlara dayanarak, fikir birli\u011finin en az 2-3 randevu vermek oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorum. Bu \u015fekilde, ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7ta ho\u015funuza gitmezse, o ki\u015fiye bir f\u0131rsat daha vermi\u015f olursunuz. Ben bu yakla\u015f\u0131ma kat\u0131l\u0131yorum \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc bir bak\u0131ma kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki ki\u015fiye l\u00fctufta bulunmu\u015f oluyorsunuz. \u0130lk bulu\u015fmada sizi etkilemediyse, ona bir \u015fans daha vererek birlikte zaman ge\u00e7irmeye de\u011fer oldu\u011funu ve ona de\u011fer verdi\u011finizi g\u00f6stermi\u015f olursunuz - i\u015fler ciddi bir ili\u015fkiye d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fmese bile. G\u00fcn\u00fcn sonunda hepimizin istedi\u011fi \u015fey budur. Hepimiz bir ba\u015fkas\u0131 taraf\u0131ndan g\u00f6r\u00fcld\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc hissetmek isteriz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0130kinci, hatta \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc bulu\u015fmadan sonra i\u015flerin ilerledi\u011fini g\u00f6rm\u00fcyorsan\u0131z, bunu nazik\u00e7e di\u011fer ki\u015fiyle payla\u015f\u0131n, b\u00f6ylece onlar da bilgilenmi\u015f olur. S\u0131rf art\u0131k yaln\u0131z kalmak istemedi\u011finiz i\u00e7in kendinizi onunla birlikte olmaya ikna etmenin zaman\u0131 de\u011fil. Bu onlar i\u00e7in de sizin i\u00e7in de adil de\u011fildir. Samuel peygamberin yeni bir kral aramak i\u00e7in g\u00f6nderildi\u011fi zaman Davut'un hikayesini hat\u0131rl\u0131yorum. Davut'un a\u011fabeylerine bakt\u0131 ve g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015fleri nedeniyle Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n, Kral Saul'dan sonra \u0130srail'i y\u00f6netmesi i\u00e7in otomatik olarak onlardan birini se\u00e7ece\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc. Ancak Tanr\u0131 Samuel'i d\u00fczeltir ve insanlar\u0131n d\u0131\u015f g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015fe bakarken, Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n y\u00fcre\u011fe bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hat\u0131rlat\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-look-at-the-heart\">Kalbine bak<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fcn fl\u00f6rt d\u00fcnyas\u0131nda H\u0131ristiyanlar olarak insanlar\u0131n kalplerine ger\u00e7ekten bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 d\u00fcr\u00fcst\u00e7e s\u00f6yleyebilir miyiz? Onlardan ho\u015flan\u0131p ho\u015flanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n \u00f6tesine ge\u00e7ip karakterlerini dikkate al\u0131yor muyuz? \u0130\u015fte <a href=\"https:\/\/nrb.ttm.mybluehost.me\/tr\/hiri%cc%87sti%cc%87yan-i%cc%87li%cc%87ski%cc%87leri%cc%87nde-fi%cc%87zi%cc%87ksel-ceki%cc%87m-onemli%cc%87-mi%cc%87di%cc%87r\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">\u00e7ekicilikte yanl\u0131\u015f bir \u015fey yok<\/a>-Bu \u00f6nemlidir ama 21 ya\u015f\u0131nda nas\u0131l g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcyorsan\u0131z 81 ya\u015f\u0131nda da ayn\u0131 \u015fekilde g\u00f6r\u00fcnmeyeceksiniz. Ne yaz\u0131k ki, d\u00fcnyadaki pek \u00e7ok s\u0131\u011f fl\u00f6rt ilkesi H\u0131ristiyan kilisesine de s\u0131zm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. \u00c7o\u011fu Hristiyan bekar bunun fark\u0131nda de\u011fildir, ancak bir ad\u0131m geri atsalar, muhtemelen tercihlerinin \u00e7o\u011funun uzun vadede ger\u00e7ekten \u00f6nemli olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6receklerdir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>E\u011fer onlardan hemen ho\u015flanm\u0131yorsan\u0131z, bir ya da iki randevu daha verin. Sonunda yollar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 ay\u0131racak olsan\u0131z bile, onlar\u0131n ger\u00e7ekten ne kadar inan\u0131lmaz olduklar\u0131na \u015fa\u015f\u0131rabilirsiniz. Bir randevuya \u00e7\u0131kan gen\u00e7 bir adam ve kad\u0131n\u0131n hikayesini asla unutmayaca\u011f\u0131m. Zamanla ili\u015fkilerinin y\u00fcr\u00fcmeyece\u011fini anlad\u0131lar. Birka\u00e7 y\u0131l sonra kad\u0131n evlendi ve bir zamanlar \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131 adamla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, onun kendisi i\u00e7in ne kadar i\u00e7tenlikle mutlu oldu\u011funu g\u00f6r\u00fcnce \u015fa\u015f\u0131rd\u0131. Hatta adam, \u201cAram\u0131zdaki ili\u015fkinin y\u00fcr\u00fcmemesine sevindim, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc harika bir adam olan kocanla asla tan\u0131\u015famayacakt\u0131n\u201d demi\u015f. Bunu s\u00f6ylemek b\u00fcy\u00fck bir olgunluk ister.