{"id":2934,"date":"2025-06-05T11:03:45","date_gmt":"2025-06-05T11:03:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/nrb.ttm.mybluehost.me\/?p=2934"},"modified":"2025-06-05T11:03:46","modified_gmt":"2025-06-05T11:03:46","slug":"evlendiginizde-kalbinizi-koruyun","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nrb.ttm.mybluehost.me\/tr\/guard-your-heart-when-married\/","title":{"rendered":"Evliyken Kalbinizi Nas\u0131l Korursunuz?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Bu blog yaz\u0131s\u0131, evli ya da ni\u015fanl\u0131 H\u0131ristiyan \u00e7iftlerin \u00d6zdeyi\u015fler 4:23'teki bilgeli\u011fi uygulamaya koymalar\u0131na yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmaktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-tl-dr-the-summary\">TL:DR: \u00d6zet<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>\"Kalbinizi koruyun\" ifadesini duydu\u011fumuzda, genellikle Hristiyan bek\u00e2rlar\u0131 ve gelecekteki e\u015fleriyle tan\u0131\u015fma umuduyla fl\u00f6rt edenleri d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u00fcz. Peki ya evli olanlar? E\u015finize ba\u011fland\u0131ktan sonra kalbinizi koruman\u0131z h\u00e2l\u00e2 gerekli midir?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bu konu Hristiyan \u00e7evrelerde pek tart\u0131\u015f\u0131lmaz \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc bir\u00e7ok bekar evlili\u011fin t\u00fcm sorunlar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7\u00f6zece\u011fini varsayar. Ancak bu ger\u00e7eklerden \u00e7ok uzakt\u0131r. Ger\u00e7ekte evlilik daha da fazla \u00e7aba gerektirir \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc bu bir antla\u015fmad\u0131r, d\u00fc\u015fman\u0131n kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131 kutsal bir taahh\u00fctt\u00fcr. Sizin ve e\u015finizin ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olman\u0131z\u0131 ya da Tanr\u0131'ya y\u00fccelik getirmenizi istemez, bu nedenle ikinizden birinin ya da her ikinizin de t\u00f6kezlemesi i\u00e7in tuzaklar kurar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-the-battle\">Sava\u015f<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>H\u0131ristiyanlar olarak, ister bek\u00e2r ister evli olal\u0131m, ruhsal bir sava\u015f\u0131n i\u00e7indeyiz. Ancak, Tanr\u0131sal evlilikleri olanlar benzersiz sald\u0131r\u0131larla kar\u015f\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131yad\u0131r. \"Evet\" demek d\u00fc\u015fman\u0131n geri \u00e7ekilmesini sa\u011flamaz. Bunun yerine, evlili\u011fin yans\u0131tmas\u0131 gereken Mesih ve Kilise resmini \u00e7arp\u0131tmak i\u00e7in daha da \u00e7ok \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Bu nedenle kalbinizi korumak bekarl\u0131k d\u00f6neminde oldu\u011fu kadar evlilikte de \u00f6nemini korur. Evlilik her zaman kolay olmayacak olsa da, uyan\u0131k kalmak ve Kutsal Ruh'la i\u015fbirli\u011fi yapmak ili\u015fkinizi korumaya ve g\u00fc\u00e7lendirmeye yard\u0131mc\u0131 olabilir. \u0130\u015fte evlilikte bile y\u00fcre\u011finizi koruman\u0131n baz\u0131 yollar\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/h-keep-god-first\">\u00d6nce Tanr\u0131'y\u0131 Tutun<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/h-set-boundaries-with-each-other\">Birbirinize S\u0131n\u0131rlar Koyun<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/h-communicate-openly-and-honestly\">A\u00e7\u0131k ve D\u00fcr\u00fcst \u0130leti\u015fim Kurun<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a href=\"#h-focus-on-your-spouse-s-needs\">E\u015finizin \u0130htiya\u00e7lar\u0131na