{"id":3148,"date":"2026-01-08T12:00:16","date_gmt":"2026-01-08T12:00:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/nrb.ttm.mybluehost.me\/?p=3148"},"modified":"2026-03-05T11:15:52","modified_gmt":"2026-03-05T11:15:52","slug":"dont-fancy-jih-takoj","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nrb.ttm.mybluehost.me\/sl\/dont-fancy-them-straight-away\/","title":{"rendered":"Ali lahko privla\u010dnost gradi: Kaj pa, \u010de mi niso takoj v\u0161e\u010d?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cKaj pa, \u010de mi ne bodo takoj v\u0161e\u010d?\u201d To skrbi mnoge kr\u0161\u010danske samske, saj svet tako zelo poudarja privla\u010dnost, iskrice in kemijo. Predvidevamo, da \u010de nas ne bo osupnil, kot je Matthew McConaughey osupnil Jennifer Lopez v filmu <em>Na\u010drtovalec porok<\/em>, potem to ni prava ljubezen. Ali \u010de se mo\u0161ki ne ustavi, ko vidi \u017eensko, ki hodi po ulici z vetrom v laseh in svetlim nasmehom, potem najbr\u017e ni vredna njegovega \u010dasa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tukaj je zgodba o zakonskem paru, ki ni za\u010dutil za\u010detne iskrice:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Tvegala sta na zmenku na slepo\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/AA4yfFPhRuo?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-where-christians-go-wrong\">Kje se kristjani motijo<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Medtem ko <a href=\"https:\/\/www.be-salt.com\/\">aplikacije za zmenke pomagajo kr\u0161\u010danskim samskim spoznati<\/a> ljudi iz razli\u010dnih delov sveta, se pogosto daje prevelik poudarek videzu. \u010ce vam niso takoj v\u0161e\u010d, podrsajte levo. Pri tistih, ki se vendarle odlo\u010dijo za prvi zmenek, je pritisk na to sre\u010danje zelo velik. Pri\u010dakujejo metulj\u010dke in zvezde, ki ple\u0161ejo v njihovih o\u010deh. \u010ce na prvem zmenku ne dobijo potrditve, da je to njihov zakonec, ga obravnavajo kot izgubljen primer. Mnogi kr\u0161\u010danski samski se bojijo, da bodo izgubljali \u010das z zmenki z \u201cnapa\u010dno osebo\u201d, \u010de ne bodo takoj vedeli, ali je nekdo pravi zanje. Ne zavedajo pa se, da Bog zna odkupiti \u010das, tudi ko mislimo, da je nekaj za vedno izgubljeno.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Obstaja \u0161e ena skupina kr\u0161\u010danskih samskih, ki se bojijo, da bodo morali biti z nekom, ki jim v resnici ni v\u0161e\u010d ali jih ne privla\u010di. Ob toliko govora o namenu in poklicanosti mnogi verjamejo, da Bogu ni mar za kemijo. Zaradi tega nauka se bojijo poro\u010diti z nekom, s katerim sploh ne u\u017eivajo. Predstavljajo si zakon, v katerem se iz dneva v dan po\u010dutijo bedno, a dokler je Bo\u017eja volja izpolnjena, jim je re\u010deno, da je vredno \u017ertvovati zabavo in kemijo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-my-story\">Moja zgodba<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Ko sva se z mo\u017eem prvi\u010d za\u010dela videoklepetati prek Zooma, se mi ni takoj zaiskrilo. Ne da me ne bi privla\u010dil, vendar sem se odlo\u010dila, da namerno upo\u010dasnim, da se ne bi prehitro \u010dustveno navezala. To napako sem \u017ee enkrat naredila, in ker sem se prepustila \u010dustvom, so ta zameglila mojo presojo in mi prepre\u010dila, da bi osebo resni\u010dno spoznala. Ko sva se z mo\u017eem za\u010dela pogovarjati, sem sprejela stavek: \u201cEn dan za drugim. En pogovor naenkrat.\u201d \u010ceprav nisem takoj za\u010dutila iskrice, so se moja \u010dustva do njega s\u010dasoma zdravo razvijala. Zdaj, skoraj pet let pozneje, je moj mo\u017e postal bistveni del mojega \u017eivljenja.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-slow-down\">Upo\u010dasni se<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Kot smo \u017ee omenili, se \u0161tevilni kr\u0161\u010danski samski bojijo, da bodo zapravljali \u010das z napa\u010dno osebo, \u010de jim ne bo v\u0161e\u010d od samega za\u010detka. Vendar vsakega od njih pozivam, naj preprosto upo\u010dasni korak. Tudi \u010de oseba ni va\u0161 zakonec, to \u0161e ne pomeni, da ni neverjetna oseba, ki ljubi Gospoda. Ni vsakomur, ki ga sre\u010date, namenjeno, da postane va\u0161 zakonec.