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-be-ok-with-rejection\">Reddedilmeyi kabullenin<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Pek \u00e7ok Hristiyan bekar reddedilmeyi o kadar ki\u015fisel al\u0131r ki, biri hayat\u0131na devam etti\u011finde bunu kendi ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fcz - bizi se\u00e7mediklerini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u00fcz. Ancak fl\u00f6rt ve evlilik birileri taraf\u0131ndan se\u00e7ilmekle ilgili de\u011fildir. H\u0131ristiyanlar olarak bu, evlili\u011finizde \u0130sa'n\u0131n \u0131\u015f\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6r\u00fclebilmesi i\u00e7in e\u015finizle bir antla\u015fma yapmakla ilgilidir. Evet, e\u011flence ve romantizm vard\u0131r ama birlikteli\u011finizin as\u0131l amac\u0131 bu de\u011fildir. Arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131z, aileniz ve d\u00fcnya evlili\u011finize bakabilmeli ve Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n sizi bir araya getirdi\u011fini a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a g\u00f6rebilmelidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Peki ya siz? Akl\u0131n\u0131za gelen ve bir \u015fans daha vermeniz gereken biri var m\u0131? E\u011fer \u00f6yleyse, deneyin ve ne olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcn. \u015eu anda oldu\u011funuzdan daha k\u00f6t\u00fc durumda olmayacaks\u0131n\u0131z. Sonu\u00e7 konusunda O'na g\u00fcvenerek fl\u00f6rt hayatlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 tamamen Rab'be teslim etmemizin zaman\u0131 geldi. Tanr\u0131 en iyi a\u015fk hik\u00e2yelerinin nas\u0131l yaz\u0131laca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilir; b\u0131rak\u0131n sizinkini de O yazs\u0131n. Korkman\u0131za gerek yok, \u00f6zellikle de O'nu izliyorsan\u0131z ve a\u015fk ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131zla O'nu ho\u015fnut etmek istiyorsan\u0131z.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-salt-social\">SALT Sosyal<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>G\u00f6r\u00fc\u015flerinizi payla\u015fmak ister misiniz? Bir sonraki sohbete kat\u0131lmak m\u0131 istiyorsunuz? SALT Social tam da olmas\u0131 gereken yer! A\u015fa\u011f\u0131dakiler i\u00e7in gidilecek yer <a href=\"https:\/\/onelink.to\/websiteurl\">Ba\u011flant\u0131 kurmak i\u00e7in Hristiyan bekarlar<\/a> E\u011flenceli ama Krall\u0131k merkezli bir \u015fekilde. \u0130li\u015fki tavsiyesi isteyin, bir ibadet \u015fark\u0131s\u0131 payla\u015f\u0131n veya en sevdi\u011finiz tatil yerinin foto\u011fraf\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6nderin. Zaman zaman \u00f6yle hissetseniz bile, bekarl\u0131k yolculu\u011funuzda yaln\u0131z de\u011filsiniz. Burada \u00e7ok say\u0131da <a href=\"https:\/\/www.be-salt.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">\u015fa\u015f\u0131rt\u0131c\u0131 Hristiyan bekar erkekler<\/a> ve yan\u0131n\u0131za gelmeye haz\u0131r kad\u0131nlar, arkada\u015fl\u0131klar ve topluluk kurman\u0131za yard\u0131mc\u0131 olur. Ve kim bilir, belki de yol boyunca \u00f6zel biriyle tan\u0131\u015f\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sosyal medyadaki bir sonraki s\u0131cak konunun bir par\u00e7as\u0131 olun <a href=\"https:\/\/onelink.to\/websiteurl\">SALT uygulamas\u0131n\u0131 indirme<\/a> ka\u00e7\u0131rmamak i\u00e7in bug\u00fcn.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cWhat if I don\u2019t fancy them right away?\u201d This is a concern for many Christian singles since the world puts so much emphasis on attraction, sparks, and chemistry. 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