Odaklan\u0131n<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/h-practice-forgiveness-regularly\">D\u00fczenli Olarak Ba\u011f\u0131\u015flama Prati\u011fi Yap\u0131n<\/a>\u00a0<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-intro\">Giri\u015f<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>San\u0131r\u0131m hepimiz d\u00fc\u015fman\u0131n bek\u00e2rl\u0131ktan ba\u015flayarak ili\u015fkilerin pe\u015finde oldu\u011fu konusunda hemfikiriz. Hristiyan bek\u00e2rlar\u0131n cesaretini k\u0131rarak ya Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n en iyisinden daha az\u0131na raz\u0131 olmalar\u0131n\u0131 ya da yaln\u0131z olmalar\u0131 gerekti\u011fi yalan\u0131na inanarak evlilikten tamamen vazge\u00e7melerini sa\u011flamak ister. Evlenenler i\u00e7in ise d\u00fc\u015fman b\u00f6l\u00fcnme ve \u00e7eki\u015fme yaratmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Kilisedeki bo\u015fanma oran\u0131n\u0131n neredeyse d\u00fcnyadaki ile ayn\u0131 olmas\u0131 cesaret k\u0131r\u0131c\u0131d\u0131r. Neden b\u00f6yle oluyor? E\u011fer i\u00e7imizde Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n Ruhu, O'nun S\u00f6z\u00fc ve bizi \u00e7evreleyen Tanr\u0131sal bir topluluk varsa, neden <a href=\"https:\/\/www.be-salt.com\/\">Hristiyan evlilikleri<\/a> Hala ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z m\u0131?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Her bo\u015fanma farkl\u0131 nedenlerle ger\u00e7ekle\u015fse de, bo\u015fanmadan kaynaklanan kalp k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n asla Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n orijinal tasar\u0131m\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 biliyoruz. Evlili\u011fin \u00f6m\u00fcr boyu s\u00fcrecek bir antla\u015fma olmas\u0131 gerekiyordu. Bununla birlikte, bo\u015fanma deneyimi ya\u015fam\u0131\u015f olanlar i\u00e7in bile, bu onlar\u0131n hasarl\u0131 mal olduklar\u0131 ya da Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n ya\u015famlar\u0131na yeni bir sevgi getiremeyece\u011fi anlam\u0131na gelmez. Yine de, Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n y\u00fcceli\u011fi i\u00e7in evliliklerimizi ve ailelerimizi koruyabilmemiz i\u00e7in kendimizi d\u00fc\u015fman\u0131n taktiklerini tan\u0131mak ve bunlara direnmek \u00fczere donatmal\u0131y\u0131z.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Evlilik Bizi Mutlu Etmiyor mu?\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/jtJw0f8IdrI?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-keep-god-first\">\u00d6nce Tanr\u0131'y\u0131 Tutun<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\"><\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p>Evlilikte bile Tanr\u0131'y\u0131 \u00f6n planda tutmak en \u00f6nemli \u00f6nceli\u011finiz olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Neden mi? \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc e\u015finiz de bir insand\u0131r ve hata yapabilir. Pek \u00e7ok H\u0131ristiyan evliliklerinde kalp k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ya\u015far \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc e\u015flerinin idealize edilmi\u015f hali ger\u00e7ek hayatla birlikte kaybolur. Hayat, \"Evet\" dedi\u011finizde takm\u0131\u015f olabilece\u011finiz pembe g\u00f6zl\u00fckleri \u00e7\u0131karman\u0131n bir yolunu bulur. Ger\u00e7ek \u015fu ki, e\u015finiz harika olabilir, ancak bu sizi asla incitmeyece\u011fi anlam\u0131na gelmez.