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0160e enkrat poudarjam, da se moramo kot verniki spomniti, da Bog skrbi za vsako podrobnost na\u0161ega \u017eivljenja. Zlahka si predstavljamo Boga dale\u010d stran na njegovem prestolu v nebesih in pozabljamo, da je njegov Duh z nami vsak dan. On ve, kaj nam je v\u0161e\u010d in kaj ne. Pozna na\u0161o osebnost in ve, s kom se bomo najbolje povezali. \u010ce to ve, zakaj ne bi upo\u0161teval tega v zvezi z vami in va\u0161im morebitnim zakonom? Da, Bog \u017eeli poslu\u0161nost in svetost. \u017deli, da ste v skladu z njegovim namenom in voljo. Vendar pa je zmotno misliti, da Bogu sploh ni mar za va\u0161o sre\u010do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-what-do-single-christians-think\">Kaj menijo samski kristjani?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Ta pogovor smo prenesli v <a href=\"https:\/\/www.be-salt.com\/social\">Dru\u017ebena skupnost SALT<\/a> da bi videli, kaj so povedali. Ko boste brali njihova spoznanja, si oglejte svoje \u017eivljenje na zmenkih. Seveda ni nobenega pravila, kako ravnati, vendar lahko drug od drugega \u010drpamo modrosti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kaj storite, \u010de si jih ne \u017eelite takoj? Kaj \u010de je prvi zmenek neroden zaradi nervoze - tvoje ali njegove? Ali bi morali osebi dati \u0161e eno prilo\u017enost ali jo odpisati, ker \u010dustva niso bila takoj\u0161nja? Zaradi romanti\u010dnih filmov mislimo, da mora biti ljubezen takoj\u0161nja. Kaj pa, \u010de ljubezen gori po\u010dasi? To ne pomeni, da bi morali prisiliti nekoga v \u010dustva ali si jih ustvariti. To ni po\u0161teno. \u010ce po tem, ko ste si vzeli \u010das, da jo spoznate, resni\u010dno ne vidite prihodnosti z njo, prijazno odidite in pustite osebo bolj\u0161o, kot ste jo na\u0161li.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Vem, kako je pri\u010darati \u010dustva do nekoga. To sem storila zaradi slabe presoje, ko nisem imela pravih mo\u017enosti, in ker mi je ta fant namenjal pozornost, sem se odlo\u010dila, da se s tem strinjam. To se je kon\u010dalo tako, da sem si \u0161kodovala, ker nisem bila iskrena do druge osebe. Pri kr\u0161\u010danskih zmenkih se to ne bi smelo zgoditi. V procesu moramo biti transparentni, da nikogar ne zapeljemo ali mu damo misliti, da nam je v\u0161e\u010d, \u010deprav nam v resnici ni.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-don-t-fancy-them-straight-away\">Ne zanimajo vas takoj?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cV\u010dasih so lahko ljudje nervozni ali srame\u017eljivi, zato jim vedno ponudite drugo prilo\u017enost in drugi zmenek. \u010ce pa se vrednote\/morali na 1. zmenku med pogovorom ne ujemajo, 2. zmenek ni potreben.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-karl\">Karl<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cFizi\u010dna privla\u010dnost nikoli ni pomembna dolgoro\u010dno, lahko pa vpliva na za\u010detne ob\u010dutke. Vzemite si \u010das, da se nau\u010dite, kak\u0161na je osebnost osebe. Dokler imata dovolj skupnega, da se med njima vzpostavi vsaj prijateljstvo, je vredno poskusiti na drugem zmenku. V\u010dasih je potreben \u010das, da se vzpostavi \u010dustvena povezanost za razmerje.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-candy\">Candy<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cV\u010dasih se ob\u010dutki ne pojavijo takoj, ampak se s\u010dasoma okrepijo. Moje splo\u0161no pravilo je, da bodite iskreni glede tega, kako se stvari odvijajo, in sporo\u010dite, \u010de se do konca tretjega dneva preprosto ne zgodi, da boste spo\u0161tovali tudi njihov \u010das.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-leoni\">Leoni<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cPrvi\u010d bi moralo obstajati nekaj vite\u0161kega vedenja, prijaznosti ali ob\u010dutka, ki bi te zadr\u017eal. Prvi vtis je pomemben. Izakov slu\u017eabnik je ob prvem sre\u010danju iskal uslu\u017eno damo. Stvari sem kon\u010dal na podlagi postavljanja pravih vpra\u0161anj ali popolnoma brez vite\u0161kega vedenja.