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Uzun s\u00fcredir evli de\u011filim, ama e\u015f olarak ge\u00e7irdi\u011fim k\u0131sa s\u00fcrede, kocam\u0131 ne kadar seversem seveyim, onun da en az benim kadar Rab'be ihtiyac\u0131 oldu\u011funu fark ettim. Her zaman kocam\u0131n \u0130sa'y\u0131 beni sevdi\u011finden daha \u00e7ok sevmesi i\u00e7in dua ediyorum \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc e\u011fer Tanr\u0131'ya \u00f6ncelik verirse, Rab onu iyi bir koca olmas\u0131 i\u00e7in donatacakt\u0131r. Kocam her sabah g\u00fcne\u015f do\u011fmadan \u00f6nce dua etmek, ibadet etmek ve Kutsal Kitap'\u0131n\u0131 okumak i\u00e7in uyan\u0131r. Bu al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 izledik\u00e7e, Tanr\u0131'yla ne kadar \u00e7ok zaman ge\u00e7irirse beni o kadar iyi sevdi\u011fini ve bana o kadar iyi hizmet etti\u011fini fark ettim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-prioritize-relationship-with-god\">Tanr\u0131 ile ili\u015fkiye \u00f6ncelik verin<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Ben de ayn\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 yapmal\u0131y\u0131m. Rab'le olan ili\u015fkim kocam\u0131nkinden farkl\u0131 olsa da, Tanr\u0131'yla zaman ge\u00e7irdi\u011fimde daha sab\u0131rl\u0131 ve ba\u011f\u0131\u015flay\u0131c\u0131 oldu\u011fumu biliyorum. Kendi ya\u015fam\u0131mda Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n l\u00fctfunu deneyimledi\u011fim i\u00e7in kocama daha fazla l\u00fctuf g\u00f6sterebiliyorum. Sessiz zamanlar\u0131mda Rab'bin beni kocam i\u00e7in d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceli bir \u015fey yapmaya y\u00f6nlendirdi\u011fi anlar bile oluyor, sadece bir sevgi eylemi olarak. Kocam da benim i\u00e7in ayn\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 yap\u0131yor - Tanr\u0131'yla ge\u00e7irdi\u011fi zamandan sonra, genellikle kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k beklemeden nazik bir \u015fey yap\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0130\u015fin g\u00fczel yan\u0131, e\u015fim ve benim kar\u0131 koca olmadan \u00f6nce Rab ile ayr\u0131 ayr\u0131 y\u00fcr\u00fcy\u00fc\u015flerimiz oldu. Bu temeli bekarl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda ve fl\u00f6rtlerimizde in\u015fa etti\u011fimiz i\u00e7in, do\u011fal olarak evlili\u011fimize de ta\u015f\u0131nd\u0131. Ayn\u0131 fikirde olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda bile birbirimizle empati kurmaya daha istekliyiz \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc kalplerimiz Tanr\u0131'yla bireysel olarak vakit ge\u00e7irerek yumu\u015fam\u0131\u015f durumda. Evlilikte O'na daha da fazla ihtiya\u00e7 duyaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 bilerek, bek\u00e2rl\u0131k d\u00f6neminde Tanr\u0131'y\u0131 \u00f6n planda tutun.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-set-boundaries-with-each-other\">Birbirinize S\u0131n\u0131rlar Koyun<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ol start=\"2\" class=\"wp-block-list\"><\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p>S\u0131n\u0131rlar evlendikten sonra ortadan kalkmaz. De\u011fi\u015febilirler, ancak yemin ettikten sonra bile \u00f6nemli olmaya devam ederler. Evlilikte sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 s\u0131n\u0131rlara baz\u0131 \u00f6rnekler nelerdir? Kocamla benim uygulad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z s\u0131n\u0131rlardan biri, baz\u0131 konular\u0131 arkada\u015flar\u0131m\u0131zla ya da ailemizle tart\u0131\u015fmamak. Baz\u0131 konu\u015fmalar sadece bizim i\u00e7indir ve ba\u015fkalar\u0131yla payla\u015f\u0131lmamal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bu demek de\u011fil ki <a href=\"https:\/\/nrb.ttm.mybluehost.me\/tr\/hesap-verebi%cc%87li%cc%87rli%cc%87k-i%cc%87le-tanisma\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">kendimizi izole etmek veya hesap verebilirlikten yoksun olmak<\/a>Ancak baz\u0131 hassas konular\u0131n aram\u0131zda kalmas\u0131 gerekti\u011finin de fark\u0131nday\u0131z. Ayr\u0131ca, kesinlikle gerekli olmad\u0131k\u00e7a anla\u015fmazl\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 ba\u015fkalar\u0131yla tart\u0131\u015fmaktan ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131yoruz. E\u011fer d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan rehberlik almak istersek, g\u00fcvendi\u011fimiz ve taraf tutmayacak tarafs\u0131z birini se\u00e7meye \u00f6zen g\u00f6steriyoruz. Aksi takdirde, e\u015fim ve ben sorunlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 \u00e7\u00f6zsek bile, arkada\u015flar\u0131m veya ailem e\u015fim hakk\u0131nda olumsuz bir izlenime sahip olabilir ve bu da gereksiz gerginlik yaratabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-the-roles-of-husband-and-wife\">Kar\u0131 ve kocan\u0131n rolleri<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Benim g\u00f6revim kocam\u0131 korumak, onun g\u00f6revi de beni korumakt\u0131r. Bu, sevdiklerimizi hayatlar\u0131m\u0131z hakk\u0131nda kand\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z anlam\u0131na gelmez, aksine evlili\u011fimizi gereksiz \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmalardan veya b\u00f6l\u00fcnmelerden korumaya \u00f6ncelik veririz. Uygulad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bir di\u011fer s\u0131n\u0131r da ayr\u0131 ge\u00e7irdi\u011fimiz zaman\u0131 s\u0131n\u0131rlamakt\u0131r. Her \u00e7iftin ko\u015fullar\u0131 farkl\u0131 olsa da - ister i\u015f ister di\u011fer taahh\u00fctler nedeniyle olsun - \u00e7ok fazla mesafe g\u00fcnaha girme f\u0131rsat\u0131 yaratabilir.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bizim i\u00e7in, herhangi bir ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n iki haftay\u0131 ge\u00e7memesi konusunda anla\u015ft\u0131k. E\u011fer daha uzun s\u00fcre ayr\u0131 kalmak ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131lmazsa, birbirimizi ziyaret etmenin yollar\u0131n\u0131 tart\u0131\u015f\u0131yoruz. Baz\u0131lar\u0131 bu d\u00fczeyde bir \u00f6nlemin gereksiz oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnebilir, ancak d\u00fc\u015fman kurnazd\u0131r ve masum durumlar\u0131 bile b\u00f6l\u00fcnmeye neden olmak i\u00e7in kullanacakt\u0131r. Uyan\u0131k olun ve evlili\u011finizde bunun olmas\u0131na izin vermeyin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"768\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/nrb.ttm.mybluehost.me\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/01\/maja-mundt-dupe-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"grafiti duvar\u0131na bakan evli \u00e7ift\" class=\"wp-image-2174\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nrb.ttm.mybluehost.me\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/01\/maja-mundt-dupe-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/nrb.ttm.mybluehost.me\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/01\/maja-mundt-dupe-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/nrb.ttm.mybluehost.me\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/01\/maja-mundt-dupe-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/nrb.ttm.mybluehost.me\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/01\/maja-mundt-dupe-1536x2048.