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-kayla\">Kayla<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cMislim, da je to odvisno od tega, kaj vam je pri neki osebi privla\u010dno. Zame so to inteligenca, prijaznost, so\u010dutje in to, kako se obna\u0161ajo in ravnajo z drugimi. Ni pomembno, kako dobro so videti, saj zunanji videz ne prika\u017ee njihove osebnosti in tega, kako bodo ravnali z mano. Zato je zame potrebno ve\u010d kot eno sre\u010danje, da ugotovim, ali mi je nekdo \u2018v\u0161e\u010d\u2019.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-theresa\">Theresa<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cTo je odli\u010dno vpra\u0161anje! Osebno menim, da lahko privla\u010dnost v\u010dasih s\u010dasoma naraste, zlasti \u010de obstaja pristna povezava in dober pogovor. \u010ce bi u\u017eivala v njuni dru\u017ebi in \u010dutila iskrico radovednosti, bi bila odprta za drugi zmenek, da bi videla, ali se \u010dustva razvijejo. \u010ce pa se mi res zdi, da ni nobenega romanti\u010dnega potenciala, bi bil verjetno iskren in predlagal, da ostaneta prijatelja. Mislim, da je to odvisno od tega, ali \u010dutim kak\u0161no mo\u017enost za kaj ve\u010d ali pa gre le za prijetno prijateljsko vibracijo.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-lucas\">Lucas<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cPred leti sem sli\u0161al pridigo Grega Laurieja in rekel je, da je treba na kateri koli to\u010dki, ko ste z nekom, \u010de je to en datum, en teden ali eno leto... in veste ali vam Bog poka\u017ee, da to ni va\u0161a oseba, to kon\u010dati... in tukaj je kiker... rekel je: \u201c... zakaj bi \u017eeleli \u0161e naprej hoditi z bodo\u010dim zakoncem nekoga drugega?!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-greg\">Greg<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cDo neke mere se strinjam z Gregom, vendar tudi po prvem zmenku ali video klicu verjetno \u0161e vedno komaj poznate osebo ali ali se z vami dobro ujema, razen o\u010ditnih zna\u010dajskih napak ali nasprotnih svetovnih nazorov in vrednot (ni zdravo prezgodaj deliti ranljivosti). .... Bolj se strinjam s pravilom treh zmenkov in idealom, da najprej prijatelji posku\u0161amo spoznati njihovo srce bolj kot okoli\u0161\u010dine in jim dati vedeti, da jih ne boste zavrgli na podlagi prvega vtisa.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-jason\">Jason<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-give-it-time\">Dajte mu \u010das<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Na podlagi teh pripomb menim, da je soglasje, da je treba dati vsaj 2-3 datume. Tako boste osebi, ki vam na za\u010detku ni v\u0161e\u010d, dali \u0161e eno prilo\u017enost. Strinjam se s tem pristopom, saj s tem na nek na\u010din drugi osebi podalj\u0161ujete milost. \u010ce vas na prvem zmenku ni navdu\u0161ila, ji s tem, ko ji daste \u0161e eno prilo\u017enost, daste vedeti, da je vredna pre\u017eivljanja \u010dasa z vami in da jo cenite - tudi \u010de stvari ne preidejo v resno razmerje. To si na koncu dneva vsi \u017eelimo. Vsi si \u017eelimo, da bi se po\u010dutili videni s strani nekoga drugega.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u010ce po drugem ali celo tretjem zmenku ne vidite mo\u017enosti za nadaljevanje, to vljudno sporo\u010dite drugi osebi, da bo o tem obve\u0161\u010dena. To ni \u010das za prepri\u010devanje, da morate biti z njo samo zato, ker ne \u017eelite biti ve\u010d sami. To ni po\u0161teno do nje in tudi do vas ne. Spomnim se zgodbe o Davidu, ko je bil prerok Samuel poslan, da bi poiskal novega kralja. Gledal je Davidove starej\u0161e brate in domneval, da bo Bog zaradi njihovega videza samodejno izbral enega od njih, da bo po kralju Savlu vodil Izrael. Vendar je Bog Samuela popravil in ga opomnil, da \u010dlovek gleda na zunanji videz, Bog pa na srce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-look-at-the-heart\">Poglej srce<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Ali lahko v dana\u0161njem svetu zmenkov kot kristjani iskreno re\u010demo, da resni\u010dno gledamo v srce ljudi? Ali gremo dlje od tega, ali so nam v\u0161e\u010d, in upo\u0161tevamo njihov zna\u010daj? Obstaja <a href=\"https:\/\/nrb.ttm.mybluehost.me\/sl\/ali-je-fizicna-privlacnost-pomembna-v-krscanskih-odnosih\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">ni\u010d narobe s privla\u010dnostjo<\/a>-To je pomembno, vendar to, kako ste videti pri 21 letih, ne bo enako pri 81 letih. Na \u017ealost se je v kr\u0161\u010dansko cerkev prikradlo veliko povr\u0161inskih na\u010del zmenkovanja v svetu. Ve\u010dina kr\u0161\u010danskih samskih se tega ne zaveda, a \u010de bi naredili korak nazaj, bi verjetno videli, da mnoge njihove preference dolgoro\u010dno niso pomembne.