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/nrb.ttm.mybluehost.me\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/01\/maja-mundt-dupe-9x12.jpg 9w, https:\/\/nrb.ttm.mybluehost.me\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/01\/maja-mundt-dupe-scaled.jpg 1920w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-communicate-openly-and-honestly\">A\u00e7\u0131k ve D\u00fcr\u00fcst \u0130leti\u015fim Kurun<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ol start=\"3\" class=\"wp-block-list\"><\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p>Muhtemelen bunu daha \u00f6nce duymu\u015fsunuzdur-ileti\u015fim her ili\u015fkide, \u00f6zellikle de evlilikte \u00e7ok \u00f6nemlidir. E\u015finizin ipu\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 yakalamas\u0131 g\u00fczel olsa da, zihninizi okumak onlar\u0131n i\u015fi de\u011fildir. Ne d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc ya da hissetti\u011finizi otomatik olarak bilemezler. Baz\u0131lar\u0131 i\u00e7in duygular\u0131n\u0131 ifade etmenin zor olabilece\u011fini anl\u0131yorum, ancak \u00e7aba sarf etmek e\u015finizin sizden haberdar olmas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flamak i\u00e7in uzun bir yol kat eder.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0130leti\u015fim kurarken ama\u00e7 tart\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 kazanmak de\u011fil, her ikinizin de hemfikir oldu\u011fu bir \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm bulmak olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Evlilikte d\u00fcr\u00fcstl\u00fck esast\u0131r, ancak ger\u00e7ekler k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmseyici veya sayg\u0131s\u0131z olmadan da s\u00f6ylenebilir. O an\u0131n s\u0131cakl\u0131\u011f\u0131yla duygular\u0131 y\u00f6netmek her zaman kolay de\u011fildir, ancak daha sonra pi\u015fman olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z ve d\u00fczeltmek zorunda kalaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z bir \u015fey s\u00f6ylemekten ka\u00e7\u0131nmak gerekir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-how-you-speak-matters\">Nas\u0131l konu\u015ftu\u011funuz \u00f6nemlidir<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Piskopos T.D. Jakes'in bu s\u00f6z\u00fcne bay\u0131l\u0131yorum: \"Sald\u0131rgan olmadan konu\u015fun. Savunmaya ge\u00e7meden dinleyin.\" \u0130nsanlar\u0131n kolayca k\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir d\u00fcnyada, e\u015fimizin sald\u0131r\u0131ya u\u011framak yerine dinlendi\u011fini hissetmesine yard\u0131mc\u0131 olacak \u015fekilde ileti\u015fim kurmay\u0131 se\u00e7ebiliriz. \"Bunu hep yap\u0131yorsun\" demek yerine, \"Bunu yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda kendimi b\u00f6yle hissettim\" demeyi deneyin. E\u015finizi sorun haline getirmeye de\u011fil, soruna odaklanmaya devam edin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>E\u015finiz sizin d\u00fc\u015fman\u0131n\u0131z de\u011fil, tak\u0131m arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131zd\u0131r ve birlikte evlili\u011finizi g\u00fc\u00e7lendirmek i\u00e7in \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yorsunuz. Savunmas\u0131zl\u0131k kolay de\u011fildir - g\u00fcvensizli\u011finizi a\u00e7\u0131klamak korkutucu gelebilir. Ancak, yak\u0131nla\u015fmak istiyorsan\u0131z, Tanr\u0131'dan bu korkular\u0131 bir kenara b\u0131rakman\u0131za yard\u0131m etmesini isteyin, b\u00f6ylece istemeden mesafe yaratmazs\u0131n\u0131z. G\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir evlilik, kar\u0131 koca olarak ikinizin birlikte b\u00fcy\u00fcmesini gerektirir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-focus-on-your-spouse-s-needs\">E\u015finizin \u0130htiya\u00e7lar\u0131na Odaklan\u0131n<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ol start=\"4\" class=\"wp-block-list\"><\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0130nsanlar olarak, do\u011fal olarak \u00f6nce kendimizi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeye meyilliyiz, bu da bazen ba\u015fkalar\u0131na \u00f6ncelik vermeyi zorla\u015ft\u0131rabilir. Bir\u00e7ok evlilik, e\u015flerden birinin ya da her ikisinin de e\u015flerinin ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6z \u00f6n\u00fcnde bulundurmak yerine \u00f6ncelikle kendi ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131na odaklanmalar\u0131 nedeniyle zarar g\u00f6r\u00fcr. \u00d6rne\u011fin, kocas\u0131 i\u015ften eve geldi\u011finde ve hemen \"Ak\u015fam yeme\u011finde ne var?\" diye sordu\u011funda bir kad\u0131n kendini takdir edilmemi\u015f hissedebilir. Kad\u0131n \u015f\u00f6yle d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnebilir, <em>Peki ya ben? Ben de b\u00fct\u00fcn g\u00fcn \u00e7ok \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131m.<\/em> Fark\u0131nda olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u015fey, kocas\u0131n\u0131n da uzun ve yorucu bir g\u00fcn ge\u00e7irmi\u015f oldu\u011fu ve sadece eve gelip ev yap\u0131m\u0131 bir yemek yemek istedi\u011fidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bu durum, ileti\u015fimle ilgili bir \u00f6nceki noktayla ba\u011flant\u0131l\u0131d\u0131r. Kocas\u0131 eve gelmeden \u00f6nce basit bir mesaj g\u00f6nderebilir: <em>Hey bebe\u011fim, eminim ikimiz i\u00e7in de uzun bir g\u00fcn olmu\u015ftur. Yemek pi\u015firmek zorunda kalmaman i\u00e7in ak\u015fam yeme\u011fini almam\u0131 ister misin?<\/em> Ayn\u0131 \u015fekilde kar\u0131s\u0131 da onu kap\u0131da kar\u015f\u0131lay\u0131p \u015f\u00f6yle diyebilir, <em>Hey bebe\u011fim, senin i\u00e7in uzun bir g\u00fcn oldu\u011funu biliyorum, ama benim i\u00e7in de uzun bir g\u00fcn oldu. Bu ak\u015fam yemek yapmak yerine d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan sipari\u015f versek sorun olur mu?<\/em> E\u015flerden hi\u00e7biri yorgun hissetmekte ya da ara vermeye ihtiya\u00e7 duymakta haks\u0131z de\u011fildir. Ancak a\u00e7\u0131k bir \u015fekilde ileti\u015fim kurarak birbirlerini kabul etme ve destekleme f\u0131rsat\u0131 yarat\u0131rlar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-putting-the-other-first\">Di\u011ferini ilk s\u0131raya koymak<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Bir\u00e7ok \u00e7iftin fark\u0131na varamad\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u015fey, e\u015flerinin ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131na odakland\u0131klar\u0131nda, kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131nda genellikle kendi ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131n da kar\u015f\u0131lanaca\u011f\u0131d\u0131r. Uzun bir g\u00fcn\u00fcn ard\u0131ndan, can\u0131m istemese bile, s\u0131rf hayat\u0131n o d\u00f6neminde yap\u0131lmas\u0131 gerekenin bu oldu\u011funu bildi\u011fim i\u00e7in ak\u015fam yeme\u011fi pi\u015firdi\u011fim zamanlar oldu. Kocam yeni bir i\u015fe girmeden \u00f6nce, ikimiz i\u00e7in yemek pi\u015firmek de dahil olmak \u00fczere ev i\u015flerine kat\u0131l\u0131rd\u0131. Hatta aram\u0131zda konu\u015fulmayan bir kural bile vard\u0131: Ben yemek yaparsam o da temizlik yapard\u0131, ya da tam tersi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Her zaman do\u011fru yapam\u0131yoruz ama ikimiz de birbirimizin y\u00fck\u00fcn\u00fc hafifletmek i\u00e7in \u00e7aba sarf ediyoruz. Benim i\u00e7in, ben yemek yapt\u0131ktan sonra \u00e7\u00f6p\u00fc d\u0131\u015far\u0131 \u00e7\u0131karmas\u0131 