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u010ce vam ne bodo takoj v\u0161e\u010d, jim dajte \u0161e en ali dva zmenka. Morda boste presene\u010deni, kako neverjetni so v resnici, tudi \u010de bosta na koncu \u0161la vsak svojo pot. Nikoli ne bom pozabil zgodbe o mladeni\u010du in \u017eenski, ki sta \u0161la na zmenek. S\u010dasoma sta ugotovila, da jima ne bo \u0161lo. Nekaj let pozneje se je \u017eenska poro\u010dila, in ko je sre\u010dala mo\u0161kega, s katerim je neko\u010d hodila, je bila presene\u010dena, ko je videla, kako iskreno je bil vesel zanjo. Rekel je celo: \u201cVesel sem, da se nama ni iz\u0161lo, saj ne bi nikoli spoznala svojega mo\u017ea, ki je \u010dudovit \u010dlovek.\u201d Za to je treba biti zelo zrel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-be-ok-with-rejection\">Sprijaznite se z zavrnitvijo<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Veliko kr\u0161\u010danskih samskih jemlje zavrnitev tako osebno, da ko se nekdo preseli, to razumemo kot svoj neuspeh - da nas ni izbral. Toda pri zmenkih in poroki ne gre za to, da nas nekdo izbere. Kot kristjani gre za to, da sklenemo zavezo z zakoncem, da bi se v vajinem zakonu videla Jezusova lu\u010d. Da, tu sta zabava in romantika, vendar to ni glavni namen vajine zveze. Va\u0161i prijatelji, va\u0161a dru\u017eina in svet morajo biti sposobni pogledati na vajin zakon in jasno videti, da vaju je dal skupaj Bog.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kaj pa vi? Ali se spomnite na nekoga, ki mu morate dati \u0161e eno prilo\u017enost? \u010ce je tako, poskusite in poglejte, kaj se bo zgodilo. Ni\u010d slab\u0161e vam ne bo, kot vam je zdaj. \u010cas je, da svoja \u017eivljenja na zmenkih popolnoma prepustimo Gospodu in mu zaupamo izid. Bog ve, kako napisati najbolj\u0161e ljubezenske zgodbe, zato mu dovolite, da napi\u0161e tudi va\u0161o. Ni se vam treba bati, zlasti \u010de mu sledite in mu \u017eelite ugajati s svojim ljubezenskim \u017eivljenjem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-salt-social\">Dru\u017eabno omre\u017eje SALT<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>\u017delite prispevati svoje podatke? Se \u017eelite pridru\u017eiti naslednjemu pogovoru? Dru\u017eabni center SALT je pravi kraj za to! To je prostor za <a href=\"https:\/\/onelink.to\/websiteurl\">Kr\u0161\u010danski samski za povezovanje<\/a> na zabaven na\u010din, ki pa je osredoto\u010den na kraljestvo. Vpra\u0161ajte za nasvet glede odnosov, delite pesem za bogoslu\u017eje ali objavite fotografijo svojega najljub\u0161ega po\u010ditni\u0161kega kraja. Na svoji samski poti niste sami, tudi \u010de se vam v\u010dasih tako zdi. Obstaja veliko <a href=\"https:\/\/www.be-salt.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">neverjetni kr\u0161\u010danski samski mo\u0161ki<\/a> in \u017eenske, ki so vam pripravljeni stati ob strani ter vam pomagati pri vzpostavljanju prijateljstev in skupnosti. In kdo ve - morda boste na tej poti spoznali nekoga posebnega.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Postanite del naslednje vro\u010de teme na dru\u017ebenih omre\u017ejih z <a href=\"https:\/\/onelink.to\/websiteurl\">prenos aplikacije SALT<\/a> \u0161e danes, da tega ne zamudite.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cWhat if I don\u2019t fancy them right away?\u201d This is a concern for many Christian singles since the world puts so much emphasis on attraction, sparks, and chemistry. We assume if he doesn\u2019t sweep us off our feet like Matthew McConaughey did Jennifer Lopez in The Wedding Planner, then it\u2019s not real love. 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