ve bula\u015f\u0131klar\u0131 y\u0131kamas\u0131 yard\u0131mc\u0131 oluyor. Onun i\u00e7in, sabah i\u015fe gitmeden \u00f6nce \u00e7antas\u0131n\u0131 haz\u0131rlamas\u0131na yard\u0131m etti\u011fim zamand\u0131r. \u0130kimiz de <em>var<\/em> Ancak k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck davran\u0131\u015flar, birbirimizin g\u00f6r\u00fcld\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc, duyuldu\u011funu ve de\u011fer verildi\u011fini hissetmesine yard\u0131mc\u0131 olma konusunda b\u00fcy\u00fck bir fark yarat\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-practice-forgiveness-regularly\">D\u00fczenli Olarak Ba\u011f\u0131\u015flama Prati\u011fi Yap\u0131n<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ol start=\"5\" class=\"wp-block-list\"><\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p>Bir keresinde bir papaz\u0131n \u015f\u00f6yle dedi\u011fini duymu\u015ftum: \"E\u011fer bekarken affetmekte zorlan\u0131yorsan\u0131z, evlendi\u011finizde de zorlanacaks\u0131n\u0131z demektir.\" Daha \u00f6nce de belirtildi\u011fi gibi, e\u015finiz kusurlar\u0131 olan bir insand\u0131r. Ondan m\u00fckemmellik beklerseniz, derin bir hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na u\u011frars\u0131n\u0131z. E\u015finiz her zaman do\u011fru \u015feyi s\u00f6ylemeyecektir. Anlamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z \u015feyler yapacakt\u0131r. Olaylar\u0131 her zaman ayn\u0131 \u015fekilde g\u00f6rmeyeceksiniz. Fl\u00f6rt ederken sizi e\u015finize \u00e7eken \u015fey, evlilikte sizi rahats\u0131z eden \u015fey haline gelebilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>E\u015finizin hata yapaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 kabul etmek, zorluklar ortaya \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda akl\u0131n\u0131zda tutman\u0131z gereken bir \u015feydir. E\u015finizi ne s\u0131kl\u0131kla affetmelisiniz? Bu sorunun yan\u0131t\u0131 \u0130sa'n\u0131n Petrus'a \"Karde\u015fimi ka\u00e7 kez ba\u011f\u0131\u015flamal\u0131y\u0131m?\" diye sordu\u011funda s\u00f6ylediklerine dayan\u0131r. \u0130sa \"Yetmi\u015f kere yedi\" diye yan\u0131tlam\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Cennetteki Baban\u0131z\u0131n sizi ba\u011f\u0131\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131 gibi, siz de ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131, \u00f6zellikle de e\u015finizi s\u0131n\u0131rs\u0131zca ba\u011f\u0131\u015flamal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bu, k\u00f6t\u00fc ya da zehirli davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 mazur g\u00f6stermez. Aksine, Tanr\u0131'dan l\u00fctuf ald\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z gibi, ayn\u0131 l\u00fctfu e\u015fimize de \u00f6zg\u00fcrce sunmam\u0131z gerekti\u011fi anlam\u0131na gelir. Evlilik, Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n bizi sevdi\u011fi gibi ko\u015fulsuz sevmeyi bize \u00f6\u011fretmesinin bir yoludur. Bir dahaki sefere kin tutmaya kalk\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda, Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n size ne kadar \u00e7ok \u015fans verdi\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn. Bu, e\u015finizin yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 ya da s\u00f6yledi\u011fi \u015feyin do\u011fru oldu\u011fu anlam\u0131na gelmez ve evet, incinmi\u015f ya da k\u0131zg\u0131n hissetmeye hakk\u0131n\u0131z var. Ancak bu, \u0130sa'n\u0131n \u00e7arm\u0131htayken bile bizi ba\u011f\u0131\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ger\u00e7e\u011fini de\u011fi\u015ftirmez. Bo\u011fulurken, \"Baba, onlar\u0131 ba\u011f\u0131\u015fla, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc ne yapt\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 bilmiyorlar\" dedi. Bu ne kadar g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir s\u00f6z?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-how-your-desires-are-met\">Arzular\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n nas\u0131l kar\u015f\u0131land\u0131\u011f\u0131<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Evlili\u011finizde istedi\u011finiz her \u015feyi elde edemezsiniz. Tekrar s\u00f6yl\u00fcyorum, e\u015finiz sizi tamamlamak i\u00e7in burada de\u011fildir; onlar <em>m\u00fckemmel<\/em> Sen. \u0130ncil'de, <em>m\u00fckemmel<\/em> kusursuz demek de\u011fildir; olgun demektir. E\u015finiz Mesih'te b\u00fcy\u00fcmenize yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmak i\u00e7in vard\u0131r. Buna duymak istemeyebilece\u011finiz \u015feyleri s\u00f6ylemek de dahildir. Kolayca k\u0131r\u0131l\u0131r ve affetmeye isteksiz olursan\u0131z, bu evlili\u011finizde sadece s\u00fcrt\u00fc\u015fme yaratacakt\u0131r. Affetmenin en iyi yolu, su\u00e7 ger\u00e7ekle\u015fir ger\u00e7ekle\u015fmez bunu yapmakt\u0131r. K\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n alevlenmesine izin vermeyin; e\u015finizi Rab'be teslim edin. Onlar haks\u0131z olabilir, siz de hakl\u0131 olabilirsiniz ama s\u0131rf kendinizi kan\u0131tlamak i\u00e7in durumu daha da k\u00f6t\u00fcle\u015ftirmek Tanr\u0131'y\u0131 onurland\u0131rmaz. Affedildi\u011finiz gibi affedin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Baz\u0131 evlilikler -H\u0131ristiyanlar aras\u0131nda bile- ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z olsa da, bu Tanr\u0131'n\u0131n art\u0131k insanlar\u0131 bir araya getirmedi\u011fi anlam\u0131na gelmez. Evlili\u011finizi Rab'be aday\u0131n ve O'ndan ba\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 g\u00fc\u00e7lendirmesini isteyin. Her ikiniz de hastal\u0131kta ve sa\u011fl\u0131kta, zenginlikte ve fakirlikte, \u00f6l\u00fcm sizi ay\u0131rana kadar yeminlerinizi tutmaya kararl\u0131 olmal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z. Hi\u00e7bir \u015feyin sizi ay\u0131rmamas\u0131 i\u00e7in evlili\u011finizi d\u00fc\u015fmandan koruyun. Bu sadece irade g\u00fcc\u00fcyle de\u011fil, Kutsal Ruh'un her ikinizin de i\u00e7inde \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131yla ba\u015far\u0131lacakt\u0131r. Evlili\u011finiz Tanr\u0131 i\u00e7in \u00f6nemlidir, bu nedenle O'nu merkezde tuttu\u011funuzdan emin olun.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 bir evlilik kurmak i\u00e7in gereken her \u015feye sahipsiniz. Sevgi, ne\u015fe ve dostlukla dolu, ama en \u00f6nemlisi Tanr\u0131'ya y\u00fccelik getiren ve bu karanl\u0131k d\u00fcnyada bir \u0131\u015f\u0131k olarak parlayan bir evlilik.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>E\u011fer ni\u015fanl\u0131 ya da evli de\u011filseniz ve inan\u0131lmaz biriyle tan\u0131\u015fmaya haz\u0131rsan\u0131z <a href=\"https:\/\/onelink.to\/websiteurl\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Hristiyan bekarlar<\/a>SALT uygulamas\u0131n\u0131 bug\u00fcn indirin!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>This blog post helps married or engaged Christian couples to put the wisdom from Proverbs 4:23 into practice. TL:DR: The Summary When we hear the phrase \u201cguard your heart,\u201d we often think about Christian singles and those dating in hopes of meeting their future spouse. But what about those who are married? 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